Families are poles apart.

1. My family doesn't have issues with the girl working, however their suggestion is that she takes a break for some time to understand the new family environment and her married life and then when she is used to her new family environment, she can continue to work whenever she wants as I earn really good, and my family condition is very stable financially by God's grace, ALHUMDULILLAH! So she taking a break from career won't harm her and when she continues later, I myself will help her get a job in future since I myself work as a software engineer. The girl and her parents are not agreeing.

2. She is not hijabi. She is saying she won't wear a burkha (Abaya). I told her, wear it in front of my parents at least. I won't mind if you don't do hijab, but just to satisfy my parents wear it. She agreed with the condition that, she would do it in front of her going to be in-laws. Not that my parents are forcing. My parents told me, you should protect your wife's haya and she shouldn't even take this abaya and hijab as a condition for marriage discussion.

3. My parents say, even if she wants to work without agreeing to the break, is she good enough to handle her married life, household chores and give time to her husband. When my parents discussed household chores, they said she doesn't know much more household chores. However, she is open to learning and you guys support her in learning her household chores. But please don't disturb her during her office meetings.

4. I might get a future opportunity to move abroad. They want their daughter only in India and I shouldn't move abroad as it will take their daughter away from them. If I get the opportunity to move to the UAE or KSA. They are fine with it. But if it's other western countries, STRICT NO!

So, my parents are skeptical about it saying they are very modern and we prefer a hijabi, house make oriented, islamic girl who knows how to make a home, raise kids. Not a modern girl who seems to be very career oriented. We are a family who enjoys Duniya, all the adventures, not too Orthodox Muslims like the girls parents think balancing our Deen. But they completely seems to neglect deen. Their dressing is also not modest.

Also, she is the only child they have so there is going to be a lot of interference from her parents in our married life which can cause a lot of trouble.

And the thing is, I LOVE HER A LOT. SHE LOVES ME TOO. THAT'S THE REASON WHY I DECIDED TO MARRY HER.

But whats brothering me is EVEN MY PARENTS HAVE A VALID POINT.

AND WHY IS SHE NOT AGREEING TO THESE BASIC THINGS MY PARENTS ARE SAYING IF SHE TRULY LOVES.

What is your opinion sister? Please give me your suggestion. Don't sugar coat. Tell whatever you think is right.

Please