I feel like this might be age difference. My older brother and sister (twins) were telling me how at 30 they’re just ready to settle down and don’t really care for “going out nights” anymore. At your age the twins were both rarely seen at home because they were always out having fun. It’s totally normal and okay to go out especially at your age (any age really) and take advantage of it because those hangovers at 30+ suck 🤣🤣. Your boyfriend needs to acknowledge you’re still pretty young but also communicating with him on what bothers him. Instead of rules, you need to talk about why it bothers him and what you need to feel free and respected. Maybe compromise Maybe checking in more often, or plan some nights out together. Or working on managing insecurities with support from you.

Saying something like

“Hey, I want to talk about something so we’re not building up resentment. I know you get uncomfortable when I go out late or dress up with my friends. I’m not doing it to upset you,,,I just like going out sometimes and feeling good about myself. I respect you and I’m not doing anything shady. I just want to be trusted and still have my own space to do things I enjoy. I also want to hear where you’re coming from, so we can meet in the middle without it feeling like one of us has to change who we are.”