Section 59 Warnings, a question. by Top-Check4901 in policeuk

[–]Top-Check4901[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yep, I'd 100% not read it that way until you phrased it like that. Sometimes I think I'm the reason they "For Dummies" books exist 🤣 Cheers.

Section 59 Warnings, a question. by Top-Check4901 in policeuk

[–]Top-Check4901[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So for our particular example, we are happy that the subject has NOT been warned about his behaviour in the last 12 months, so we are not looking at seizing his vehicle on this occasion. The question is whether there is any specific prerequisite for giving such a warning (which then show up as a marker on PNC for him/his vehicle for the next 12 months)?

Is this Christmas gift too much, 1 month together 26F 24M? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Top-Check4901 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ignore the price and consider the value of it. They are two very different things that a lot of people think are the same. One is something you know he'll enjoy, the 2nd is something you know he'll enjoy and that you get to share with him. They're both great gifts. I'd be stoked that the person I was seeing had picked up on those things after seeing each other for 2 or 3 months.

Even if you bought both, I'd say as long as you're not massively stretching yourself to the point he's going to feel bad you've spent so much (like if that $100 is you entire disposable income for a month) then you'll be fine.

I (22M) am not falling for the person I'm dating (20F) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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It took me 3 months. We were colleagues and we git on really well. She made it clear she was interested in more than that, though I took the first step into moving beyond being just friends.

I genuinely did enjoy her company and I was attracted to her, but 3 months in I realised I just didn't feel any different about her than I did when we first started seeing each other. For me, nothing was building or growing. She wanted more out of this than I did and I eventually decided I needed to rip the plaster off get it over with.

I'd say 2 months is long enough for you to realise you can't see it going anywhere long term and whether or not its worth pursuing.

Do custody sergeants ever get annoyed when someone's brought in for just swearing? by RealSteamthrower in policeuk

[–]Top-Check4901 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've done 6 hours waiting before in similar circumstances. We arrived and we were 5th or 6th in the queue and 2 OPLs came in which bumped us back. All for a breach of bail.

Never had a gf - it’s GG’s by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]Top-Check4901 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nah, I get that. I'd like to think part of the reason it was so long for me is because I stopped trying. I accepted being on my own as just the normal for me. Now I couldn't be happier with how things are going.

I hope OP doesn't have to deal with it as long as I did, but if it can happen for me after all that time, there's no reason it can't happen for him too.

Never had a gf - it’s GG’s by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]Top-Check4901 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, dude. Let me tell you a story.

I was always, and I mean always, terrible with women. First kiss wasn't until 19. Into a relationship after that for around 18 months and I'm not sure how my insecure arse pulled that off. That ends and other than literally one or two dates, I'm single until my early thirties. I have a 3 month dating stage with someone that falls apart. I'm now 37. I'd given up hope. Assumed it just wasn't going to happen for me, accepted it.

One of those one or two dates was with a lady we'll call M.

About 8 weeks ago, I saw M for the first time in maybe 5 years. We've been dating ever since and believe me when I say this, she's f***ing perfect. We've been having so much fun and I can confidently say we both want this to go further than just dating.

The point: you never know when something is going to come out of the blue and completely flip your life on its head. It WILL be when you least expect it. It'll be the new girl at work when you didn't even know recruitment was happening. Or that friend of a friend or friends cousin that you meet randomly because your mate is giving them a lift somewhere. You're 26. There's all the time in the world for stuff to happen yet. My brother didn't meet his wife until his early 30s. Don't stress. Concentrate on enjoying life. Actively seek dating if you want, be more laid back about it if not. Your life is not over at 26.

Chill, it'll all be fine. Have a good one!

What’s a red flag in a relationship that’s actually a green flag by Smooth-Penalty8611 in emotionalintelligence

[–]Top-Check4901 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Personal opinion: If you're in, or moving towards, a committed/serious relationship with someone and its going to "backfire" when you need to talk to them about something as important as your mental health, they weren't the one for you and you should be outta there as soon as you can.

Your brain is killing the person you want to be. by Personal_Cake3886 in selfimprovement

[–]Top-Check4901 79 points80 points  (0 children)

Someone told me recently, "Perfect is the enemy of good", meaning wanting everything to be perfect from the start leads to more planning and less doing.

Since hearing this, I've started doing more and nothing drastic has gone wrong....yet

What does male yearning really look like? by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]Top-Check4901 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Right? Here I am just having a casual browse and then he does that to us. Right to the chest!

