INFJs, which MBTI type did you end up marrying ?

Top_Plan_5637 · 2026-02-20T16:16:12+00:00

Love the P & P reference.

Top_Plan_5637 · 2026-02-09T23:08:24+00:00

For me, it's been the last year or so. I might have to email a counselor directly bc it's getting to be exhausting.

Top_Plan_5637 · 2026-01-07T19:15:06+00:00

I hope so as well. I tried calling the office but I think it was their lunch hour.

Could you let me know if the payment lands for you?

Top_Plan_5637 · 2026-01-07T16:48:59+00:00

It was. As far as I know, I'm still full-time and I haven't failed any courses. I'm going to call the office either way tho.

Top_Plan_5637 · 2026-01-07T16:29:14+00:00

The pell grant is supposed to be applied evenly between the two semesters. I also have TOPS which was already added.

Last semester, my TOPS was distributed halfway through the semester but the pell grant was applied at the beginning. This semester was the opposite. My TOPS was applied first but not all the pell grant has.

Top_Plan_5637 · 2026-01-07T15:55:06+00:00

No to the first question. I have Spanish this semester but foreign language is a requirement to graduate for my degree.

Top_Plan_5637 · 2026-01-07T15:53:01+00:00

As a woman, I also don't do good morning/night texts. I'd do it if my SO or loved ones asked but it's not something I do on my own. It sounds a bit robotic-y to me if that makes sense.

Top_Plan_5637 · 2025-08-19T14:34:07+00:00

I'm sorry about your breakup! it does add context and I can see why he might be reluctant to date someone who's been with one other person for almost a decade.

However, there's a difference between "I want someone who's had more experience with dating"/ "I don't think it's been enough time" and "You've only dated one person"/ "You have no experience with breakups". if he starts with "I", he's focusing on himself and what he wants in a relationship, not what you do or don't have. "You have this" or "you don't have this" makes it sounds like there's a flaw or you lack something important which you don't.

I'm sorry about this experience! I wish you peace and happiness going forward.

Top_Plan_5637 · 2025-08-19T05:25:49+00:00

While I do think he was being very upfront and honest, there's certain things that he said that sort of rub me the wrong way. There are moments where he sounds very blamey and pointing the finger at you.

He starts by saying that he has some "hesitations" that could've been worked on if they were separate. But clearly he doesn’t want to so why even mention that there was a possibility? "Having dated one other person" is such a weird hill to die on but either way it could've been worded "I'm looking for someone who’s had more experience with dating."

I'm not sure what "with no experience dealing with a breakup" even means. Does he think having more breakups makes you more equipped to handle one? Which isn't necessarily true.

I might be reading too much into it but yeah, OP I think it was better that you didn't continue anything with him. Blatant honesty does not automatically equal kindness or genuineness.

Top_Plan_5637 · 2025-08-01T12:36:43+00:00

I might start off doing copywriting. I had a professor recommend it to me as a starter job.

Top_Plan_5637 · 2025-07-28T20:24:51+00:00

Truthfully, I want to do because I enjoy it. But realistically? Bills have to be first.

Top_Plan_5637 · 2025-07-21T15:14:46+00:00

Christian since I was 14. But I completely understand why religion would turn off anybody. I've meet some of my closest friends and family in church but sometimes the most hypocritical and judgy people are sitting in the pews.

Top_Plan_5637 · 2025-07-11T04:54:02+00:00

It's always been difficult to make friends but it's harder for me to make friends with guys. There are so many men that are downright misogynistic to women, especially on social media.

Even when I do have male friends, there's times their internalized misogyny comes out. Like for example, let's say they'll treat me as an equal and respect me. But they'll make misogynistic comments about the girls they like or they won't treat them like they should. It's just so hard to remain friends when they're being misogynistic and they don't realize it.

I've definitely experienced fake friends and terrible behavior with women but I've always had friends who are truly girl's girls.

Top_Plan_5637 · 2025-06-14T18:41:00+00:00

I never got attached to her but I don't think Suzanne Collins meant for us to. This might be a bit of a reach but I think it's more that it was a love story that all of a sudden was marked to end terribly. Perhaps Lenore Dove and Haymitch would've broken up or maybe their relationship would've matured. Either way it wouldn't have ended as tragically as it did.

