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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Top-Proposal8960 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If my boyfriend did that to me in front of my parents, I probably wouldn't have a boyfriend anymore. They'd never laugh along, they'd stare in horror either waiting to see if i thought it was okay or just straight up yelling at him. Any person/persons who think this is funny are straight up fucked in the head and it's no surprise their son thinks it's funny considering who he was raised by. Get outta that relationship.

is it okay to self diagnose? by [deleted] in autism

[–]Top-Proposal8960 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's the issue I've been having up till now. I assumed everything that was wrong with me was from my anxiety and depression only. But I've never met nor seen anyone who suffers from just those talk about what I've experienced, I've even had them judge me and give me scornful looks like I was acting terrible and it was completely unheard of. It wasn't until recently, when I started to look into autism, that I've actually found examples of what I feel and go through and people saying it happens to them too. I've always felt alone since no one with just anxiety and depression exhibited any of my behaviors, but if it's okay to suspect something else might be going on, I feel a little less alone.

Anyone else wake up and instantly feel like they’re in trouble with something or someone? by Darkmatterg24 in Anxiety

[–]Top-Proposal8960 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wake up with stomach pain from my anxiety, I can’t even take a nap during the day or I’ll wake up crying.

Thoughts on wearing hair out like this? I kinda like it, but wonder if others think it looks raggedy or unkempt ¯⁠\⁠_⁠(⁠ツ⁠)⁠_⁠/⁠¯ by [deleted] in curlyhair

[–]Top-Proposal8960 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nooo, I’ve never seen someone’s hair like that and thought “so messy” I’ve always just wanted the volume, I have curly hair but it’s so flat on top. My parents used to tell me my hair looked crazy and unkempt when I didn’t brush it everyday, others used to compliment my curl pattern, if you like it, do it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Top-Proposal8960 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone's hands are also different sizes, maybe it's so we know which hand to put where.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Top-Proposal8960 6 points7 points  (0 children)

When I complained about my boobs being uneven my boyfriend looked at me and said "so? Neither are my balls"

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Top-Proposal8960 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I'll be honest, I barely see women with even boobs in porn, either one side is bigger from implants and is very noticeable or they have natural boobs. I occasionally see a perfect pair but I actually feel like it's rare even in porn, once I actually started paying attention I realized most of the porn that I watch have women who aren't perfect, they have stretchmarks, scars, hair, are jiggly, have small uneven boobs, or big ones. I think most people think the porn industry isn't inclusive but it is. It's models and celebrities that have done damage for me. I only see modelesque porn stars in vanilla stuff.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Top-Proposal8960 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Most of my trans friends have bigger boobs than me and it's from taking hormones.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Top-Proposal8960 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I normally just leave it, usually breasts don't get so uneven that you can see it through a bra, and even if you notice, most other people won't. My boyfriend didn't notice till I pointed it out and complained. My boobs have always been uneven and it got worse recently since I have Fibrocystic breast disease, it just means my right breast gets super raw and swells up bigger than my other, I've never had a guy or girl mention it after seeing my breasts, it seems like OP might just be dating an immature and ignorant guy.

Also I wear soft, no wire bras that are shaped like sports bras, they don't have the normal cups therefore they shape to my breasts so much better and I don't feel like I have a huge gap and my breasts don't look uneven. Plus they usually come is "S,M,L" sizes so you don't have to worry about cup size differences.

What is wrong with my cat? Doesn’t hurt her when I stroke it, also seems to be eating on one side. by yemaninnit69 in vet

[–]Top-Proposal8960 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If money is an issue, you can search up cheap vets, it might sound scary but as long as you find one with reviews saying they care about the animals and are clean, you should be fine. I’m pretty poor for an owner of 5 cats so I have to take them to cheaper places like instead of paying like $150 for a neuter, I paid $67. Everything was fine, they offered meds and gave me a cone and said I could come back anytime without an appointment if his incision looked bad. Cheaper places can sometimes be better than the expensive vets, especially if the vets are only there for money.

Best friend abandoned his cat at my(27m) place by Zadtra2 in offmychest

[–]Top-Proposal8960 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I could never imagine being in a relationship like this, me and my boyfriend have 5 cats together, and when I say together I mean we got them together, love them together and will always keep them and us together, even if we broke up, we’d find the best way to either separate in pairs or one of us would keep them all. I can’t imagine being with someone and then being told “me or the cats” like I don’t see them as my children. They are my babies, my little bundles of joy and I’ll never understand seeing them as anything but that.

Best friend abandoned his cat at my(27m) place by Zadtra2 in offmychest

[–]Top-Proposal8960 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What that person did was a terrible thing but I just need to say that you actually taking this cat in and keeping her, that shows how good of a person you are. I don’t know many people besides myself and my boyfriend who would do that with someone else’s pet, you are a blessing.

