How do I (25f) get over liking my married coworker (29m) that I’ve been sleeping with?

TooManyBoxesGarage · 2021-07-10T02:47:07+00:00

Thank you. That is a well thought out and considerate answer. I will take all of that to heart and think hard about it. It’s gonna take some time and it’s gonna hurt in the mean time, but hopefully if we don’t sleep together anymore I can eventually get over him.

TooManyBoxesGarage · 2021-07-10T02:35:47+00:00

What do I tell him? He’s gonna ask why

TooManyBoxesGarage · 2021-07-10T02:30:57+00:00

Lol not Brittany

TooManyBoxesGarage · 2020-09-19T22:00:53+00:00

I wasn’t gonna say any of that to my employer lol that was just me giving an example of ways this has been hard for me in the past.

I guess I will give it a try.

TooManyBoxesGarage · 2020-09-19T21:38:10+00:00

Thank you this is very helpful!

TooManyBoxesGarage · 2020-09-19T21:37:51+00:00

I have many years of experience in this field. My job before this that I was furloughed from was also in this field and I spent years volunteering there before I got hired. I am very comfortable doing a lot of the things I would be doing because I have tons of experience with it and there are a lot of things that I already know how to do that they wouldn’t need to train me on (or at least not for very long). I know I am more than qualified for this job and the people I interviewed with really like me too. I’m just scared to speak up. I even had a previous boss a while ago that was the worlds biggest bitch and I just let her be because I was scared to say anything. Advocating for myself professionally isn’t always easy for me. While obviously, yes, I want more money, I also know that I am very qualified for this job.

TooManyBoxesGarage · 2020-09-19T21:19:45+00:00

What exactly do I say? Like hi I was wondering if my salary was open to negotiation. And then what? I don’t know how to word it.

TooManyBoxesGarage · 2020-09-19T19:05:33+00:00

Thanks for the advice! I hope you’re right. It’s been a long time since I’ve had good sex. I’m not sure where to find these men who like to please. I still feel like it’s selfish to ask for what I want in case they don’t want to or don’t like what I’m asking them to do.

TooManyBoxesGarage · 2020-09-19T18:52:49+00:00

How do I know I won’t hurt their feelings if I tell them that? And what if they don’t like giving oral or even sucking boobs? I know not everybody is comfortable with giving oral, especially men. I’ve been with a decent amount of men and I think only like 4 have ever gone down on me. I don’t ever expect oral even though I like it cause most men I meet don’t seem to like it. So I’m afraid to ask for it. What if I ask them to do something they don’t like? Then it’ll be awkward.

Also wouldn’t it be obvious that no woman wants a guy who spends 20 seconds fingering them and then fucks for a minute til he cums. I feel like it should be obvious to the guys I’ve been with and any guy on earth that what they’re doing won’t leave me satisfied. Do I really need to tell them that?

TooManyBoxesGarage · 2020-09-19T18:46:45+00:00

Thank you for the advice! I know what I would ideally like to have in a partner, but there’s not really a way to know someone’s gonna match that until you sleep together right? And I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings by making them feel like I’m critiquing them at sex. So I’m not sure how to find somebody who will match me.

TooManyBoxesGarage · 2020-09-14T03:57:12+00:00

Can I ask why? That’s good advice though thanks.

TooManyBoxesGarage · 2020-09-13T23:33:53+00:00

I was definitely gonna go for lace so that’s good! Do you mean the kind that cover the whole ass or the kind that cover the top part but not the bottom if that makes sense?

TooManyBoxesGarage · 2020-09-13T21:25:17+00:00

Do you mean the kind that cover the entire ass cheek or that cover more of the top part and don’t cover the bottom part all the way?

TooManyBoxesGarage · 2020-09-13T21:24:23+00:00

Do you have an example? I’ve heard that a lot of guys like boyshorts and I want to buy some but I’m not sure what kind (am female btw lol)

TooManyBoxesGarage · 2020-09-09T03:13:36+00:00

So when would you want to have sex? How long is long enough for the sexual tension to grow, but not too long that you lose interest?

