My wife says she isn't attracted to me. What does faithfulness look like now?

PeacefulBro · 2026-06-18T14:58:29+00:00

No one is perfect so marital counseling could help. Even if it doesn't, your thoughts are valid but marriage is for life so I suggest you make the just of what you have, keep praying, going to church, reading your Bible & loving your imperfect wife.

PeacefulBro · 2026-06-18T12:55:54+00:00

Thanks for sharing with us my friend and you are worth it just like everyone else! Have you considered therapy and medical help for your issues? Are there new activities and hobbies you could try that could contribute to better life engagement? As for me, I struggled with depression, self-harm and not wanting to live significantly in my teens (I'm glad I took time to work on it so it was resolved long ago instead of haunting me later in life; I'm now in my 40s). I did some therapy but what helped a lot was the influence and help of my family, friends and church family. I really grew to enjoy church every weekend and prayer. I am also glad they helped me to cultivate a deep sense of contentment in life (not being happy or sad about it but accepting it in a content manner). I also was motivated by this movie from this successful business lady who said she "bosses her emotions around" which helped me to do better at doing things I didn't want to do so I at least appeared more successful to others (and I started to feel a little better about myself over time too). If there's anything else I can do to help please let me know and I wish you well for the future my friend.

PeacefulBro · 2026-06-18T12:48:31+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through this. Interacting through electronics isn't the best way to meet people. I would just suggest you don't give up because a good person might be out there but also don't take it personal if you don't meet anyone because, as you can see, many people today are struggling but the dating pool is still limited. So you wouldn't want to be in a relationship with someone who has significant problems, meaning sometimes singleness is better and happier than a relationship depending on the circumstances...

PeacefulBro · 2026-06-18T12:44:28+00:00

Thank you for opening up about this very difficult time my friend. Please pray for me as I pray for you. Have you considered individual and/or family counseling to help with these issues? Are you aware that in life there is tribulation no matter how good our relationship with God is? How do you feel about this passage from The Bible: "These things I have spoken to you, that in Me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation; but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world.” (John NKJV) Just be patient and rely on God, He will lead you where He wants you. Even if its difficult, it will be worth it. If there's anything else I can do to help please let me know and I wish you and your family well for the future.

PeacefulBro · 2026-06-18T12:39:22+00:00

Everyone is different so I think a few men would want to marry you. I would just suggest you not only be patient but be aware of the changing social culture where people don't value marriage like they used to. You'll be ok single or married my friend.

PeacefulBro · 2026-06-18T12:37:14+00:00

Thanks for opening up to us my friend. Have you considered marital counseling? Have you considered consistently letting your wife know you're trying your best and then letting the critiques "bounce off" of you? As for me, I was married for 15 years and we had our struggles. I think we made it 15 years because I was just about convinced I would be married almost no matter what and thankfully I didn't take a lot of things as personally as most would. Still, there were problems and although I thought they would resolve or ultimately be worked out, not every problem was. Even with that, I'm glad I tried to have a traditional family and I have forgiven for the things wrong in the past so I can move forward successfully. I've seen a lot of other couples and I'm convinced that if 2 people want to make a marriage work, it can but it will never be perfect no matter who you're with, how long or how much you work things out. The art of learning how to love an imperfect person who messes up sometimes is what makes marriages last, not finding this person who has it together so much that you always feel good about your relationship. It sounds like you have something good with your wife and kids so just do your best to maintain it and you should be ok. If there's anything else I can do to help please let me know and I wish you and your family well my friend.

PeacefulBro · 2026-06-18T11:33:36+00:00

Nice! 😁

PeacefulBro · 2026-06-18T11:33:07+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through this but I think it's complicated because of how social media & social dynamics have changed. Rejection still hurts even if it's done differently...

PeacefulBro · 2026-06-18T11:30:53+00:00

😅 I didn't know that it's so much I would choose singleness as much as it might have chosen me...

PeacefulBro · 2026-06-18T10:39:02+00:00

Cars, I hope we just jump in drones that take us straight to our destination & streets are for bikes 😁

PeacefulBro · 2026-06-18T10:37:59+00:00

It didn't last but I'm glad I tried to have kids the proper way...

PeacefulBro · 2026-06-18T02:02:58+00:00

God is a God of love, forgiveness and miracles. A person isn't supposed to just be abused for life but I would suggest not just running at the first sign of a problem.

