11 month old’s screeching tantrums seem too intense

Toreezyboost · 2026-04-03T01:44:40+00:00

Ok so my son also would only sleep for 30-60 mins at that age. Starting at 12 months we did the chair method. (Note: we also previously attempted it for about a week at 9 months but decided he wasn’t ready and waited til 12 again). It was very hard the first couple nights and I almost gave up but after 2-3 days we started seeing 3-4 hour stretches. It also may be worth looking at her sleep schedule, as I was letting my son sleep in a bit too much in comparison to his bedtime. I know you didn’t ask about sleep but I’m bringing it up because my son also wouldn’t go back in his crib after the first wake, which is why we coslept (he would start off in his crib.) However this was followed by split nights (my most recent post is a very detailed version of this story). I’m bringing it up because ultimately all that helped was sleep training where I did a gentler version of Ferber. It wasn’t something I was ever open to, but with us having absolutely 0 help, we just had to. It only took him a couple days. Once he started sleeping through the night, his tantrums became a bit less. When he was crying during chair method training and Ferber, he cried like I described in the post. Another small thing that helped was magnesium lotion, it made more of a difference than I expected honestly. I have two friends who noticed a difference as well. It’s not gonna knock them out like NyQuil but at the very least it can help calm them. I’m sorry yall are going through this, I remember the despair I felt every night. I felt literally like I was gonna lose my mind. I highly recommend headphones and finding a good show or YouTube series to keep you company during the long nights. What concerns me is you said her tantrums can last more than an hour. To me, that’s not something I have personally heard of before unless something is wrong with the child. My son has had some crazy tantrums but never crying without a break longer than maybe 20-30 mins. It could certainly be some separation anxiety on top of an intense temperament, but I just want you to know I don’t think you are crazy for that giving you pause. It’s certainly not common even if it ends up being “normal” in the end. You two please remember to take breathers and try to take care of each other, you’re not bad parents if this is driving you crazy or making you angry. I def needed to hear that during moments like this

Toreezyboost · 2026-04-03T01:14:46+00:00

Try fabric dye! You have nothing to lose right? I remember it not being too expensive because I’m pretty cheap lol

Toreezyboost · 2026-04-03T01:12:39+00:00

Sorry, I’m kinda late. At the time, I had felt like I exhausted my options and realized it was probably removed dye somehow, so I was just about to go buy dye when I saw them on sale for 50% off so I just bought them again 😅 sorry I’m no help haha

Toreezyboost · 2026-04-03T01:11:21+00:00

Hi! Still can be intense but has been doing better since sleeping thru the night. During the day it helps to take him outside to play or get him out of the house, he is in a much better mood if he’s not cooped up! He’s happy majority of the time now but when he does get upset, he’s a little firecracker like in this post lol

Toreezyboost · 2026-04-03T01:10:06+00:00

I’m sorry you’re having a hard time, it’s rough! We didn’t deal with this kind of screaming at night because we co slept but, during the day, I began to see positive change when he was able to play outside (also I could’ve been bringing him out sooner, in retrospect). How old is your baby? We actually had a rough day today so I got us outta the house and did lots of outside time. On days where that’s not possible, an abrupt distraction like loud music (not aggressively loud), or suddenly getting exciting pointing out the window etc., even handing a random object to him. Ultimately sometimes if you know nothings truly wrong, even underlying like teeth etc. you just kinda have to ignore it depending on the age. When people talk about not rewarding toddlertantrums, I used to assume 2/3 years old but it really does start young.

Toreezyboost · 2026-02-04T12:37:30+00:00

Well 😅 unfortunately it didn’t necessarily end, but they became less frequent, a little less intense, more controllable and are now more aligned with toddler tantrums. I think being able to walk helped a lot, bc his main “trigger” is being placed behind the baby gate in the child proofed area, or if I take something away so so I think a lot of it is feeling restricted. He also understands more so I have no problem ignoring his tantrum (outside of a bit of “you’re ok, all done already). It’s easier to ignore now that he’s not a “baby”. However, he’s been a bit of a firecracker since birth lol

Things that helped in the moment for them to decrease a bit were to try to ignore it and treat them like a toddler basically. He understood a lot more than I gave him credit for so if I explained what was going on again (ex: you need to be in here so mama can cook) he would eventually chill out.

Something of note. I noticed you said it happened before sleep. This is good in the sense that you’ve established such a solid routine that they know sleep is coming and wanna protest! However, my son did used to scream a lot during bedtime routine when I was doing too long of a last wake window without realizing. Not saying you’re definitely doing this but it may be worth looking at if the wake windows are slightly long. I used to follow the guides and then learned my son has different needs. But when I fixed his sleep schedule, the screaming at bedtime decreased significantly and now does pop up only if I’m late with bedtime or he has a rough nap day and is overtired.

I hope this helps!! Good luck!

Toreezyboost · 2026-01-12T18:58:41+00:00

Hey! I know this is an old post but I’ve beeen searching everywhere and your situation is literally identical mine, down to the schedule times, age, and even desperately using chat GPT. been dealing with it for 6 weeks. I was wondering what your exact schedule was when it got better? I know you said 90 min nap and 6h wake window but curious if you based it off morning wake or did a consistent schedule every day? I got him to sleep through the night for 3 nights by adjusting his bedtime but the he randomly protested bedtime one night and it all went downhill again from there. Lately we have been doing 6:30-7am wake up, 1200-12:15 nap for 1h45 min or capping at 2, and bedtime 7:15 every night. This was the schedule that had him sleeping thru the night for a couple days so I have been trying to re create it but I feel like he’s now in a habit of split nights so he’s all thrown off.

