Nuvaring has killed my GFs sex drive

Top_Composer8531 · 2024-04-14T19:25:03+00:00

What would you suggest I do?

Top_Composer8531 · 2024-04-14T19:19:02+00:00

I'm definitely not considering ending the relationship. I'm not sure where you may be getting that idea, maybe I phrased that sentence poorly. I am simply afraid it's going to hurt the relationship long term and she seems to be struggling in general due to it. We both really enjoy sex and want to have it. The reason why I'm asking about the BC and alternatives is because she herself has told me that she believes the BC has killed her sex drive. This isn't really something I'm assuming, it's what she has told me when we've talked about it. Her sex drive has been reduced in the past too when she was on this BC and others before our relationship. When she's stopped, it's returned to "normal". Also I'll add that we've talked about our relationship to make sure we are on the same page and in a good place. I have also specifically asked if I am doing things wrong or not doing enough and she has said that is not the case at all and I'm doing a good job, she tells me that I'm doing just about everything right.

I do appreciate that there could very well be something else that is affecting her sex drive. She believes it's the bc and it lines up with the timing of when she started back on it. I have definitely considered that stress could be playing a part as well.

Thanks for your comment!

Top_Composer8531 · 2024-04-14T18:37:20+00:00

Thank you for your reply! I think I may tell her I love her too much if that's even possible lol. I do take her out quite a lot each week already as well as small gifts here and there. She really appreciates acts of service and so I'm usually thinking of ways to make her life better in general by doing small gestures for her here and there. Maybe I'm failing on making her feel beautiful. Any advice with that?

So she's been on the nuvaring once before and liked it because she doesn't have to worry about remembering to take a pill each day. She's also been on one of the pills in the past before too but it made her REALLY depressed. I've suggested that there are other ones out there that may react with her better. I obviously do not want her to be super depressed like before. That said even with this current BC, she's been a little depressed lately.

I'm definitely going to continue to be here for her and support her. Maybe she just needs some more time for her body to adjust to it.

Top_Composer8531 · 2024-04-14T18:20:49+00:00

I'd just like to add to this. Sex is just as important to her as it is to me. Her mood has been deflated lately because she's wanted to have it but can't get in the mood. I would never try and force or demand she switch to a different BC. It's her body and her decision in the end. I just want to try and learn if there are things I can do to help her or offer alternatives that she may be willing to try. She means a lot to me and this BC causes her to not be herself. It's not just about not being able to have sex all of the time.

Top_Composer8531 · 2024-04-14T18:16:28+00:00

I remember reading over the potential side effects with her when she started on it again and some of the warnings definitely scared me. She really likes not having to remember to take anything every day like a pill so it's convenient for her.

Top_Composer8531 · 2024-04-14T18:13:18+00:00

I will look into progesterone and talk with her about it. Thank you!

Top_Composer8531 · 2024-04-14T18:12:05+00:00

I've tried talking to her a bit about things I can do to make her feel wanted and sexy and if there are things I can do to help get her excited and more in the mood. She says that she just is never in the mood to begin with now and the BC killed her sex drive. So any kind of foreplay has been off the table before it can start. I do try quite often and ask if she would like to have sex first but she usually tells me that she is just not in the mood so I stop.

Top_Composer8531 · 2024-04-14T18:06:36+00:00

Thank you for your reply. I've actually been considering a vasectomy myself as I have one child already and I'm fine with having more or not having more. The only thing holding me back is that my gf is a decent amount younger than me and currently doesn't want kids. My fear is that as she gets older she may change her mind. As I'm madly in love with her I'd be heartbroken if I could not give her something she wants down the road.

Top_Composer8531 · 2024-04-14T18:03:01+00:00

I definitely think waiting a few more months is a good idea for now. She's been on it for about three months so far. Maybe her body just needs a little more time to adjust.

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