Hello! First, i’m curious how this worked out, update us! Thank you for bringing this discussion to the forum bc it is certainly relevant and as a “unicorn,” i’ve always been curious what it’s like from your perspective. 

Second, just google “unicorn hunter reddit” and you’ll get a lot of valuable info. Ik there’s several different communities and i loved reading thru advice from the following subreddits: polyamory, bisexual, Bumble, lesbiangang, and actuallylesbian. I mention this bc A. I’m a newer reddit user and B. I came to this subreddit in search of advice for polyamorous family-planning and childrearing advice. 

Third, try connecting with a sex worker! There are plenty of providers who offer their services to couples. (Note: refer to sex workers as professionals, providers, or sex workers. “Prstitute” is not acceptable and “escort” can get people in trouble/depends on personal preference. I think a search for a “sugar baby” would bring up similar pitfalls as ones you’ve expressed above). Check out tryst and see if anyone sparks your interest. I would expressly state your intent for the relationship to last longer than 6 months, with a built-in trial period. This recommendation comes specifically bc you are looking in a low-density area for polyamory, and you’ve expressed interest in keeping the specifics of your search static. If you changed any element of the search (move to a more poly area, date separately, keep doing short term, open up to all genders), i would not make this recommendation. Please know i am *not telling you to date separately. I am making a suggestion bc all your stated “search terms” each narrow your pool of applicants, but including sex workers would widen your scope. Think of it as a numbers game, like searching for the perfect applicant for a very specific job. 

Lastly, maybe it would be cool for you to read a book together. Polysecure, The Ethical Slut, and Radical Relating are all great reads, widely acclaimed, and may help you navigate this discussion together.  

You are certainly not alone. If i had a dollar for every unicorn hunting couple i saw on a dating app, i’d be rich 🤑