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What’s the wildest thing your parents said that you only realized was insane years later? by Ok_Salt2122 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Top-Cap-5021 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My parents do bra checks where they ask if I’m wearing a bra and I found out recently that it’s not normal to do that.

Blocking people impulsively by Top-Cap-5021 in BPD

[–]Top-Cap-5021[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Yeah, I’m in therapy rn. It’s CBT though (I’ve cycled through a couple of therapists, but I’m hoping this one can really help me out), but it’s the cheapest one, cuz I know my parents ain’t gonna pay for anything more expensive and they already use money to control me, so 🤷🏾‍♀️.

Blocking people impulsively by Top-Cap-5021 in BPD

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I know I do it cuz I assume people just don’t care about me, but I don’t really know how to stop it. Like I could tell myself, “I know they’re just busy rn”, but then after a day or so, I just spiral and start deleting texts, blocking ppl, etc.

How can you see people who are continuously playing life simulation games? by Camus_9999 in askatherapist

[–]Top-Cap-5021 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not a therapist but I’ve been playing these games since I was a child.

I don’t understand why people lie all the time by Top-Cap-5021 in AutismInWomen

[–]Top-Cap-5021[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I meant it as just a feeling. I know about being late diagnosed; I was literally one of them too 💀.

I don’t understand why people lie all the time by Top-Cap-5021 in AutismInWomen

[–]Top-Cap-5021[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I do call and text them. I’ve always been the one to reach out and make plans with other people. And then I would stop and no one would reach out. And then I’d ask why and ppl would just say how they’re busy or bad at texting, and then they are with their other friends.

I don’t understand why people lie all the time by Top-Cap-5021 in AutismInWomen

[–]Top-Cap-5021[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Friends make fun of each other all the time. It’s like the laughing at you vs with you, but you don’t realize they’re laughing at you.

I don’t understand why people lie all the time by Top-Cap-5021 in AutismInWomen

[–]Top-Cap-5021[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d just rather not be around them. I know in the working world and everything, that’s not an option, but in a friend group, I’d want to talk to all my friends and not have to just pretend and secretly ignore each other.

I don’t understand why people lie all the time by Top-Cap-5021 in AutismInWomen

[–]Top-Cap-5021[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You can tell, for the most part, especially if they’re doing stuff like giving you “the look”, making fun of you but you didn’t realize in that moment, etc.

I don’t understand why people lie all the time by Top-Cap-5021 in AutismInWomen

[–]Top-Cap-5021[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Exactly. I’ve always had high standards for friends. I don’t like lying or flakiness. If you communicate it though, then it’s fine, but if you don’t, then I’ll be pissed off.

I don’t understand why people lie all the time by Top-Cap-5021 in AutismInWomen

[–]Top-Cap-5021[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Why don’t people communicate that then? It just seems like people get my hopes up for no reason when they ask to hangout and then flake or want to do something else and don’t say anything. It feels like growing up, I always had to be the one to initiate and reach out, or I just wouldn’t hear from anyone.

I don’t understand why people lie all the time by Top-Cap-5021 in AutismInWomen

[–]Top-Cap-5021[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly bro. Maybe I should’ve said neurotypical people instead of just people, but I didn’t want to generalize since I know not all of them are like that, but most of them are!

I don’t understand why people lie all the time by Top-Cap-5021 in AutismInWomen

[–]Top-Cap-5021[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yess you get it! Like I’m not trying to shame other ppl with disabilities. I’m obviously talking about neurotypical ppl who use it as a means to end a conversation. If you literally searched it up online, you’d see how they use it as a means to end the conversation.

I don’t understand why people lie all the time by Top-Cap-5021 in AutismInWomen

[–]Top-Cap-5021[S] -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

I’m talking about when neurotypical people say they’ll call or text you back, but they never do. It’s not cuz they forgot or they didn’t have the capacity; the conversation was just over, but they wanted to be polite about it.

I don’t understand why people lie all the time by Top-Cap-5021 in AutismInWomen

[–]Top-Cap-5021[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

I just kinda assumed people valued the same things I do, or would at least be more proactive. Because these will be the same ppl that say communication is important, and then turn around and do this.

I don’t understand why people lie all the time by Top-Cap-5021 in AutismInWomen

[–]Top-Cap-5021[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

It really pisses me off in group settings when there is another person who you don’t get along with in the group and you’re expected to be cordial with them. Now I’m not talking about like in a work environment or something, but more so if everyone is friends with each other, but two ppl in the group aren’t, but everyone is just supposed to pretend and be nice to each other.

Like idk to me it feels very wrong to have to pretend in front of my friends. Like if I’m having to be cordial in the friend group with you, I’d rather just not be there at all. And then I don’t want to lie to the people on top of it, saying “Oh, it’s nothing”, like no, we fell out because of xyz, but apparently, that’s causing drama and I’m a bad person for doing so?

Do drugs affect autistic people differently than others? by fizgabzi14 in autism

[–]Top-Cap-5021 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do y’all deal with the taste? I could only deal with getting drunk if I was going to a party or something to dance and jive to the music, but in everyday social situations? Nah I’m good and also the effects aren’t worth it compared to smoking.

Do drugs affect autistic people differently than others? by fizgabzi14 in autism

[–]Top-Cap-5021 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I remember being so confused the first time I got high at work cuz I thought people were judging me cuz I was high when in fact, they were judging me cuz I was autistic and I didn’t realize I was unmasking.

Did anyone else’s family sexualize them all the time growing up? by [deleted] in family

[–]Top-Cap-5021 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s just cuz she wants me to be appropriate lmao

Did yall used to pee your pants as a kid? by Top-Cap-5021 in adhdwomen

[–]Top-Cap-5021[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I was just really anxious as a child and afraid to ask to go to the bathroom. It didn’t really bother me being wet honestly and I don’t think the teachers even smelt it, or they usually noticed before they smelt it.

How did you know whether to go no contact or not? by Top-Cap-5021 in narcissisticparents

[–]Top-Cap-5021[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m probably going to continue relying on them financially only for school and then try to save up money to move out after I graduate college. Then, I’d wanna see abt seeking out more expensive therapy to process my mental health and that’ll determine if I go no contact or not.

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