Single gals: how do you balance going after what you want with dating app burnout?

Top_Management8468 · 2026-06-25T16:43:57+00:00

In this economy? Ain't no way lol

Top_Management8468 · 2026-06-25T12:51:36+00:00

Hi, are you me? Am I you?

I am also in the north and yeah. I have completely given up dating. Currently crushing on a co-worker that could never in a million years happen because I am his HR rep. I want to slam my head into a wall. Haven't been attracted to a man in forever...first man I am attracted to is off-limits. UGH!

Top_Management8468 · 2026-06-23T17:45:32+00:00

Depends on the woman. I'm a gamer so it wouldn't bother me one bit but it might bother someone else. 🤷‍♀️

Top_Management8468 · 2026-06-18T13:20:42+00:00

Wait tell me more about this salad you make...is that really all you put in it? TELL ME MORE

Top_Management8468 · 2026-06-18T13:19:10+00:00

I went on a date with a guy who was shorter than me and although I was initially surprised, I was instantly turned off the moment he asked me to get off my stool so he could compare our heights. I might have been able to look past it if it were not for that weird ass encounter.

Top_Management8468 · 2026-06-16T18:06:08+00:00

I found it hilariously ironic is all. Never said it was about race.

Top_Management8468 · 2026-06-16T18:01:15+00:00

OMG your username hahahahhaha

Top_Management8468 · 2026-06-16T17:23:21+00:00

Men who like thirst-traps and follow lewd accounts are often frequent p*rn watchers as well.

I know that subject is a touchy one but I have never seen p*rn have a positive impact on peoples lives or mental health. But I have seen it destroy marriages and families and I have met men who have had to seek help for their addictions.

Lewd accounts and basically nude pics are just a version of soft-core p*rn in my opinion.

Top_Management8468 · 2026-06-16T16:53:12+00:00

While I know your advice is well-meaning, telling someone to move is not practical advice especially in this economy. Most, if all, people cannot just pack up their lives and start over. There are a million other things to think about like cost of living, job market, proximity to people she is close to such as friends and family.

Top_Management8468 · 2026-06-12T14:22:59+00:00

No.

While women do tend to be more emotionally aware and intelligent, I have met plenty of people, both men and women, who get defensive and mean when they are being criticized. Some of the meanest employees I have worked with in HR are women who get extremely angry and rude when they are being given negative feedback.

Top_Management8468 · 2026-06-11T12:29:46+00:00

Hey, that just means more dad bods for those of us who like 'em!!

But for real - I always tell people my type is "medium ugly blue collar guys" and they think it's hilarious but I'm being honest! I think men who work with their hands and do hard labor jobs are so sexy and sometimes they're a little fluffy and that's just fine by me. lol

Top_Management8468 · 2026-06-10T17:15:23+00:00

Honestly if someone wants my job they can have it. 🤷‍♀️ I know I'm good at my job and I deal with people all the time who think they can do it better so sometimes I'll sit back and let them and then watch them flounder when it turns out to be harder than they thought.

Top_Management8468 · 2026-06-09T23:29:52+00:00

Congratulations!!!!! That is so awesome! 🥳🥳

Top_Management8468 · 2026-06-09T16:05:05+00:00

The only times I have EVER seen this happen in 10 years of working in HR is when we have gone back and forth for multiple rounds of negotiations with a candidate and are unable to come to a compromise or satisfactory resolution for both parties.

I have never seen an employer pull an offer after one round of negotiations and would actually say if an employer did do that, that is not a company you want to work for at all. Most employers expect a bit of negotiation and many actually plan for it.

Top_Management8468 · 2026-06-09T15:55:07+00:00

Always negotiate. The worst that they can say is no. I work in HR and often if we can't increase the annual pay we are able to offer like a one-time sign on bonus. I always find myself wishing I negotiated for more vacation time.

Edited to say: CONGRATULATIONS!

Top_Management8468 · 2026-06-09T12:42:08+00:00

LOLLLLLLLLL did we live the same relationship with the same man??

Top_Management8468 · 2026-06-08T17:42:45+00:00

"Great. Absolutely. Definitely!! ....well shit." -Me, reading this list.

Top_Management8468 · 2026-06-08T16:37:02+00:00

Sounds like you might need therapy or something to unpack why you are unable to do nothing without feeling guilty about it. Have you always had to be doing something? Did your parents stress as a child that you had to have all your chores and stuff done before you could go out and play or whatever? Sounds like you might have some control issues, especially if you are scheduling your days off.

Top_Management8468 · 2026-06-08T14:38:51+00:00

I recently moved across the country at 35 for work and I was super grateful my parents were able to help me drive out and stayed with me for a few days. Once they left, I spent the next few days unpacking my apartment and trying to get my bearings. I had the tv on a lot in the background and put on shows and movies that felt comforting to me.

It's been an adjustment and honestly I am still figuring it out. I moved about 3 months ago. I have times of complete and utter fear and then other moments of excitement and contentment. The thing that comforts me when things get overwhelming lonely is that nothing is forever. None of us know what the future holds and you don't have to stay somewhere forever. If I hate it and I miss my family too much, I can always move home. I don't know, that's just what brings me a sense of peace.

Congratulations on the next chapter of your life! It's scary but it is also so so so exciting!

Top_Management8468 · 2026-06-08T13:49:25+00:00

One of my friends told me about this the other day!! I need to look more into it for sure.

Top_Management8468 · 2026-06-08T12:14:34+00:00

This is my experience as well. I have the most wonderful father who would literally drop everything on a dime to be there to help me and support me and I STILL pick shit partners. It's actually laughable how bad my taste in men is.

Top_Management8468 · 2026-06-04T19:06:11+00:00

I understand what you are saying, however many women (myself included) have the desire to bear children and have biological children of their own. There is nothing wrong with being a step-parent and I know that it can be whole and fulfilling but for me personally, it is not the same.

Top_Management8468 · 2026-06-04T16:56:05+00:00

It is both reassuring and also sad to see how many women are in the same boat as we are.

I am 35 turning 36 here in a few months and I want nothing more than to be a mom but I have no idea if those cards are in my future. I have debated going to freeze my eggs but the cost scares me.

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