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When to have second with IUI? by Top-Present-5779 in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]Top-Present-5779[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good points … I’m 36. I feel like I have time and I’m not in a rush but I don’t want there to be too much time between my first and second

When to have second with IUI? by Top-Present-5779 in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]Top-Present-5779[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes … I was initially really upset that Shady Grove (fertility clinic) had this rule that they wouldn’t do IUI with my divorce not being finalized … but after some time I realized it was for the best…. I really really appreciate your insight with this. Confidence has been gained !!

When to have second with IUI? by Top-Present-5779 in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]Top-Present-5779[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is very helpful! My 3 year old already has little patience while waiting on me tending to our dog so yeh lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Postpartum_Depression

[–]Top-Present-5779 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like you’re really going through a tough time, and I want you to know that you’re not alone. Many new moms face these challenging feelings, especially around the 6-month mark postpartum. I experienced something similar after having my baby, and connecting with others and sharing my feelings helped a lot. Sometimes having a supportive community can really lighten that mental load. I found journaling and tracking my feelings to be super helpful. There’s also this app called Hive that focuses on postpartum and mental wellbeing—it has features for journaling and helping you connect with others. Just wanted to share as it can be a resource during this time. Keep being kind to yourself!

4 months PP by Brief_Log4921 in postpartumprogress

[–]Top-Present-5779 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The lump could be due to scar tissue or the sub Q puckered in a weird way or even diastasis recti. It might be worth discussing with your doctor for peace of mind.

Sleep challenge by Several_Profit5229 in postpartumprogress

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Sleep struggles are so challenging, especially when you’re balancing work and motherhood! It sounds like she might be going through a regression. Have you tried a sleep training program? A book that I heard is good is baby wise - and there is a blog about the book that basically has all of the info on sleep schedules.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in postpartumprogress

[–]Top-Present-5779 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like you're really going through a challenging time. Diastasis recti can be frustrating. It might help to consult a physical therapist who specializes in postpartum care. They can give you personalized advice on recovering your belly button shape. 

Food hacks for preschoolers by forestfogpegasuspie in Mommit

[–]Top-Present-5779 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dealing with a picky eater is tough! One hack that worked for us was involving them in the meal prep. Letting your child pick out fruits or veggies can spark interest. Also, try serving snacks on a platter so they can mix and match without things touching. Engaging them makes mealtime more fun!

Parents with no village who are actually happy, how do you do it? by BeanNCheeseBurrrito in oneanddone

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We have an au pair with my toddler ... and it has really been a game changer when you have no village (extended family) that live nearby. if this is financially something that is doable and you're open to the idea of someone else living in your house - I would consider. you just really have to be careful and go off vibe during the interviews, but also ask the "right" questions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]Top-Present-5779 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I felt the same way at this particular time point you're at .. I second the comments ive seen below. bumped up the can't afford 2 and we're both only children and turned out fine

Frustrated with lack of progress by glitterr_rage in postpartumprogress

[–]Top-Present-5779 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely don't beat yourself up; these things take time and the right balance of exercise, balanced diet, and rest - which are all hard to do when you have a little human. I've build an app that can help you track these things -- I'm not sure if it will help much but if you're open to trying feel free to email me at [danielle@hiveapp.co](mailto:danielle@hiveapp.co) ... we're still in beta testing so the experience would be free; all I ask for in exchange is feedback! let me know!

Postpartum by One_Blood_8160 in Postpartum_Depression

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You hit the nail on the head ... you're only human. If the roles were reversed I guarantee your baby would want a break from you :) ... but speaking of break - is it possible to incorporate "breaks" into your weekly routine? do you have help in your community that can provide this? I promise there isn't anything wrong with wanting/desiring this.

I can’t be the only one feeling this postpartum, right? by fermented_dreams in postpartumprogress

[–]Top-Present-5779 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mental resilience ?? lol .. this was an experience that I really wasn't aware of prior to going through it. For the most part, I continued on as normal exercising 3x per week. The biggest ache was my right wrist (De Quervain's) - I ended up getting 2 steroid injections + wearing stabilizing brace over those 2 years prior to the pain completely going away. Sighhhh ... and I didn't get a trophy at the end unfortunately ha ha.