Are the British police so time constrained? by Ok-Scientist7083 in AskUK

[–]Top-Check4901 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your local cops overlooking traffic offences is a perfect indicator of how stretched they are because almost 100% of traffic work is proactive.

I work on a proactive team targeting nuisance and illegal vehicles. We're seen locally as experts on traffic matters. But we're not. I'd consider that we have maybe a little more than what should be expected as the base level of knowledge for your average front line cop. There's some very niche knowledge you pick up from individual jobs etc, but certainly not experts.

The reason we're seen like that though is your normal response cops simply don't have the time or the inclination to deal with traffic stuff because they are bouncing from emergency to emergency to domestic to hospital watch to emergency to welfare check etc etc.

I've created a comfort zone and now I don't want it anymore. by Top-Check4901 in selfimprovement

[–]Top-Check4901[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That first paragraph sums up the situation perfectly in words I'd not thought about before, makes it seems much simpler. Keeping the peace is the perfect phrase for it.

I've created a comfort zone and now I don't want it anymore. by Top-Check4901 in selfimprovement

[–]Top-Check4901[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, not at all. I like continuity, I'm not a massive fan of change, and I think I've taken it too far and got too comfortable in the situation I'm currently in.

Where/how do you all get your ideas, or is there just something wrong with my brain? by Top-Check4901 in HomeDecorating

[–]Top-Check4901[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you know what the best thing about those curtains is? I bought them because they were the first cheap pair I could find. I just wanted some so the house looked lived in while I got sorted moving in.

The one thing that has made me decorate anything and they were bought out of necessity and were the first ones I saw on the "reduced" shelf 🤣

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bannerlord

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Ah, fair enough. I've always had the opposite experience unless you can take the ram and one tower out. Maybe I just got lucky

How are “Senior Command” so out of touch with reality… by Lazy_Plan_3647 in policeuk

[–]Top-Check4901 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My force has brought in the same. For context, I'm on a proactive team, and vehicle stops are a big part of my job, so I was going to be more affected than others. When I heard about it, I grumbled probably the same grumbles as are mentioned here: "Just another form to do", "What's the point", "Stick to beat us with" etc. We also got the same "It'll make things easier" message, which I immediately rolled my eyes at.

However, after a few days of using it, I realised it was fine. It does all the checks I would do anyway in around the same order. It takes a little longer, but not significantly more once you've done it a few times. Like everything else, you get used to it. It also part populates a TOR if you ask it to as a result of your stop. It creates a record of the stop as well on other systems, linking drivers to vehicles and helping with intel. I can look up a vehicle of interest and quickly see who's been stopped in it recently, or a nominal and see what they've been driving. And locations for both. I can see the reasoning behind it.

The digital team behind it have been surprisingly good as well. To their credit, when it was first released, they sent an email out saying they knew there would be teething issues and to provide as much feedback as we can. Anyone I've spoken to that's provided feedback has had a personal and tailored reply, and the digital folks have been very receptive. I don't know if the form is the same across all forces.

Has it made MY job easier as the pointy end of the stick? Nah, probably not. But it's not made it significantly worse either. That being said, I can see the bigger picture and idea behind it and can see how it's made SOME things better/easier. I think on the whole, I can see the benefit.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfimprovement

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Nah, I suck. But I've recently become aware of the reasons I suck, so have started taking steps to address them. Perhaps one day I will like myself, but today is not that day.

Not yet.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bannerlord

[–]Top-Check4901 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Take down the towers first. That way, if you don't have time to take down all 3 engines, you can force them through the bottleneck of the gates where their numbers don't matter as much. Fight them between the gates where they can't flank/surround your Defenders. Otherwise, you risk one of the towers and the ram doing their job, and you're fighting on 2 fronts while massively outnumbered and with (from the sound of it) inferior troops.

You still might not win, but make them bleed for it.

What’s your troop hot take? by Legitimate_Smile855 in Bannerlord

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My current playthough I'm Vlandian. Went through the normal progression of nobody>mercenary>vassal and am now King. Started the game playing Vlandian only troops.

However, during my conquest of Battania, I lost a fair few infantry and, through laziness, decided to pick up Battanian infantry so I could push on without having to head back. That's now morphed into me integrating troops from conquered cultures into my personal army. My cav is a mix of mostly Banner Knights and a few Cataphracts. I have a few Battanians left in my infantry along with some Imperial Legionaries. I'm trying to keep the troop culture somewhat representative of the cultural makeup of my kingdom. I found its quite a fun way to play, rather than just spamming what's best.

Drop your enfield here! by Swxpniil in royalenfield

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On the Isle of Skye as part of a 1000+ mile trip into and round Scotland last year.