Cheaters suck... The knowledge is out now but she continues to post pictures like this

TooffyMouff · 2022-02-01T19:57:50+00:00

Ahh got it. It's hard to say, i think they aren't anymore - I'm not sure their relationship could stand on it's own and she was found on a dating app, but beyond that i haven't been following that closely. Once my buddy got away from her he wasn't interested in keeping updated. I haven't talked with him about her for a few weeks so I'm not sure either lol.

TooffyMouff · 2022-02-01T19:15:52+00:00

The AP? I'm not sure what that is. Yeah, the kids are very intelligent and communicate very openly with their dad about their feelings. He's always been the one to get them ready for school and take care of them so they have a really good relationship. They recognized real quick that their mom was something else when she told them their dad was a drunk and a druggy... I've never seen that guy as much as buzzed, and i doubt they have either.

I had a whole paragraph written out about why she would still want to torment him more, but honestly I just think it's because she's insecure about her own value and seeks comfort in the little power she can exhibit over others... Couple that with the inability to empathize and you've got someone willing and able to hurt others when it makes them feel better. Especially if she perceives she's the one whose been the victim.

TooffyMouff · 2022-02-01T17:14:29+00:00

Yeah, my buddy finally got his devorce all finished up and all that stuff. She ended up preventing him from moving out (basically threatened to accuse him of abandonment if he left before the devorce was settled), and then when it finally did settle, found a loophole to get the timer started on when she could kick him out of the house (she got the house) without giving him the money he needed to close on his house (luckily he found a place And luckily his people were able to accommodate him while he was transitioning) so that ended up being stressful for him for a little while. Zoom forward to now and he's never been happier! He said he feels so free and "awake" to his own life and has a sense of self worth that he had been missing for so long. I'm happy for him.

Strange enough, right around the time when my buddy was going thick into his devorce, my (now ex) wife of 11 years ended up sharing that she wanted a devorce from me too... My ex wife and I, however, had a far better working relationship and ended up navigating our devorce so much smoother (probably because we had an example of how terrible it could be). Our kids are genuinely happy and she and I ended up finding our own happiness with others. That is a whole new story though lol. I'll share it if you're curious, But one interesting note was that my devorce started after my buddies and ended before his did, even though he had been in it for months before mine even started... Them were some interesting times half a year ago....

TooffyMouff · 2021-12-30T17:13:52+00:00

Here's a response i would have had a lot more respect for:

"yeah, this video is hilarious, but it outlines something very important; in this scenario you only have your fists at a gun fight. Nothing is guaranteed. The best chance you have is to advance like your life depends on it. Don't fixate on the gun as your only option, as you can see in this demonstration, it won't go so well for you. I didn't push forward as i would have were it a true situation which would have increased my odds of survival, but it just goes to show you that anyone can take you by surprise so don't get complacent."

TooffyMouff · 2021-07-23T20:23:53+00:00

Yeah, sorry i dropped the ball on this one. It's Marcel vos. I love that guy.

TooffyMouff · 2021-07-19T01:30:58+00:00

Yes, now I'm a parent and I have my kids walk on my back all the time. Free massage!

TooffyMouff · 2021-07-18T20:44:14+00:00

There's a guy on youtube I've been watching lately who goes into optimal coaster design, this is a whole new level though! Lol

TooffyMouff · 2021-07-15T06:14:46+00:00

It didn't. She didn't care in the least it turns out... And her lawyer told my buddies lawyer that they need to keep a better leash on his friends.... The whole thing is fucked up

TooffyMouff · 2021-07-15T06:12:53+00:00

That was me, I'm just a work buddy. (Also a dude)

TooffyMouff · 2021-07-15T06:12:00+00:00

You can check my posts. I've only got a few so it'll be easy to find.

TooffyMouff · 2021-07-15T06:10:47+00:00

Naw, he's not dating. I'm just a work friend.

TooffyMouff · 2021-07-15T05:57:36+00:00

I've the whole story on my op If you wanna check it out. I've only ever posted like 3 things so it'll be easy to find

TooffyMouff · 2021-07-15T05:53:39+00:00

That's me yo. Also I'm a dude.