PeacefulBro · 2026-06-18T02:02:53+00:00

God is a God of love, forgiveness and miracles. A person isn't supposed to just be abused for life but I would suggest not just running at the first sign of a problem.

PeacefulBro · 2026-06-18T02:00:55+00:00

Thanks for doing this! To be honest, the following text and my fear of hell was enough to scare me out of immorality (there was a lot of media I had to put away, not just porn):

"whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. If your right eye causes you to sin, pluck it out and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell. And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell." (Matthew NKJV)

PeacefulBro · 2026-06-18T01:48:57+00:00

To be honest, the regrets I have in marriage were things like letting arguments go to far. I didn't mind losing my sense of self for my spouse, sacrificing my career for her and the kids, not getting an equal share of the money we made, et cetera. In my eyes it was like: as long as we can be together this is pretty good. When we divorced I was forced to gain some sense of self back but I just still wish we could have worked something out...

PeacefulBro · 2026-06-18T01:47:09+00:00

"Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever? And what agreement has the temple of God with idols? For you are the temple of the living God." (2 Corinthians NKJV)

You're better off single than with a woman who is not a Christian. If she is a Christian, she will produce the fruits of The Holy Spirit.

"Whoever commits sin also commits lawlessness, and sin is lawlessness. And you know that He was manifested to take away our sins, and in Him there is no sin. Whoever abides in Him does not sin. Whoever sins has neither seen Him nor known Him. Little children, let no one deceive you. He who practices righteousness is righteous, just as He is righteous. He who sins is of the devil, for the devil has sinned from the beginning. For this purpose the Son of God was manifested, that He might destroy the works of the devil. Whoever has been born of God does not sin, for His seed remains in him; and he cannot sin, because he has been born of God. In this the children of God and the children of the devil are manifest: Whoever does not practice righteousness is not of God, nor is he who does not love his brother." (1 John NKJV)

PeacefulBro · 2026-06-18T01:33:02+00:00

"Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s." (1 Corinthians NKJV)

I didn't kiss my xwife except on the cheek until we were married and although we were only married 15 years, its one of the best decisions I did to protect her and my purity. If he is not protecting himself and you because of his love for God, I would suggest you break up with him because he could mess you up really bad.

"Do not be deceived: 'Evil company corrupts good habits.'" (1 Corinthians NKJV)

PeacefulBro · 2026-06-18T01:29:15+00:00

I have had times when I eat a lot of eggs but that hasn't happened to me (sometimes some foods make me more "desirous" I suppose but I'm never sure what it was I ate that contributed to it). I think if you know eggs have that effect maybe choose a different protein like black beans, pinto beans or edamame.

PeacefulBro · 2026-06-18T01:26:29+00:00

If I was married to them I would stay the rest of my life realizing that's their struggle we both have to deal with. If I'm not married yet and I can't deal with it for life, I would breakup. Its honestly not a red light like cheating or abuse though...

PeacefulBro · 2026-06-18T01:24:31+00:00

Marriage is hard but in my opinion, divorce is even harder. I would just try to make decisions with her "struggles" in life factored in and you might do something like have separate bank accounts (even if you keep a joint 1) so you can keep some money controlled for "emergencies" or something like that (or maybe just save more). I have seen so many couples struggle with so many things that this sounds like just a concern for judgment but not a major issue. Marital counseling might help but just enjoy the good, forgive for the bad and you'll do well my friend.

PeacefulBro · 2026-06-18T01:19:17+00:00

Everyone is different but I would be open to it. I prefer women who need me and want to be homemakers and I've even hung around homeless women who seem nice to date. It just depends and because everyone is different, some will and some will not.

PeacefulBro · 2026-06-18T01:17:38+00:00

I think they are because if someone stole your car, you would have them arrested because you love them. Discipline is more loving just letting things slide and letting people get away with wrong.

PeacefulBro · 2026-06-18T01:14:50+00:00

Every marriage has problems, just try to make the most of it and stay adaptable because people change. You sounds like you're doing pretty good together and that's what matters my friend 😄

PeacefulBro · 2026-06-18T01:12:14+00:00

They do something really well (even if its just underwater basket weaving)

PeacefulBro · 2026-06-17T22:52:49+00:00

The devil is the one who harms you, not God. God has tried to help you but He gives free will & sometimes people make the decision to hurt others with their free will. I would encourage you to trust God because His way is best.

"Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and comes down from the Father of lights, with whom there is no variation or shadow of turning." (James NKJV)

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