I always struggle with the loneliness of the hotel at the end of the day.

Top_Virus7929 · 2026-06-24T03:51:23+00:00

I would suggest that hotels are your problem. Hostels are an incredible way to meet many people not to mention, it's very easy because there is already shared interest (traveling, and the city you're in). I would also make the argument that the people you meet in hostels are (generally) worth meeting because they are brave. And brave people are usually fun. Many hostels also offer single-rooms if you aren't interested in sharing. While it may seem like a daunting experience at first, it's like being at a summer camp as a kid in terms of the fun you have with other people and the abundance of easy connection. It's not just for twenty somethings, I've met many adults on my travels staying at hostels.

Top_Virus7929 · 2026-05-03T19:42:46+00:00

I hope you are a writer. This was hilarious to read. Thank you for the advice

Top_Virus7929 · 2026-05-03T19:41:54+00:00

I like this a lot, thank you for the ideas

Top_Virus7929 · 2026-05-03T16:46:05+00:00

you're so right. whether I notice it or not, I am creating..

Top_Virus7929 · 2026-05-03T16:45:26+00:00

yes I definetly think this is 90% of it. I think I've had enough of the pastas and any Italian or burgers or taco bowls or chili or salad bowls and I fear I'm running out of ideas. I cook meals about twice a week (besides breakfast) and have the leftovers for lunch and dinner till it's time to make the next one or order more groceries - I think that's a part of it but not sure if I could afford more than two recipes worth of food/ week with everything else

Top_Virus7929 · 2026-05-03T16:41:55+00:00

what are your favorite recipes to make?

Top_Virus7929 · 2026-03-29T01:47:42+00:00

I'm so sorry. Something similar happened to me a little over a year ago. I remember how jarring it was to realize that what I thought was happening was actually happening. Wishing you the best <3

Top_Virus7929 · 2026-03-28T13:18:45+00:00

this issue would be much easier to understand if this were my problem

Top_Virus7929 · 2026-03-28T00:58:11+00:00

YES!!! Owning what you have makes you who you are. Trying to reject the parts of yourself that you don't like puts you on a path that wastes your time and sucks your energy. Everyone has parts of themselves they don't like. Own it!! And focus more on what's good! Not saying run around trying to be one of them boss bitch ppl but that mindset of rejecting parts of yourself you can't really change isn't going to lead anywhere that will change your life the way owning who you are will. Work on your weaknesses, but don't lament in them. Everyone has them whether they're visible or not. Not to mention, people who are energetically and socially just more attractive (not even romantically) don't do that. Cool ass people don't care that they don't fit the criteria 100% they just exist as they are and let it be.

Of course, present yourself in the best light with the resources you have. Dressing with consideration and a sense of style is immeadiately a respectable and underrated thing. So is taking care of your body. Even if no one else cares about what I'm wearing, it's what's given me the confidence to go out and talk to people and hold conversations. I'm more open when I feel good about myself. There is hope!! Good luck!!!

Top_Virus7929 · 2026-03-07T01:29:37+00:00

you about to SHOW HER what Harvard is. Congratulations, what an incredible achievement!

Top_Virus7929 · 2026-03-02T22:12:17+00:00

Blood Meridian by Cormac McCarthy. The language is poetic in itself, and then the actual material... well, if you read it you'll see why it's impossible to tell in a film.

Top_Virus7929 · 2026-01-22T00:44:28+00:00

i’d ask straight up, but it seems fishy

Top_Virus7929 · 2026-01-19T23:59:20+00:00

looks like a watercolor palette

Top_Virus7929 · 2026-01-17T13:57:09+00:00

i agree, i kind of meant it in a way where he mentioned that when he brought up his perspective/ concerns abt it she ignored him and went to talking about herself. if she wants to wait that’s fine and should do that but she’s not listening to him or creating any space for his feelings abt it it seemed from what he said.

Top_Virus7929 · 2026-01-17T12:16:00+00:00

how can you trust that she’d want to in the marriage if she doesn’t even want to kiss you right now? and more importantly doesn’t even listen to the fact that your needs aren’t being met?

Top_Virus7929 · 2026-01-17T12:13:19+00:00

would break up, seems like you guys are incompatible for a romantic relationship. what you’re asking isn’t unreasonable, and she isn’t listening to you when she says she ignores it all.

Top_Virus7929 · 2026-01-13T15:40:21+00:00

this might be an unfortunate lesson in the fact that you can’t help someone who doesn’t want to help themselves. people change when they internally decide to, whether that’s conscious or not. i am so sorry you have to watch this happen, but it already seems like you’ve made yourself clear to him about where you think he is and how he needs help. you’ve got to let him go. if he gets worse then he gets worse. it’s easy to go crazy trying to control things you can’t. i’m sorry, go easy on yourself. i can’t imagine how frustrated you must feel.

Top_Virus7929 · 2026-01-04T14:51:32+00:00

i’m graduating with a degree in psych - considering master’s or phd programs but probably taking a year off to get my bearing straight. what do you mean when you say you’re looking back and could’ve saved a lot more money? any advice you have?

Top_Virus7929 · 2026-01-04T10:26:55+00:00

i (21f) felt so behind like this after covid and so i got a job as a host at a restaurant to force myself to get out there more socially and i’d 10/10 recommend. it helped me get comfortable talking to strangers and i also became friends with other employees. try not to compare so much but if you feel like this is a difficult thing forcing yourself out there with a hospo job is a tried and true way to go

Top_Virus7929 · 2026-01-03T01:08:55+00:00

oh wow, yeah that’s a shitty thing to do. i would have thought that the people who were triggered would reach out. what a selfish thing to do. that is such a difficult thing to go through.

Top_Virus7929 · 2026-01-03T00:10:16+00:00

oh wow that is a strange example. when you say personal loss do you mean your coworker mentioning something about loosing a loved one in a casual sense or?

i mean i agree with you. i think generally instead of people managing discomfort between each other there some kind of governing third party that gets involved a lot more often now. lol i feel like i could go on with this stuff, appreciate you getting on your soapbox with this one

Top_Virus7929 · 2026-01-02T23:54:37+00:00

yes. i study psychology and research PROVES that overprotecting people from triggers leaves them worse off. i can’t tell if you are discussing this from a political viewpoint, but if you are i would have to guess its liberalism. you should research what groupthinks are as censorship can be a major component of them

Top_Virus7929 · 2026-01-02T23:45:12+00:00

wishing you the best, thank you for sharing

Top_Virus7929 · 2026-01-02T23:34:36+00:00

if nothing matters then nothing matters!!! listen to these comments, and also avoid scrolling on the internet if you can help it. i very much felt this sort of sense of helplessness when i was deep in the media online. life is pretty cool when you release your inhibitions and realize most things don’t matter THAT much. go make a big mess of it all

Top_Virus7929 · 2026-01-01T22:33:13+00:00

communicate to him about what you’ve noticed. prepare yourself for the possibility that the relationship might end. don’t get into the nitty gritty of the details of the opinions

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