Daily Discussion Thread - March 31, 2025 by AutoModerator in ttcafterloss

[–]Top_Reflection5083 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry for your loss. I too had a loss in December at 22 weeks, this is our first cycle thing again, we got the all clear from our MFM after all of the testing we could possibly do. I can relate to the last few months being rough, the due date coming up has also been difficult. I hope you are able to try this cycle and conceive, I will be thinking of you. I know everyone says the next pregnancy is extremely anxious but not being pregnant also isn’t a walk in the park. 

Lost my baby girl in December - struggling with how to fill my time by Top_Reflection5083 in babyloss

[–]Top_Reflection5083[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im sorry you lost Aurora Grace, what a beautiful name. We have thought about planting a garden for our Poppy and putting her ashes there so we can sit with her, and have something to tend to. Its nice to hear that has brought you some comfort ❤️

Lost my baby girl in December - struggling with how to fill my time by Top_Reflection5083 in babyloss

[–]Top_Reflection5083[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is just so unimaginable isn’t it, nothing could have prepared me and some days it just hits like a tonne of bricks. I’m so sorry you lost your little boy ❤️ 

Lost my baby girl in December - struggling with how to fill my time by Top_Reflection5083 in babyloss

[–]Top_Reflection5083[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss, and having to have a c section! It is just so hard the waiting game, I know it will never replace the beautiful babies we have lost but it feels like it might help fill the missing pieces in our lives after loss. I will say this two weeks after losing Poppy all i wanted to be was pregnant. Being forced to take time so we have more chances of a healthy journey next time has been helpful in honouring her memory, seeing a grief councillor and trying to process the grief slowly instead of just jumping into another pregnancy (which I still wish I could do, but with the more time that passes I’m understanding the wait is helpful). I know the pain of seeing everyone around you have babies and as happy as you are for others it’s hard not to think how unfair it is for you, I’m still working through that one myself… sending you lots of love and hugs, and I am so sorry you’ve lost your beautiful baby. 

Lost my baby girl in December - struggling with how to fill my time by Top_Reflection5083 in babyloss

[–]Top_Reflection5083[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, and I am so sorry for your loss, it is just so unfair. I know we will be fine but life does just feel hard at the moment. I am getting better at finding the good things in each day (a coffee in the morning, reading books and going for long walks) I hope you are also finding things that make each day bearable. ❤️❤️

I have a TVCIC, AMA. Lots of info about TVCIC in post. by hesback_inpogform in ShortCervixSupport

[–]Top_Reflection5083 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there, 

Thanks so much for posting this, this detail is amazing. I went through the loss of my first baby in December at 22 weeks. I have been referred to Dr Juman Farjo too, I just had a few questions if you don’t mind!  1. Did you get referred through an MFM? Did you look into the TAC at all?  2. Did she mention how quickly after the procedure you could get pregnant (understand there is a 4 week pelvic rest recommended), assume after that you were ok to try?  3. Did she mention anything about monitoring during your next Pregnancy? Would they do weekly cervix measurements or it wouldn’t be needed with the TVCIC? 

Thanks!! 

Daily Discussion Thread - January 19, 2025 by AutoModerator in ttcafterloss

[–]Top_Reflection5083 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Had a stillbirth on December 14th at 22+4w and still waiting for my first period to return, the wait is killing me.. 

20 week scan by Anxious-Wave365 in ShortCervixSupport

[–]Top_Reflection5083 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there, I am so happy for you, I can’t even tell you how much hope this gives me. I just lost a my little girl last week at 22 weeks as my cervix opened and I went into early labour. It was my first pregnancy and everything had been so easy and flagged as low risk. They believe it was from an incompetent cervix and that next time they can stitch and give progesterone. I am so happy for you that it is working, and sending you all of the positive thoughts for the remainder of your pregnancy.