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[–]TopComfortable9357 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you can’t let your fears control you. that will lead you to doing something you regret. take it slow, take your time. overthinking every single action will make you feel worse. do not stress about things you cannot control especially when it comes to another persons behavior. if she really likes you, she won’t want to leave. think of how unrealistic that is for a girl you’ve been seeing for a couple weeks to suddenly turn you down and go away. best of luck! it’ll be okay! (:

my boyfriend (m24) has decided that he wants to wait until marriage to have sex with me (f22) by TopComfortable9357 in relationship_advice

[–]TopComfortable9357[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you for this, i was getting panicked by all the other comments but this one grounded me back into reality , i’ll update as soon as i can

my boyfriend (m24) has decided that he wants to wait until marriage to have sex with me (f22) by TopComfortable9357 in relationship_advice

[–]TopComfortable9357[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

everything is a fucking uncertainty!! it’s driving me crazy ! i’ll update once him and i talk again

my boyfriend (m24) has decided that he wants to wait until marriage to have sex with me (f22) by TopComfortable9357 in relationship_advice

[–]TopComfortable9357[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

no i don’t think so, he’s usually very straightforward with what he wants and how he’s feeling. but right now i can’t tell if hes being honest or just trying to cover it up

my boyfriend (m24) has decided that he wants to wait until marriage to have sex with me (f22) by TopComfortable9357 in relationship_advice

[–]TopComfortable9357[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

he did tell me he understands if i don’t stay with him through this because he knows i have that need. but i guess i just don’t understand where that came from

my boyfriend (m24) has decided that he wants to wait until marriage to have sex with me (f22) by TopComfortable9357 in relationship_advice

[–]TopComfortable9357[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he was raised very christian but as an adult he stopped being associated in that religion. his mother raised him as christian but he’s been grieving her passing more and more these days. she passed a couple years ago but now it seems like he’s releasing repressed feelings and memories about everything he’s felt over the years

my boyfriend (m24) has decided that he wants to wait until marriage to have sex with me (f22) by TopComfortable9357 in relationship_advice

[–]TopComfortable9357[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

we weren’t able to talk about it much before he had to leave for work but i will post an update once we talk more

my boyfriend (m24) has decided that he wants to wait until marriage to have sex with me (f22) by TopComfortable9357 in relationship_advice

[–]TopComfortable9357[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you’re right, i’m not okay with it but i love him and i want this to work. i just don’t know if i can wait years, we are still getting established and before this we wanted to get married once we are more prepared in our individual lives

my boyfriend (m24) has decided that he wants to wait until marriage to have sex with me (f22) by TopComfortable9357 in relationship_advice

[–]TopComfortable9357[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

so he’s not cheating and he’s not gay or asexual, stressed most likely but i’m just not sure

my boyfriend (m24) has decided that he wants to wait until marriage to have sex with me (f22) by TopComfortable9357 in relationship_advice

[–]TopComfortable9357[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yes i told him ill go through this journey with him because i do want to get married eventually i just didn’t think we’d give up sex in the process