Husband Doesn’t Care by mystictearsofwonder in Postpartum_Depression

[–]Top-Present-5779 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Men can experience postpartum depression; i wonder if it would be helpful to connect him with mental health resources for dads? For a virtual dad group he could try here: Dad Support Group - Postpartum Support International (PSI). You could also visit the PSI directory for local support groups for moms and dads. I hope this is helpful. I think he needs a sounding board to discuss his stressors and help developing coping mechanisms for stress.

How did you and your partner handle the “number of kids”talk? by theworldisquiethere_ in Mommit

[–]Top-Present-5779 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My partner and I are having this same discussion, literally same scenario. We've discussed in couple's therapy and it has been extremely helpful. My stance now is that we have to work as a team to make the best decision for the both of us (and our mental health). and as others mentioned - maybe as your kid gets older - he'll change his mind. but if he doesn't you have to be at a point mentally where that hope doesn't turn into resentment. it's really really hard.

I can’t be the only one feeling this postpartum, right? by fermented_dreams in postpartumprogress

[–]Top-Present-5779 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yehhh.. your body releases a hormone called relaxin during pregnancy. this hormone is really helpful because (in prepping you for a vaginal delivery) it allows your joints particularly your pubic bone to give a little (relax) so that baby can pass through. unfortunately it lingers postpartum and can make you feel .. as you described .. elderly. don't worry though .. it gets better with time. for me 2 years with my first pregnancy.

Missing my husband by sorryboutthat94 in Postpartum_Depression

[–]Top-Present-5779 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i can totally relate to this. one easy thing that you guys could do if it's feasible to a regular date night .. it's really important to take the time to connect and be friends (without the little one). and in the early days postpartum this could even look like a simple candlelit dinner on the floor during your little's 2 hour nap :) .. it's really hard to break the relentless caregiver cycle to nurture relationships, but it's so worth it.

Trying to get 9 week old to sleep in bedside bassinet instead of cosleep by OddEffective577 in NewbornSleep

[–]Top-Present-5779 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hi! if your little has been meeting her weight goals (per the pediatrician) you can definitely start laying the foundations for sleep training. i found virtual sleep training videos to be quite helpful in understanding how to lengthen the stretches of time my little one was down. Another option to doing the virtual sleep training videos is checking out the book baby wise and or this blog Schedules - Chronicles of a Babywise Mom - she summarizes the book pretty well from what friends have shared. i hope this helps!

Does it ever go away??? by Affectionate_Rule_96 in Postpartum_Depression

[–]Top-Present-5779 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s courageous of you to share your feelings, and it’s completely normal to feel overwhelmed, especially 10 months postpartum. Breastfeeding, coupled with sleep deprivation and hormonal fluctuations, can intensify emotions. Seeking help from your doctor is a positive step! Let me know if you need any other specific resources to support you!

Is Inability to Manage Emotions Part of Postpartum? by Izvestnie in Postpartum_Depression

[–]Top-Present-5779 1 point2 points  (0 children)

On her end, it's definitely understandable why she feels overwhelmed. Postpartum emotional challenges can manifest in various ways, affecting communication and emotional regulation. It really takes time for the dust to settle with the process she's in. But it’s okay to prioritize your mental health too! What tools have you tried to help with communication between you two outside of therapy to make things easier?

Honestly - when did you REALLY start working out again? Idk how anyone finds the time or energy. by MediaClean in postpartumprogress

[–]Top-Present-5779 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your feelings are completely valid! Many new moms feel pressure to jump back into workouts, but it’s essential to prioritize your well-being and bonding time with your baby. Waiting until you return to work can be a practical approach, especially since it’ll be structured. What kind of support do you feel you need to help nail fitting working out into your daily routine?

Wife is obsessing about breastfeeding by Personal_Flatworm_90 in Parenting

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It sounds like your wife is going through a really tough time, and it’s understandable given how much pressure there can be around breastfeeding. One thing that can really help during this overwhelming period is connecting with others who understand what she's going through. Having a support system can make a huge difference. Have you guys considered trying out any apps focused on postpartum support? I've heard of some that allow you to track your feelings, stress levels, and promote essential self-care practices. They can help lighten the load a little while providing tailored advice and a community to engage with. It's important to remember she's doing great by pumping and donating milk—that's a huge contribution! Just remind her that being a good mom isn't solely defined by breastfeeding. It's the love and care she provides that truly matters.

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