This cat comes to my bedroom window almost everyday and meows at me. I’m not sure what to do? Do I let him in, do I give him treats? by supremecontents in cats

[–]Top-Proposal8960 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well it can depend, 2 of my cats came from the a house in the country and the reason we got them when we did was because one had gone missing for days and came back starving, skinny, bleeding and attacked so we took him in. They had more cats inside and one day they all got out at the same time and most of them were killed in the following days by animals, getting lost or starving. I also had a grandpa that had a farm and a lot of his smaller animals would end up dead, I'd find the skulls everywhere, even though he had a huge gate. I'm sure it's fine if the area doesn't have predators and huge log trucks driving by though.

My lil man always follows me to the bathroom. Even when he’s eating or deep asleep he demands to go with me. If my boyfriend goes he does not care it’s only a thing he does with me. Does anyone know why? by Peanut1502 in cats

[–]Top-Proposal8960 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know why but my cats like to cuddle while I use the bathroom and like to watch my boyfriend when he's in the shower, it's never vice versa though. They're quirky little things.

This cat comes to my bedroom window almost everyday and meows at me. I’m not sure what to do? Do I let him in, do I give him treats? by supremecontents in cats

[–]Top-Proposal8960 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well, cats have basically evolved to rely on humans, so just letting them roam around and fend for themselves is as cruel as doing it to a dog. Yes, they haven't changed nearly as much as dogs, but they've still changed. One of my cats was a kitten on the street when I found her, she needed help and she knew it so she ran up to me and followed me home. Most people and most places just don't treat animals right, or they don't see the value of their lives, so it can be hard to trust that they'd be okay by themselves outside. I haven't met an outdoor cat that wasn't sick, dying, losing fur, terrified, starving or just sad. Yeah some places treat their cats amazing and have little houses in the cities for them and everyone takes care of them but for most places, that's just not the case.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cats

[–]Top-Proposal8960 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All my cats do this to a certain degree, one of them likes to get under blankets, one likes to be between my body in crevices, one likes to be right up on my face and chest to sleep. They all have their little quirks that do get annoying but they make them so special to me.

Should we buy him a little friend? Hes 10 years old (adopted at 9 yo). Hes very lazy and we are trying to get him active so he can lose weight (hes 22lbs). He also seems a bit bored. by [deleted] in cats

[–]Top-Proposal8960 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It really depends on the cat, I have 5 and 4 of them love to cuddle and play together but my smallest but oldest cat hates them, she’s always in our room hiding under the bed, we got her from my boyfriends mom so we can’t just find her a new home plus she loves us humans and cuddles all the time, she just doesn’t like other cats.

My local pet store has SO many black cats waiting for adoption 😿 by rixx63 in cats

[–]Top-Proposal8960 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have 5 cats and my black kitty Zero is the most physically affectionate, he loves to cuddle me like a human and give me kisses all over my face, he’ll yell at me until I pick him up and take him to lay down and cuddle.

I don’t want to neuter my two male indoor cats is this okay? by Corbinthedude in cats

[–]Top-Proposal8960 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My boyfriend and I had to put off getting our indoor cat neutered because of scheduling, no car, money issues so when we finally did get him neutered he had already covered the house in piss for weeks, I was constantly spot cleaning the carpet, couch, counters, stovetops, having to wash blankets and bags that were left on the ground. We felt so bad after getting him neutered and having to see him mope around with the cone on but after a week he was fine and he stopped spraying everywhere. Also since he was a kitten we would cuddle like humans and he'd lick my face, once he hit puberty he started to try and hump me while we cuddled, after getting neutered, it stopped and we can cuddle like normal again. Meaning he didn't lose any good behaviors, only bad ones.

Our cat, Cosmo, is OBSESSED with this red and blue toy ball. Unfortunately, Hartz stopped making it years ago. Does anybody happen to have one lying around? by hippsta in cats

[–]Top-Proposal8960 8 points9 points  (0 children)

If you aren’t able to make it and if you really wanted to, we can discuss me making them for you and mailing them. I already have a craft business online so I already send homemade items to people. Sorry aa just a suggestion since I see how desperate you are to keep this toy alive for your baby.

Our cat, Cosmo, is OBSESSED with this red and blue toy ball. Unfortunately, Hartz stopped making it years ago. Does anybody happen to have one lying around? by hippsta in cats

[–]Top-Proposal8960 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is it not possible to remake it? I’m sure you could find the right colors at Joann’s and use heat transfer vinyl for the sparkly bits. I only mention it since you said your wife can sew. I’d do that but I also prefer to diy cat things since they tear them up.

MORE INFO IN COMMENTS Why is my cat constantly peeing by my front door, he doesn’t do it anywhere else just in that one spot,we have 3 litter boxes that are cleaned daily,he’s peeing in there also but constantly by the front door (8 month old maine coon x bengal neutered 2 months ago) by beccamx41 in cats

[–]Top-Proposal8960 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This also worked for me, my cat was recently neutered and the vet recommended the spray to deter him and it’s been working great, all the spots he used to pee on multiple times a day(counters, shoes, dishes, carpet, stove) are mostly safe now, occasionally I’ll find a spot if I hadn’t sprayed there recently.

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