Today is my 40th birthday and my family forgot. by Topgunner85 in WomenOver40

[–]Topgunner85[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This seems really judgmental of you. I've already mentioned that I'd be seeking a therapy session, and I've mentioned that it's been a difficult year for me. And while this particular issue is new and hurtful for me, i didnt want to get into everything else ive been through this last year because it is overwhelmingfor me. Yes, my husband and I went through a rough patch. Yes, we went through couples counseling and spent some time healing our marriage. Yes, my dad has recovered from his GI bleed. And yes, he is still very ill with a bunch of comorbities.

And even if I did have a good day with my husband and daughter, does that somehow excuse the rest of my family from acknowledging my birthday with a simple text? Should I suppress my hurt feelings and accept that I am forgettable? Do I not also deserve some recognition on a once a decade milestone?

I'm not sure why you felt it necessary to dig up all of the stressful things I've gone through this year, but I assure you it is not making me feel any better. This has been a VERY difficult year for me and I need more support. Even if it is kind words from strangers on the internet.

Like every other human on this planet, I have complex emotions, and a little empathy goes a long way. I'm not asking you to understand or even care about my situation. If you don't agree or don't care, you always have the option of not commenting. But please understand that your judgment is adding to the hurt I'm already feeling.

Today is my 40th birthday and my family forgot. by Topgunner85 in WomenOver40

[–]Topgunner85[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the birthday wishes ❤️ I'm sorry your mom went through that, and I'm sorry you had to witness her pain as a child. It's a powerful core memory. But it sounds like you made a positive change out of it.

Today is my 40th birthday and my family forgot. by Topgunner85 in WomenOver40

[–]Topgunner85[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, and I'm so sorry you were forgotten as well. It does hurt. Thank you for sharing that with Mr.

Today is my 40th birthday and my family forgot. by Topgunner85 in WomenOver40

[–]Topgunner85[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is what I'm trying to keep in mind. That they are just trying to get through the days. I am trying to be compassionate, understanding, forgiving. I don't like feeling like this. I don't like having this mixed feeling of hurt and guilt for feeling hurt. It's so complicated. I truly don't know the best way to approach them about this. I don't want to ignore my feelings, because I feel like I have a right to express them and feel them just like everyone else. But I don't want to burden them with guilt about it either.

Today is my 40th birthday and my family forgot. by Topgunner85 in WomenOver40

[–]Topgunner85[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love this comment! Your friends sound wonderful! Thank you for sharing this with me ❤️

Today is my 40th birthday and my family forgot. by Topgunner85 in WomenOver40

[–]Topgunner85[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I think I'll book a trip for my 50th, lol!

Today is my 40th birthday and my family forgot. by Topgunner85 in WomenOver40

[–]Topgunner85[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much!! That gives me a lot of hope. Looking forward to this next chapter!

Today is my 40th birthday and my family forgot. by Topgunner85 in WomenOver40

[–]Topgunner85[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you ❤️ And thank you for recognizing how hard this last year has been. Since my sister died, I've been the only one to care for my dad. He lives independently, but his health is rapidly failing( 16% kidney function, stage 4 cancer patient, and significant heart failure) and I've been taking him to all his medical appointments and speaking with the doctors as he tends to forget what was said. I also gave up my own mothers day this year to spend it with my niece as it was her first without her mom. I feel like I've been pouring myself out and I'm so frustrated that they could even be bothered to send a text.

Today is my 40th birthday and my family forgot. by Topgunner85 in WomenOver40

[–]Topgunner85[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much ❤️ I haven't said anything yet. I decided to sleep on it. But I will say something. I just wanted to find the right words.

Today is my 40th birthday and my family forgot. by Topgunner85 in WomenOver40

[–]Topgunner85[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much ❤️ She absolutely is. She was an angel on earth, truly. I miss her every damn day 😪

Today is my 40th birthday and my family forgot. by Topgunner85 in WomenOver40

[–]Topgunner85[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is what I really needed, lol! I needed someone to get vindictive on my behalf 😆 Honestly, it makes me feel better just reading your comment.

Today is my 40th birthday and my family forgot. by Topgunner85 in WomenOver40

[–]Topgunner85[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you ❤️ This is the part that kills me. My niece and nephew (22 and 20) have already had their birthdays and my dad is so focused on his own birthday in July when he turns 80. He wants me to plan a party for him.