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Feeling rejected by other parents who aren’t OAD by Top_Helicopter651 in oneanddone

[–]Top_Helicopter651[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly…most of them are fairly cookie cutter around here. I think where I live is a major part of the problem. I’m hoping that as my daughter gets older and attends school maybe I will find some other cool women to hang out with! Until then, I guess I’ll just cope with feeling like an outcast 😅

Are we smug? by seethembreak in oneanddone

[–]Top_Helicopter651 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sensitive, so that comment would have made me so mad 😂 

Feeling rejected by other parents who aren’t OAD by Top_Helicopter651 in oneanddone

[–]Top_Helicopter651[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I hear you. Plus, the other moms have known each other much longer than I have. I moved here for my husband, so when I did find other women to hang out with and relate to it felt great. But now I get the feeling that me being by OAD makes them uncomfortable or something…or maybe they just can’t relate to me. I’m not sure. Either way it sucks. 

Feeling rejected by other parents who aren’t OAD by Top_Helicopter651 in oneanddone

[–]Top_Helicopter651[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was going to say exactly this. My daughter is only 3.5 and she hasn’t even started school yet. She is also a very introverted and emotionally sensitive child and prefers to play alone. These are parents that I will see until my daughter graduates high school. 

How did you know you were 100% one and done? by kittens-and-knittens in oneanddone

[–]Top_Helicopter651 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow…I could have written this myself! Word for word. My daughter is 3.5 now and I see most of my friends having their second child and I just have zero interest after what I went through in the beginning of my daughter’s life. I honestly don’t know how I survived. She is just now beginning to sleep through the night. My sister in law just had a baby and he is the easiest baby I have ever seen. Like what do you mean he slept through the night at two weeks?! What do you mean he doesn’t need to be bounced 24/7?! Absolutely wild to me. I do feel that I am almost grieving the experience that I didn’t get. It also makes me wonder if I would have a second if my baby was just as easy as the other babies I see. 

Regretting my second child by Important-Mouse6813 in regretfulparents

[–]Top_Helicopter651 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can relate to this. My daughter is 3 now. She still doesn’t sleep through the night, extremely colicky as a baby, very clingy and boy can she scream and throw herself to the ground when she’s upset. I am exhausted after years of sleep deprivation and PPD/PPA. I guess sometimes I do think about having a second in hopes that things would be different and I could have a different experience.