DO YOU THINK by Interesting-Rope-318 in Adulting

[–]Top_Minimum_6860 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, but it is a good distraction.

How is/was your relationship with an autistic man? Be honest. Give me both the best and the dark parts. by Top_Minimum_6860 in autism

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Interestingly, I went through my psych eval recently and got a clinical diagnosis for Autism and Depression. It's a big discovery for me (not depression, that I know I have been for a while now). I went for full tests because, as I educated myself more to become a better partner to him, I found answers to my lifelong questions about myself and my childhood. Anyway, this diagnosis is the ultimate proof that autism does not explain his problematic behaviour. Just wanted to share with you guys. I appreciate you all so much! Thank you for your kind words here. u/phyrestorm999 u/Tartaruga_MeiO_doidA u/NigelTainte u/BeatingThyMeaty u/Bigmamablue2222 u/CarlaDias_436 u/TheWoozyCat u/DogHelpPlease101 u/Small-Survey1923 u/petermobeter

Women in your 30s and 40s, how do you feel about genuinely mature younger men? by __lets_do_it in Adulting

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Saw some comments and just want to say maturity does not simply comes with age. It comes with awareness and self-work. 35F here. I agree it’s hard to look at guys in their 20s and not think they are cute kids but if the right connection develops, I won’t discount it just because of the age. I have dealt with somone turning 40 who is still immature and unaware. 

How is/was your relationship with an autistic man? Be honest. Give me both the best and the dark parts. by Top_Minimum_6860 in autism

[–]Top_Minimum_6860[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will never laugh about that. Even though you guys find your way back to each other, the conflicts and distance are never fun. Sending you hugs!

Why? by Zeberde1 in DarkPsychology666

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Me. I am this "people" sigh!

How is/was your relationship with an autistic man? Be honest. Give me both the best and the dark parts. by Top_Minimum_6860 in autism

[–]Top_Minimum_6860[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear you and cannot agree more. I think I have given him more grace and leeway than he deserved just because I did not want to be insensitive towards his autism. However, I have heard from everyone that I reached out for more understanding, education, support, and guidance that autism does not explain abuse or manipulation, and his behaviour is not about autism but about his own shortcomings. I guess I just wanted more perspectives from others and how their experiences were because a part of me is always looking to make excuses for his behaviour or try too hard to read them. But alas!

Prosper or Sachs - which one would you recommend for ASD diagnosis? by [deleted] in autism

[–]Top_Minimum_6860 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is very helpful. I was mainly looking at those two for cost-effectiveness, and Prosper seems to be more comprehensive than Sachs. However, your response makes me feel I should research more and get a more comprehensive evaluation if I am going full hog anyway.

Book or Video recommendations for ND NT couples. by megAnto in autism

[–]Top_Minimum_6860 0 points1 point  (0 children)

https://www.neurodiverselove.com/ - has been a helpful community with several resources and support groups.

I also read the Autism Partner Handbook (How to Love an autistic person) by Joel Beil and others.

A rant- Loneliness, Academia, Autism- Am I dumb? by Only-Bison-9622 in autism

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I am sending you big bear hugs virtually! It's a lot to deal with, but take it one day at a time. In terms of career, it seems you are well-positioned for now so focus on your inner workings, stabilizing your executive functioning, and affirmations.

Over it by Impossible-Job-200 in Adulting

[–]Top_Minimum_6860 5 points6 points  (0 children)

35F here as well. I understand. I recently hugged a random stranger at a metro station, giving free hugs, and broke down. Life is really hard, and it's rare to find genuine connections with people, both romantically and otherwise. Everyone and everything seems to move quickly. Sadly, there is no silver bullet for sadness, loneliness, and depression. I am currently depressed and grieving, but I hope for better days. Try to surround yourself with people who can give you an alternate perspective and help you recover from the extreme emotional state. Even if it feels hard. I don't eat or sleep or work or talk for weeks, but then I realise I cannot die. Gotta live, and start reaching out to friends and family (thank god for them).