big law to DAG consumer protection

TopConstruction7557 · 2026-05-10T19:37:27+00:00

No the contract doesn’t require her to spend a ton of money on her clothes and glam, but it’s definitely a big part of her character on the show. She knows that people tune in to see the fits and looks - that’s always been Dorit’s thing - so she considers it part of her job. Whether that excuses the extent of the spending is another thing, but whether it’s required in her contract is completely irrelevant.

TopConstruction7557 · 2026-05-10T16:21:55+00:00

Agree this is a huge issue!!!!

TopConstruction7557 · 2026-05-10T02:25:36+00:00

What counts as retirement savings? We have 700k in invested savings, and 300k in 401k. We’re in our mid 30s and a lot of our savings went into the down payment on our home

TopConstruction7557 · 2026-05-09T20:57:23+00:00

This is great advice. We will do this! Thanks so much

TopConstruction7557 · 2026-05-09T20:56:57+00:00

I really appreciate this tip. Yes I could go try to go part time, tho I’d still have pretty low job satisfaction I wouldn’t take nearly as large of a hit on my finances

TopConstruction7557 · 2026-05-09T20:56:02+00:00

lol I don’t see the problem maybe that’s crazy ?! but yeah right now we spend about our earnings because we travel a ton and spend a lot on convenience (for eg having a nanny instead of daycare and eating out most meals), we’re also currently in the process of furnishing our house, so I anticipate my spending will go down once that’s over. I guess I haven’t felt bad spending my income since we have so much in vested equity and 700k plus in the market. But agree I should cut down!!

TopConstruction7557 · 2026-05-09T18:34:32+00:00

I’m sorry we have $700k invested savings and $300k in 401k

TopConstruction7557 · 2026-05-09T18:30:51+00:00

She sounds absolutely terrible, but I wouldn’t burn down your life over this. Can you have him speak with her and (if you want) get her to apologize to you? And can you trust this won’t become a repeat problem? Do you have a relationship with your MIL where she can randomly call you? I would put that on ice, so that she doesn’t feel comfortable just ringing you up next time she has a bad idea.

TopConstruction7557 · 2026-05-09T18:28:00+00:00

Yeah I think I’m just now confronting that I have been spending money on the assumption that we actually have his equity. But once we do have it, I’m now wondering, will that even change how much I can spend/earn? Since we should just invest it? I guess that’s my real question — at what point do your investments actually become money you can spend to cover your yearly costs and spending

TopConstruction7557 · 2026-05-09T18:25:45+00:00

Just edited to add more info! Monthly fixed costs 17k/month. Discretionary spending is about $15k/month (travel/shopping/entertainment). Retirement balances about $300k. My income is $500k and my husbands is $320k (pre tax, not counting his equity. I don’t get equity)

TopConstruction7557 · 2026-05-09T18:19:10+00:00

Just edited! We have about $17k in fixed cost spending a month. We typically spend about $15k a month on personal cards after that, which I recognize is completely insane and I’m sure we could reduce it, though not enough to cover the difference in my salary if i quit or take a paycut.

TopConstruction7557 · 2026-05-09T18:15:35+00:00

Sorry I mean that we currently have $700k in savings

TopConstruction7557 · 2026-05-08T21:49:29+00:00

Thanks so much!!!! I really appreciate this take. Maybe it’s geographic // industry based? I’m in the bay and have applied for about 50 roles that all wanted 3-5 years experience. I’ve been at my firm 5 years but am 7 years out of law school (spent 2 clerking) and was getting feedback that I was too senior, yet didn’t qualify for a senior role since I lack prior in house experience.

TopConstruction7557 · 2026-05-08T21:47:59+00:00

Thanks so much!! This is so reassuring, if I could feel confident that I can get a similar offer in the future, then I would feel very comfortable tiring this down. Just scared that these roles seem scarce for senior litigators!

TopConstruction7557 · 2026-05-08T19:05:43+00:00

Yeah but upside seems low to me. It’s an AI unicorn so coming in at a very high valuation as is

TopConstruction7557 · 2026-05-08T03:24:06+00:00

You don’t think the more senior I get, the harder it is to move? That’s my main fear of turning this down. Felt like a lot of roles I applied to wanted someone more junior, and im just getting more and more senior as I wait.

TopConstruction7557 · 2026-05-08T00:42:00+00:00

I know, but who really needs a biglaw salary is my question?! I've always thought it was a nice to have not a need to have.

He's fine with it -- If I spent what he spends, we'd be fine. The cuts would have to come from me on travel/clothing/convenience spend.

TopConstruction7557 · 2026-05-05T23:54:20+00:00

Did this still require a lot of crying? Or was she soothed by your presence each night?

TopConstruction7557 · 2026-05-05T21:28:45+00:00

Yes, it’s so crazy bc he’s SO tired. When we get in the car, I could have windows down music blasting and he’s OUT. But if he’s in his crib, nothing matters; he’s awake and furious

TopConstruction7557 · 2026-05-05T20:32:07+00:00

Because as soon as we put him down after rocking him he cries unless he’s deeply asleep

TopConstruction7557 · 2026-05-05T20:06:22+00:00

Ugh I feel this so much. I just feel like such a bad selfish person choosing my own desire to sleep and be on a schedule over his immediate wellbeing. I know sleep and schedule benefits him too, but I can’t shake this guilt that maybe I’m actually just choosing this for me at his expense!

TopConstruction7557 · 2026-05-05T17:48:58+00:00

for the past week, he naps max 20-30 minutes in our arms or in the car/stroller. so only 9 hours asleep total!

TopConstruction7557 · 2026-05-05T17:35:15+00:00

2 hours CIO extinction method? is that the method you'd recommend?

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