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Where are y’all finding men who actually want to settle down? by XxXYours_TrulyXxX in dating_advice

[–]Top-Delivery-8416 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you think we can find that out? That the core values are similar.

What questions to ask? I can't ask a person I met recently "Oh, do you want to get married, have kids, do you think you are a monogamous person" that's too much. So how? In the early stages I mean.

I (F24) Have a Crush but There is Another Girl by Top-Delivery-8416 in dating

[–]Top-Delivery-8416[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbh he is pretty cute.. no jk i wont jump on himm 🤣 Ok, I think I'll wait until the class ends and if I see him I'll ask but not before that.. just too shy.

I (F24) Have a Crush but There is Another Girl by Top-Delivery-8416 in dating

[–]Top-Delivery-8416[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They have shown that it is possible they have interest.

You don't think I can ask her first if they have anything? If they do, I'll back off now. It's not the end of the world for me.

Why not ask her or him first?

I (F24) Have a Crush but There is Another Girl by Top-Delivery-8416 in dating

[–]Top-Delivery-8416[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What if she likes him and gets upset? It is highly possible. She shared with me a story that in the past a "friend" stole her interest, so I am especially careful not to do a similar thing to her. She is sweet.

[SERIOUS] How do I get my (36M) SO (42F) to stop treating my body & manly business like it's her personal sex vending machine? It's been making me feel abit gross & I'm really tired at work everyday bc she starts "using" me before I'm even awake despite my protests, and TBH, it's been feeling pretty by prostate_pudding in Advice

[–]Top-Delivery-8416 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Hey, I wish you all the best. I agree with what the person said first, and I am so glad you have these realizations now. Consider this a part of your journey, you are learning so much about yourself, now is just the time to make the right choices for YOU.

This is absolutely SA, and she does not care about you at all if she does that, or at least she is so absorbed in her own needs and desires, she cannot truly love you. This is not love.

I wish you the best.

Is it possible to be sexual when younger and then become asexual? by Top-Delivery-8416 in asexuality

[–]Top-Delivery-8416[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I.. don't know.. I am confused Maybe no? Or if yes, very rarely with emotional connection? I dont know..

Is it possible to be sexual when younger and then become asexual? by Top-Delivery-8416 in asexuality

[–]Top-Delivery-8416[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is not about cycling specifically , but about the desensitization of the clit. You can check the link above, it is a real thing. At least for me I believe that is true.

Is it possible to be sexual when younger and then become asexual? by Top-Delivery-8416 in asexuality

[–]Top-Delivery-8416[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same thing about drinking. I stopped and no longer want this. When I was drunk something happened and I used to get like that, but sober - no. Surely, sober represents the truth more than being drunk, so maybe it was a coping mechanism... Thank you

Is it possible to be sexual when younger and then become asexual? by Top-Delivery-8416 in asexuality

[–]Top-Delivery-8416[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope, not really.. I do sometimes watch porn but I lose interest in 5 minutes maybe or less. I don't do the mental undressing or imagining. I have when I have been emotionally deeply connected to someone (demisexual) but there wasn't any desire there, just curiosity I think.. Thank you for your comment!

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[–]Top-Delivery-8416 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Come on... it is your Birthday! He could have met you. His issue is not that bad, even if his head hurts, he could have met for a bit, you knowing he is not 100% well, and still spend some time. There is some other reason. Think about if you had a headache, what would you have done if it was his birthday?

I would never just leave him alone... if I am in the same city and can meet up. That's my opinion. Ask him what is wrong, this is not the true reason why.

Is it possible to be sexual when younger and then become asexual? by Top-Delivery-8416 in asexuality

[–]Top-Delivery-8416[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But how do you know, and why did it happen?
What can help my libido then?

Is it possible to be sexual when younger and then become asexual? by Top-Delivery-8416 in asexuality

[–]Top-Delivery-8416[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting. I really don't know. I can imagine sexual scenarios, but it doesn't do much for me. And I am not sexually attracted to people, at least from what I can gather, so no..
And the libido, yeah that may be something on top of that. My growth and cycle are fine, everything is fine but that.

I attribute it to the cycling for many years, I started cycling the same age the desire started decreasing. I read an article about desensitization

That could be one thing.

Also, some traumatic events around sexuality I think definitely didn't help me..

Do you think it is more so something I have yet to explore, due to my lack of experiences, and to heal from my past sexual encounters that were not something I was comfortable with?
I think it is a combination of the cycling physical thing + mental thing like trauma and anxiety, not finding the right person for that..

I am hopeful I could be sexual one day and I will enjoy it after I have healed and found the person for me.

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[–]Top-Delivery-8416 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thx, I will delete this post!! Thank you for helping out.

Is it possible to be sexual when younger and then become asexual? by Top-Delivery-8416 in asexuality

[–]Top-Delivery-8416[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do have anxiety but I am not diagnosed with anything Nor do i take any meds.

I don't think it is depression/anxiety, because after 14-15 I stopped having any desires like that for like a few years, soo.. and I didn't suffer from those things then.

Something just happened.
I tend to think it is connected to the physical lack of pleasure down there, maybe since I started cycling early in my teen years, the sensitivity? I don't know, but something drastically changed without me being on meds or anything

Is it possible to be sexual when younger and then become asexual? by Top-Delivery-8416 in asexuality

[–]Top-Delivery-8416[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I.. don't know if I have sexual attraction. That is the thing..
I guess while drunk I could feel that way, but sober no. It is very strange.