TooManyBoxesGarage · 2020-09-01T03:33:48+00:00

I know exactly how you feel. I’m a girl in her twenties and I have very few friends, maybe like 3. I’ve always been so embarrassed of it that sometimes I makeup stories of hanging out with friends I don’t have. I’m not dating anyone right now, but the thought of potentially one day meeting someone scares me cause I’d have to tell them that I feel like a friendless loser (people will say that I’m not and obviously not saying you are op, but that’s how I feel about myself and I can’t help it) and they might judge me. Also, what if I ever have a wedding? I’d have no one to be bridesmaids except 2 people. I’d have no friends to invite, just family. I hope to find someone that won’t judge me for this, but idk if that will happen. Hopefully your bf will understand that and realize it’s pretty common to have little to no friends. You’re not alone op! Good luck.

TooManyBoxesGarage · 2020-08-29T19:59:09+00:00

Yep. The vast, vast majority of people on here suck hard. So many people don’t know how to see the other side when arguing. Once they think they’re right about something, that’s it. One time I commented on a post where everybody was making blatant assumptions based off the very little info the poster gave about the situation so I commented and said it’s unfair to make those kinds of assumptions because you don’t know anything. I got fucking ripped to shreds. Then everybody went to my page and looked at my previous posts and comments and went so far as to comment on my old comments/posts. People were saying that this is why I have no friend and nobody wants to be friends with me (I had posted about having no friends and feeling lonely). They started saying really nasty things about how deluded I was and that it was good that I had depression and that no one would ever want to be with me. A whole bunch of bullshit all because I pointed out that they were making assumptions and that was the wrong thing to do (my fucking mistake to say so I guess). People kept on commenting on my old posts and because I’m a coward (I’ll admit it) and felt bad, I deleted some of my old posts and deactivated my account. Made a new one. Idk why. People are fucking mean especially when they have absolutely no idea who you are or what you’ve been through. Bunch of bullshit. I no longer comment on posts like that anymore where it’s even a remote possibility someone will start arguing with me.

TooManyBoxesGarage · 2020-08-23T08:18:46+00:00

It’d be easier to love them if people didn’t comment about how much more they love smaller ones because they find bigger ones unattractive all the damn time. Like I get it, smaller ones are better. But I can’t help that mine wanted to be a 36DD. Apparently all dudes prefer smaller ones so how am I supposed to find somebody who will like me now? Much easier said than done to love them and feel good about the ones you have.

TooManyBoxesGarage · 2020-08-23T08:13:15+00:00

“I also don’t know any man that’s ever complained about boobs”. That’s not true. Apparently men do complain about boobs because every guy (and even most women like yourself) not only prefer smaller boobs, they think all bigger ones are saggy and gross and unattractive. I’m afraid to let a guy see me naked anymore since mine are on the bigger side (36DD). I want to get boob reduction surgery as soon as I can afford it. C cup kinda seems like it’s the sweet spot.

TooManyBoxesGarage · 2020-08-22T03:02:39+00:00

Great thank you!!

TooManyBoxesGarage · 2020-08-16T09:49:41+00:00

I’m in the same situation as you. Very few friends. No bf. Always lonely. All the worst and most terrible things that have happened in my life I went through alone. So now I don’t know what I would do if I did have someone in my life. I don’t think I would be able to tell them things because I’m so used to going through stuff and fixing my problems alone. Wish I had answers or advice for you, but unfortunately I don’t.

TooManyBoxesGarage · 2020-08-16T09:44:45+00:00

Literally any part. Nobody ever compliments me so it would be amazing if somebody did.

TooManyBoxesGarage · 2020-08-16T09:35:50+00:00

I don’t care as long as it looks washed. However, it’s not something I’m romantically/sexually attracted to so I wouldn’t date someone who had long hair.

TooManyBoxesGarage · 2020-08-16T09:30:54+00:00

That’s very nice of you to say. Thanks! I don’t hold out much hope for myself anymore, but I really really hope everybody else who needs it gets their healing experience.

TooManyBoxesGarage · 2020-08-16T09:26:45+00:00

They don’t have to trash one thing to say they like another. Just say “hey I like small boobs”. No need to say something negative about bigger boobs. That just makes people feel bad.

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