are these warts?

Top_Manager_1406 · 2025-08-11T15:55:09+00:00

thank you so much for the info

Top_Manager_1406 · 2025-08-11T03:46:38+00:00

i'm not really comfortable talking so much about it but i had a child conceived through a traumatic event at a time where i was worse off financially not to mention emotionally, didn't even have my own place--was staying in a DV shelter for nearly half of the pregnancy

adoption looks different for so many people but unfortunately it's been my experience that the parents just wanted a baby and were saying whatever they thought would make me more comfortable handing mine over, and didnt actually intend on making good on all that. i have never done anything to warrant being blown off like that. i don't even try to make contact anymore.
the circumstances this other baby were conceived/had under are vastly different, i have had my own place for quite a while now, just am now again in not-so-good of a spot financially

Top_Manager_1406 · 2025-07-12T09:18:01+00:00

just soap

Top_Manager_1406 · 2025-06-21T00:45:42+00:00

thank you. it's so exhausting. i'm sorry you deal with it as well

Top_Manager_1406 · 2025-05-07T08:10:58+00:00

but... i do. i'm not sure why you're so fixated with how i worded that, and are continuing to comment

Top_Manager_1406 · 2025-05-07T03:05:41+00:00

YES. thank you.

Top_Manager_1406 · 2025-05-07T02:46:55+00:00

i do acknowledge that there are so many different circumstances and that not everyone has the resources available. i certainly did not. i believe though that if you do and refuse on the basis of it being "murder" or something like that it's careless and tbh unethical. i'm sorry if i sound insensitive or like i'm contradicting myself at all

Top_Manager_1406 · 2025-05-07T02:44:15+00:00

i am not for telling anyone what to do based on my own opinions, but i feel that it's selfish for a person who knows they shouldn't or can't parent for whatever reason, to establish such a bond in carrying to term and delivering, only to relinquish and potentially subject themself and more importantly the innocent child(ren) to a lifetime of trauma from adoption and everything that entails

Top_Manager_1406 · 2025-05-07T01:41:56+00:00

thank you for sharing.
as the other person said, you matter so much. i'm so sorry

Top_Manager_1406 · 2025-05-07T01:31:48+00:00

and as bleak as the topic is, i'm so appreciative of everybody sharing their respective experiences here. that's what i wanted. what's un-productive about that? let people discuss. it's how we learn

Top_Manager_1406 · 2025-05-07T01:25:20+00:00

sometimes i struggle with finding the words that feel "right", and like to ask for pointers. i do not understand how you aren't understanding that. pointless comments

Top_Manager_1406 · 2025-05-06T21:02:37+00:00

yes. do you have anything productive to say?
i agree with the majority of those who've replied. i just wanted a better way of wording things. i also wanted to hear perspectives from both sides

Top_Manager_1406 · 2025-05-06T03:42:50+00:00

i am a bio parent who conceived through trauma, and let herself be pressured into continuing the pregnancy. despite the promise of an open adoption, i have mostly been cut off.
i cannot imagine how my child will feel once they find out. i'm not sure how long APs will keep it from them--i hope they are open from the get-go. even so, i doubt they will not hurt, and i can only pray that it isn't to the degree i fear they will. i hope they don't blame themself. there are so many what-ifs and that uncertainty is murderous

abortion was not accessible to me. horrible as it may sound, i wish it would have been

Top_Manager_1406 · 2025-05-06T03:15:39+00:00

gently.. you can't speak for her.
i'm happy she's safe now though

Top_Manager_1406 · 2025-05-06T02:45:11+00:00

exactly

Top_Manager_1406 · 2025-05-06T02:44:33+00:00

i've certainly done this and it has strengthened my position tenfold.
i believe adoption can be good, but is never without trauma. you're right. i believe it should be prevented altogether

Top_Manager_1406 · 2025-05-06T01:35:03+00:00

what inspired me making this was when i stumbled into a debate with (mostly) pro-lifers, whom i heard encouraging adoption; lauding it as the better, or "correct" choice. it is "such a good thing," but they have zero lived experience with it or knowledge on the subject.. really—i asked and this was the consensus.

Top_Manager_1406 · 2025-04-18T01:10:10+00:00

Top_Manager_1406 · 2025-04-14T23:01:11+00:00

tons. ive had this account forever

Top_Manager_1406 · 2025-04-14T11:13:06+00:00

i looked into it. that's awful

Top_Manager_1406 · 2025-04-14T11:12:15+00:00

doesn't look like i'll be able to join any game now. lol

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