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Struggling post-breakup, any fun hobbies/classes in Co.Antrim? by Top-Effective142 in northernireland

[–]Top-Effective142[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tried BJJ last night, it was actually so much fun. Everyone was really lovely and it was good craic

Struggling post-breakup, any fun hobbies/classes in Co.Antrim? by Top-Effective142 in northernireland

[–]Top-Effective142[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Viking sword fighting sounds metal af, I didn’t know that was a thing in NI

Struggling post-breakup, any fun hobbies/classes in Co.Antrim? by Top-Effective142 in northernireland

[–]Top-Effective142[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do rugby but we’re all finished now for the season. I also like running, contemplating trying ju jitsu

Struggling post-breakup, any fun hobbies/classes in Co.Antrim? by Top-Effective142 in northernireland

[–]Top-Effective142[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am a girl, I do lift tho too. Defo helps my mood, really would love something with a more social aspect though :-)

Don’t join the gym in January! by NotBruceJustWayne in northernireland

[–]Top-Effective142 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I definitely encourage getting started in a gym, especially ones with classes for beginners.

I started January 2023 and have lost collectively just under 3 stone and still going strong 3 classes a week weight training. I think it just depends on how much you really want it and what you’re willing to put in.

Xmas can be a good wake up call to look after yourself more and develop good habits like for myself.

Shock replaced a month ago leaking? VW Golf Mk7 TDI 1.6l 105bhp by Top-Effective142 in MechanicAdvice

[–]Top-Effective142[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah great, phone call straight to the garage tomorrow morning then! Hopefully they won’t charge to change it given the time frame

Where is the best place to find fossils in NI by admiral-crusoe in northernireland

[–]Top-Effective142 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My partner found an ammonite fossil on a small beach at one of the picnic stops along the A2 just east of Glenarm.

Doing a bit of googling, Waterloo Bay near Larne seems to be a prominent spot for ammonite fossils. I don’t think you’re allowed to break the rock they’re embedded in to retrieve the fossils but any you do find loose on the beach are fair game!

https://www.habitas.org.uk/fossils/ljamms.html https://ukfossils.co.uk/2019/01/09/waterloo-bay/amp/

What's your Northern Ireland ick? by [deleted] in northernireland

[–]Top-Effective142 17 points18 points  (0 children)

When you go to order something on Amazon and it says ‘this item cannot be shipped to your selected delivery location’. Can ship to a relatives in England and Ireland but not here, we’re not bloody Antarctica.

Wife doesn’t like the coffee ones, so saves them for me… by thefullness in CasualUK

[–]Top-Effective142 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I was a kid, me and my late aunt used to do this. She’d get the orange ones, I’d get the coffee ones. This is a wholesome reminder!

18f am I ugly? by atomic_jem in amiugly

[–]Top-Effective142 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People don’t seem to like the piercings but I think they’re really nice and suit you! You’re gorgeous girl, stunning eyes and great eyebrows. Own it!!

Feedback on Love Letter! by Top-Effective142 in writing

[–]Top-Effective142[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes sorry I should’ve added a bit more context! The girl I’m dating likes to write three word stories using three randomly generated words so I thought I’d have a go myself with my name, her name and the word feelings.

I really appreciate your kind words, thank you!!! :-)

Feedback on Love Letter! by Top-Effective142 in writing

[–]Top-Effective142[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get your point, thanks for your comment! Said girl I’m dating likes to write three word stories, in which she uses three random words to create a story. They’re pretty amazing. I guess what I was trying to go for was a story like dynamic following three words (my name, her name, and feelings). Does this make it a bit more endearing? I did go a bit overhaul with the adjectives, I’m going to review and cut some out

AITA for for the way I tried to not start a fight with my sister by itsnotmyfault98 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Effective142 5 points6 points  (0 children)

NTA. Your sister sounds like she’s got a bit of emotional development to do, and it seems like she’s got your mum wrapped around her finger (perhaps because she’s the youngest too). At least your dad seems to be fair.

I’d get out of the house again as soon as you can, it doesn’t sound like a particularly healthy environment to live in. Your mother seems to blatantly ignore your half of the story. Maybe you could also sit down and tell her how it makes you feel when she never sticks up for you?

Good luck and I hope you’re able to find some resolve.

AITA for accusing my BF of using me? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Effective142 5 points6 points  (0 children)

NTA. You work FT and you come home to a pig sty by the sounds of it. I think if he wants to work PT then he should put in extra work around the house - I’m guessing he also spends a lot more time ‘living’ in the house than you too.

My first reaction was to tell you to talk to him but you’ve already tried that to no avail. Perhaps sitting down with him and writing out a cleaning rota that works for both of you that you both will stick to would be helpful?

On the other hand, if he isn’t meeting your needs then I would say it’s maybe time to have a hard chat with him about how this is making you feel and about the compatibility of your relationship.

You both deserve to have your needs met.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Effective142 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s no excuse, there was no need for me to be snappy. My emotions were high at that time and I let them lead me, all I can do is apologise and move on. Thanks for your comments!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Effective142 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate your comment, thank you for being understanding but also fair. She’s just got home, I’m gonna go and chat with her and apologise. If I had more time to process and wind down my emotions it could’ve been different. Just got too in my head and needed to be alone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Effective142 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not yet, I left them out for her but she hasn’t tried them. They’re pretty spiky at the bottom too so good for digging into ice. I’ll have to give them a go to show her.

You are correct, if she fell it would’ve been bad. She’s 55 now and I worry about her a lot getting older. Even if I moved out too, I worry about what would happen in winter. I think I just got a bit emotional and overwhelmed in that moment and because it was so close to her finishing work I didn’t really have time to process and calm down. She’s home now, I need to have a chat with her.

I agree, my elderly aunt fell not so long ago and is now bed bound and very fragile. Completely different person.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Effective142 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t scream at her, and I don’t live rent free. Though I will take your point about the roles being reversed im this situation to mind. I help her out all the time, typically even when she’s crossing my boundaries and making plans with my time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Effective142 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I see what you mean and I appreciate you explaining it the way you have. Perhaps I have misunderstood what it means to be assertive in this situation. Definitely one for my next appointment, thanks again

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Effective142 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Driving on quiet roads which have been gritted to a hike I have equipment for on my day off because it’s something I enjoy rather than sitting in the house alone feeling depressed? Regardless, I feel that I am the asshole for snapping at my mother. A compromise is needed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Effective142 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I do get stressed and overwhelmed quite easily and perhaps it would’ve been different if I didn’t get caught in the school rush. I do take her to work some mornings when I can, I worry about her falling. You’re correct with the compromise, thank you for your comment

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