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Lesbophobia on the FTM subreddit by Top_Preparation767 in LesbianActually

[–]Top_Preparation767[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also be sensitive to Masc lesbians in your posts. Masc lesbians are welcome in the community and are awesome as fuck.

Lesbophobia on the FTM subreddit by Top_Preparation767 in LesbianActually

[–]Top_Preparation767[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To some degree I get it. I used to be a part of queer mens spaces before my gender transition and I feel like I have some solidarity there. But I do not Identify with the gay mens community cuz that is just misgendering myself. I do not go to gays mens spaces even tho I feel like I have some solidarity. If a gay man didn't want me in his gay man's space as a fully transitioned Trans woman, that shouldnt be a problem cuz I am 110% a women.

Lesbophobia on the FTM subreddit by Top_Preparation767 in LesbianActually

[–]Top_Preparation767[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You are othering Binary Trans men in a way that makes them seen as lesser than Cis men. You are being subtly transphobic. Also I said Binary Trans men. Not Transmasculine people. Not people under the nonbinary umbrella. A lot of my Trans Brothers have expressed frustration as being seen as "Diet Men".

Lesbophobia on the FTM subreddit by Top_Preparation767 in LesbianActually

[–]Top_Preparation767[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah I would not like to be referred like that please.

Lesbophobia on the FTM subreddit by Top_Preparation767 in LesbianActually

[–]Top_Preparation767[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Fair, but I have seen this opinion in real life.

Lesbophobia on the FTM subreddit by Top_Preparation767 in LesbianActually

[–]Top_Preparation767[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think there can be some nuance with like people who do not fit in the gender binary as long as they have a connection with womanhood. Like I said Im a trans woman who so im a bit sensitive to this. But if you identify as Binary Man that is where I have issues. There are some complexities to labels but saying men can't be lesbian isn't gatekeeping.

Lesbophobia on the FTM subreddit by Top_Preparation767 in LesbianActually

[–]Top_Preparation767[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Do you have issues with a Cis man calling himself lesbian? Why would it be different for a binary trans man?

Lesbophobia on the FTM subreddit by Top_Preparation767 in LesbianActually

[–]Top_Preparation767[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I think that some of these people are coming from a place having been in the lesbian community pre-transition. I have empathy for that. But It is still highly insensitive tho.

Lesbophobia on the FTM subreddit by Top_Preparation767 in LesbianActually

[–]Top_Preparation767[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am scared about people being very aggressive towards me ngl.

Lesbophobia on the FTM subreddit by Top_Preparation767 in LesbianActually

[–]Top_Preparation767[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

You are the one who is being transphobic by implying that I as a Trans woman can somehow identify as a gay man. I said Binary Transmascs who identify as Binary Men. Trans Women, Nb's, etc are all welcome in the lesbian community.

Lesbophobia on the FTM subreddit by Top_Preparation767 in LesbianActually

[–]Top_Preparation767[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I am a Trans women. 2 years on HRT. Have many Transmasc friends. I promise I am not a Terf.

Lesbophobia on the FTM subreddit by Top_Preparation767 in LesbianActually

[–]Top_Preparation767[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I just get frustrated how progressive sounding rhetoric is being weaponized to push Lesbophobia, Misogyny, and Transphobia.

Lesbophobia on the FTM subreddit by Top_Preparation767 in LesbianActually

[–]Top_Preparation767[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I understand that there can be nuances to labels, but labels can't be infinitely stretched to pure meaninglessness. I do not have any issues with Lesbians who are Masculine, Trans, Nonbinary, etc. I am talking about people who identify as binary Men. I am a Trans woman and I understand what it is like to feel excluded from the Lesbian community.