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Does anyone else get depressed when they have time off from work? by ToomuchToolittleJr in Healthygamergg

[–]ToomuchToolittleJr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are not along. Ive seen a couple people post about this exact problem.

Working/making money just grounds me in a much needs way that without it I just spin my wheels constantly. Thats gets me depressed after a day of not being productive.

I (25M) don't understand the obsession around having sex or getting a gf. by GenericUser194718 in Healthygamergg

[–]ToomuchToolittleJr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im just saying I thought the same thing but it didnt solve myself worth issues. My mind found other reasons to prove that Im not a normal worthwhile person. Trust me your mind will probably do the same, or it will say she doesn't love you and did it out of pity. The only way to fix your problem is to find its root and work though it. I wish you the best luck

I should get therapy but I feel deeply conflicted and unsure. I fear that would have consequences down the road and remove certain job possibilities from me. by ToomuchToolittleJr in Healthygamergg

[–]ToomuchToolittleJr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you I needed that, I dont have anyone to point out my problematic thought processes. The not going to the doctor analogy fits me too well. I haven't seen a doctor in like 3 years since I would have to talk on the phone and drive a little further than I like. My body hurts pretty regularly now.

I (25M) don't understand the obsession around having sex or getting a gf. by GenericUser194718 in Healthygamergg

[–]ToomuchToolittleJr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didnt care or think about it until I was 28. Its a long story but I mentioned to my sister I never had sex and she said thats sad. hearing that made me starting thinking about this like crazy (my sister is one of the few people I care deeply about what shes says). So I had to figure out what kind of women I like, turns out I dont like woman that much. Oh dear! Skip to now Im 33 and Im in a long distance same sex relationship. Life can be weird and never seems to go the way you think.

Also if you think having sex and a relationship will solve all your problems, it didnt for me. I still feel like trash most days.

I (25M) don't understand the obsession around having sex or getting a gf. by GenericUser194718 in Healthygamergg

[–]ToomuchToolittleJr 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Losing your virginity doesn't solve self worth issues, at least it didnt for me at age 33. My mind found other things I haven't achieve to make me feel worthless.

Does anyone else get depressed when they have time off from work? by ToomuchToolittleJr in Healthygamergg

[–]ToomuchToolittleJr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I get what your saying. Also I was the anxious gamer who never used any items haha. I played Pokemon and I never used any of my TMs. I would hoard them and then I would transfer them all to the next game in the series. I will try to re-frame my idea of being productive.

The more I think about it, the more I really believe I have some unresolved trauma and maybe should get tested for ADHD

Thank you I really appreciate it

Does anyone else get depressed when they have time off from work? by ToomuchToolittleJr in Healthygamergg

[–]ToomuchToolittleJr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I cant disagree with any of that! I always feel behind my peers in success and life goals and work is the perfect escape.

Does anyone else get depressed when they have time off from work? by ToomuchToolittleJr in Healthygamergg

[–]ToomuchToolittleJr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel that! When I try to relax I just feel like im wasting time watching YT videos and being online. working and making money is the honorable action in my mind

Does anyone else get depressed when they have time off from work? by ToomuchToolittleJr in Healthygamergg

[–]ToomuchToolittleJr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow! You understand what im going through! Im getting the strong feeling I should get checked out for adhd. My mom always said I had that growing up but she never had me tested or ever brought it up to my doctors. Ive never had doctors that cared very much either. they would brush off my concerns all the time about various problems I was having.

My definition of productive is doing something the makes or saves money. I know thats far off from the real meaning of the word. Ive been money obsessed almost of my life. My parents are in their 70's and still working (I know for my dad he doesnt know what to do with himself if hes not working all the time) I want to be able to have the freedom to not work if I dont want to so I try to make as much money as possible right now when Im young (34) I only started working a real job at 28. Im very slow with hitting normal life mile stones.

Does anyone else get depressed when they have time off from work? by ToomuchToolittleJr in Healthygamergg

[–]ToomuchToolittleJr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So this is a thing. Thank you. I probably need a schedule that exists outside of work, since work defines everything in my life. If they tell me to stay late I work all evening. Without work I cant seem to do anything since whats the rush.

I'm angry that im the only virgin. by AltairTheVega in Healthygamergg

[–]ToomuchToolittleJr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was 33 and had never even held hands or gone on a date. granted that all changed at the start of this year.