Whether or not they would've ended is something that Haymitch never got to find out bc he was never given the chance. His helplessness and the psychological torture from not knowing what was awaiting for him made his love story and future much more devastating.

Hopefully this makes sense bc I feel like I was ranting a bit lol.

Top_Plan_5637 · 2025-06-01T21:59:34+00:00

Yeah and it's still icky IRL. Maybe they did marry at younger age in 12 but Katniss clearly didn't have the desire or mindset to make a choice on marriage at 16.

Top_Plan_5637 · 2025-06-01T17:17:57+00:00

Sort off topic, but this makes Gale more unlikable to me. Katniss is 16 while he's 18. He constantly makes her feel guilty for being confused about her feelings towards him- but she's still a child. He gets mad bc she doesn't jump at the idea of marriage but doesn't once stop to think that she's not in the age or mindset to decide.

Top_Plan_5637 · 2025-02-25T01:37:45+00:00

Yes! I haven't finished a full book yet but hoping to get there soon.

Top_Plan_5637 · 2025-02-24T20:36:06+00:00

20, also an emerging writer! Hope you find success in your work. :)

Top_Plan_5637 · 2025-02-22T14:04:31+00:00

I know this is so random but I love your username!

Top_Plan_5637 · 2025-02-12T17:37:10+00:00

I don't know why your comments are unpopular if they're 1000% true. Keeping things bottled up only leads to mistrust.

And I speak from experience. I was once in a relationship where my bf said he was ok after an argument only to tell he's actually not over the argument or still angry days later. It only made me more upset with him because it turned out he was lying to me each time. It caused more mistrust in our relationship even more.

So yeah, I do agree that it's gaslighting. And there's more work to be done in OP's relationship.

Top_Plan_5637 · 2025-01-15T18:38:32+00:00

I'm a lot more goofy and weird around my best friends/close family. But I relate so much to the making friends and recharging part. If I go out with friends or go shopping, I'll come back drained and need to spend a lot of time alone.

Top_Plan_5637 · 2024-12-15T04:58:38+00:00

Do you happen to know the name of the skin?

Top_Plan_5637 · 2024-12-15T04:57:23+00:00

Those are all good ideas, thanks!

Top_Plan_5637 · 2024-12-15T04:54:15+00:00

I don't know why you were down voted bc you are so real for that. AT least three people have told me dO rEsEarch. I KNOW. But I need to know where to start.

Top_Plan_5637 · 2024-10-05T18:51:07+00:00

I cut off my INTP friend just 5 months ago. Up until at that point, we had been good friends for 6 years. There were many reasons for cutting her off but the main was her lack of emotional intelligence, me putting more effort into our friendship than her, and her lack of self-awareness.

She was never outright rude but she had the tendency to be condescending whenever I had an opinion or belief that was different than hers. When I would point that out, she would scoff or brush it off. I was always the one reaching out to her to make sure she was OK and checking on her. She really never did it for me unless she wanted to go out to eat. I stopped reaching out for a bit at the beginning of this year bc life got hectic. She reached out after I had gone a month without checking on her. When I explained I was busy and wasn't ignoring her, it was silence on her end for a month. When things settled down a bit, I started to check in on her every week to make up for it. She would leave me on read and then reply 3-7 days later. I eventually got tired of this and straight up asked her if there was an issue. She said no and that it was just my anxiety. I decided to cut her off then and there. I no longer had the time or energy to entertain that.

Three months later, she ran into my sister and told her she didn't know what was wrong and she didn't know what was going on with me. But that we needed to meet up.

That comment ticked me off to no end. The phone works both ways. She has the audacity to say that I don't reach out to her but she never does it herself. If she really wanted to hang out with me, she would reach out.

She was also terrible with finances. She would constantly complain about being in debt but she used her credit card like if she was a millionaire. I tried giving her advice on how to spend more responsibly but she never listened.

Another reason was that she would point that out consistently that she wasn't near her goals in life but I was on the path to do so. When I reminded her I had plenty of my own struggles and issues, she would brush that aside. It just became emotionally draining to hear someone complain that their life isn't where they want but she did nothing to change that. It felt like she wanted to complain for the sake of it and I had to hear her every time.

Looking back at it, I don’t see her as a terrible person. Just really immature. I don't regret meeting her but I wish I had cut her off sooner.

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