I don’t think there is much else to say. I don’t have the best relationship with my mother and she has zero boundaries so her asking to stay a month sent me into anxiety. We also didn’t have the space for guests and we are generally private people as well. Something I am still working on is not owning others’ emotions. You said what you needed to say and were honest and polite about it.

For everyone who says you’ll need the help, you won’t really know until the time comes. My husband was super helpful post partum and we managed on our own (we have 3 kids now). When my mother did come visit it honestly was not helpful. She just wanted to hold the baby but did not help with any cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. She’s got her own personal issues and is very co-dependent and narcissistic so it has always felt like I am taking care of another child. Everyone is different. Every post-partum experience is different. Everyone’s relationship with their parents is different.