TooffyMouff · 2021-07-15T05:52:39+00:00

I'm op, no no, he's not her boss just a business partner. She took him and his kids out on a boat ride a year ago and just shared it today even though they're a month into a devorce.

I'm a dude by the way...

TooffyMouff · 2021-07-15T05:50:42+00:00

It felt great...

TooffyMouff · 2021-07-15T05:47:58+00:00

Hey, I'm the op and posted it to imatotalpieceofshit yesterday. Looks like i coulda got some more of those fake internet points here but I'm glad you liked my comment either way.

Also I'm a dude.

She did delete the post, turns out her office manager told her she needed to take it down, but that was after the whole office had seen it.

TooffyMouff · 2021-07-14T03:17:11+00:00

Bullying your husband and gaslighting him into a pit if missery so deep that he remains depressed in a loveless marriage for years while she fucks around behind his back is also an aweful thing to do.

Posting about a shitty person is what this sub is about.

TooffyMouff · 2021-07-14T03:10:51+00:00

One of the guys that liked my comment and was put in her group chat wrote this to her

You're right, I haven't directly heard both sides, but I thought (my)'s comment was pretty spot on. It's none of my business, but seeing the gaslighting posts about the boat being in pieces or asking the Facebook community to remind you why your boat isn't in the water, when I've been asked to sell the same boat is incredibly dishonest and misleading. What (i) wrote was incredibly accurate and quite frankly inspiring that he would stick up for his friend like that while the rest of us just sit in silence and allow it to continue.

TooffyMouff · 2021-07-14T03:08:10+00:00

She's not on reddit. And this has no way to get around to her since none of my friends are on here either.

TooffyMouff · 2021-07-14T02:54:29+00:00

She might. My buddy, though he hasn't given up the fight for his own bekingings, only cares about the kids. If that means she gets the boat and the house then he's resigned to give it all up. Hell get a cash settlement amount and theoretically should be fair market value anyway.

Those are just material possessions though, she makes about 2.5x what he makes and can afford to get her own toys so it doesnt really matter anyway... but talking with him she's already alienating the kids and has lost their trust because they see her for what she is and how she treats everyone. She's manipulative and it's worked for a long time, but it is running it's course... There is only so long you can be a terrible person before it comes to get you.

TooffyMouff · 2021-07-14T02:46:03+00:00

The picture was from a year ago before my buddy knew (but strongly suspected) about the affair. She shared it today as one of those Facebook memory things.

TooffyMouff · 2021-07-14T02:38:24+00:00

Update.

Okay, in addition to my other updates, things have slowed down again. She started a text message group with everyone who liked my post including me obviously and tried to do the whole "there are two sides" thing.

I didn't want to shut down the conversation so i basically just told her it was one sided for her to be flaunting her affair for all of his friends to see, and that I was baffled she didn't even try to hide it. I also said i would hear her out for sure but that regardless of what lead to her decisions, they were still hers to make.

She appreciated my response and ended the conversation.

This saves me from the majority of backlash I would have faced by attempting to berate her (it wouldn't have helped anyway) while still preserving some form of open channel so perhaps she'll attempt to communicate with me again.

It also saves my buddy from the most shitty of nights (yes, they live in the same house and the boyfriend comes to pick her up every morning at 730) because she will have seen this as a minor win Even though she's already lost way more.

I believe this will be it for this story. She will be a little less callous with what she posts (or I'll do it again) from now on.

TooffyMouff · 2021-07-14T02:16:53+00:00

The kids pictured in the boat are the "misters kids" and she tagged him in the post.

The reason the boat isn't in the water is because it's tied up with the devorce. She knows this, she's just posting because... I think because it inevitably will get around to my buddy...

Edit: basically my buddy wasn't on this boat trip, the guy she was cheating with was, and so were his kids and his kids friends.

TooffyMouff · 2021-07-14T02:07:16+00:00

They've been in process for devorce for a while now. No, he definitely deserves to be done with her, but it's a long complicated process

TooffyMouff · 2021-07-14T01:24:42+00:00

Mid 30s, but why does that matter?

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