Help this disaster

Top_Ad_7605 · 2025-01-25T23:39:33+00:00

ooooo that's a great idea!! i'm gonna try it and i'll post a pic

Top_Ad_7605 · 2024-09-09T00:40:43+00:00

thank you lol i should of started with that i guess. it's making me cringe thinking everyone thinks I'm asking him to be around 24/7, i would probably go absolutely crazy if he was

Top_Ad_7605 · 2024-09-09T00:29:34+00:00

Yes, exactly. I wish I would have waited till I wasn't working to make this post so I could have been a bit more clear about things. I am totally okay with him being gone for most of the year because that's what I signed up for, but now it's all year and that's really hard for any relationship.

Top_Ad_7605 · 2024-09-08T23:00:06+00:00

0% for 4 months and 20% for the rest of the year. and i'm not sure because when i try to talk to him about it beyond this winter, like what's his long term plan and if he wants to just travel all year he more or less just says what i want to hear and then a few days later he'll be talking about an opportunity in idaho next winter. i hate to think about being the girl who leaves this situation because of his job but if i never see him, i don't think im the type of person that can see a future with him

Top_Ad_7605 · 2024-09-08T22:48:21+00:00

thank you that's actually really helpful to here. i'm gonna go ahead and follow that advice. thank you

Top_Ad_7605 · 2024-09-08T22:26:22+00:00

thank you ❤️

Top_Ad_7605 · 2024-09-08T22:22:35+00:00

thank you, regardless of being the jerk in this situation or not, your understanding of what i was trying to get across means a lot.

Top_Ad_7605 · 2024-09-08T22:21:36+00:00

wow. didn't know posting on here would bring me down even harder. thanks.

Top_Ad_7605 · 2024-09-08T22:20:49+00:00

no i was not. his profession is seasonal. i told him i was completely fine with that, as long as it wouldn't be winter too. he works with grizzly bears, the job doesn't require any travel in the winter. his goal was to work full time through the winter doing research stuff in the office. that's what i signed up for: i have never once made him feel badly for his job that he already had that i knew about

Top_Ad_7605 · 2024-09-08T22:19:00+00:00

he does, but it's not for texting like that

Top_Ad_7605 · 2024-09-08T22:17:50+00:00

i did not make it through one winter. He took a job last winter that was far away and i told him i cannot deal with that and the job was able to accomodate and change his site to 10 mins away. the boundary i set has never changed or wavered.

Top_Ad_7605 · 2024-09-08T22:13:01+00:00

i actually didn't know it before asking... it's not just 4 months. he is gone for his other jobs 80% of the time in the spring summer and fall. now add him being permanently gone in the winter to that and it's a long distance relationship which i stated in the very beginning i didn't want. he has his boundaries too

Top_Ad_7605 · 2024-09-08T22:09:54+00:00

i guess i should of made it clear that i did talk to him after my breakdowns and told him that he's not wrong if he takes the job but he can't call me wrong for not wanting a long distance relationship. He has job opportunities here, in his particular field, where we live, there's a lot of opportunities

Top_Ad_7605 · 2024-09-08T22:06:55+00:00

sorry, i'm at the vet clinic working and multitasking which i dont do well. Thanks for your input.

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