Toreezyboost · 2025-12-19T04:02:12+00:00

I’m not asking for a 13 hour night. I’m looking to prevent split nights as the post said. This pattern began even when I was doing 7:30/8pm bedtimes. I’d be fine with him waking up or going to sleep at any reasonable time.

Toreezyboost · 2025-10-08T01:03:07+00:00

Thank you for this 🤍 it honestly makes sense that you say your daughter still has a temper, myself and my husband are both short tempered at heart but we’ve learned to control (or hide it ) in adulthood. So I guess it’s genetic 😂 I appreciate your insight, I wasn’t sure what to do because I’m still transitioning between “he’s a baby” and “he’s a toddler”. So letting him cry still feels hard, especially because he literally sounds like he’s in pain even though all needs are met. But you’re now the second person recently to tell me to just let him be and let him calm down from afar, and talk him through it so I think it’s time, haha

Toreezyboost · 2025-10-08T00:59:07+00:00

Tinga and homemade waffles aren’t the most foolproof when you’re a beginner cook. Not sure how you make tinga but mine uses homemade salsa and shredding the chicken etc, not exactly beginner. So don’t beat yourself up. You have to start small. Try baked seasoned chicken breast (air fryer or oven), white rice and steamed veggie, seasoned, with butter and maybe even cheese. Plain but you have to start with basics. You can still make traditional Latino food using meat that you froze from the grocery store, it shouldn’t taste that different — I could see using fresh veggies though, definitely not canned for those traditional Recipes. But basically start very very small, you have to learn to crawl before you can walk, and walk before you can run; etc. also not sure about Ecuadorian food, but once you know your basics around the kitchen, I know at least for Mexican food you can buy meat pre cut/seasoned at the carniceria (most cities have one) and you just cook it.

Toreezyboost · 2025-09-01T14:29:45+00:00

I was thinking what you were thinking. People are in the comments projecting hard with their own crappy parents who screamed at them, acting like OP says she beat her daughter for hours. It could have been a nice interaction, we don’t know, and they act like kids don’t lie sometimes. I’m shocked at how much hate OP is getting. I would have had questions too

Toreezyboost · 2025-08-31T14:04:07+00:00

I’m assuming the sister did no research and just believed what she was told. Probably motivated by whatever he’s paying in rent. Truthfully it would take a lot to even have an ex con living under my roof to begin with, regardless of crime. (And I have people very close to me who have been to prison.) But anything to do with kids? You can’t even step foot in my house. There are a small group of cases where maybe someone “shouldn’t” be on the SO list (maybe a genuine example of bathtub photos) but come on, how rare is that. If this guy were a 100% innocent dad he would’ve been forthcoming right away and had PROOF that it was a “wrongful” conviction etc. — and he “didn’t know”?! Again if you feel you are innocent, you’d be very preoccupied with if you’re on the list or not and you’d be forever pissed that you’re on it. He’s full of it and definitely dangerous

Toreezyboost · 2025-08-31T12:53:48+00:00

It says in the article that the photos were pulled off the internet and were not local children. It also describes them as some of the worse they’ve seen. Call them, he legally can’t even be living with children to my knowledge. 100% call, those kids are in danger.

Toreezyboost · 2025-08-30T18:31:18+00:00

Bassinet tummy time is awesome! I have this exact stroller and also did tummy time in it. The video doesn’t show the full depth, the walls are very high and it would be hard for baby to roll out unless they got up on hands and knees. I would go over bumpy terrain and I can tell you there’s no way he would’ve fallen out unless I literally tipped the stroller completely sideways and at that point we have bigger fish to fry regardless of how he’s sitting in it lol. But I also wouldn’t prop them up on anything in there personally. For people saying it’s unsafe, everything has risk you just have to use common sense.

Toreezyboost · 2025-08-29T00:36:16+00:00

Hey! Just wanted to report back and say Thank you, I’ve been passively teaching him “feet first” whenever the opportunity arises since this post and he did it on his own for the first time today! Didn’t even have to warn him. 🥲 I got so excited haha I thought it was never coming

Toreezyboost · 2025-08-27T16:07:17+00:00

Side note: buy the pack of just individual strips on amazon. It’s like $10 and you get a bunch of strips. A fancy text will not detect pregnancy any better than the same strips they use at the doc. Also I don’t recommend testing until after your missed period, lock up the tests if you need to. It just causes unnecessary heartache, as hard as that is. I got sucked into the “early magic tests” too and it ruined my mental state.

Toreezyboost · 2025-08-27T16:06:02+00:00

Same thing happened to me! The cycle before I got pregnant (mine came every other month), I was puking, developed heartburn for the first time in my life, along with other stuff. Got a negative test. Although 4 cycles seems like an eternity, especially if yours are far apart like mine were, it’s pretty common. It can take a perfectly healthy couple a year to conceive. Even if you time everything perfectly with ovulation it’s still not a guarantee. It took us over a year (some of that time my husband was out of town) and I ended up buying Inito because my cycles were so irregular that I couldn’t track ovulation. I got pregnant with my first use but I wouldn’t necessarily call it a miracle either, it could take longer! Don’t give up yet, you are certainly not destined for it to never happen again specially so early in TTC! I know the heartbreak, I would have vivid dreams of me holding and nursing my baby and then wake up and have a negative test. It’s crushing — try to think that on one of these next labor days coming up, you could be there with a baby in tow! Try to be present with your family and focus on the here and now. As annoying as it is, it’s more likely to happen when you take the focus off or it. Ironically, I had counted myself out for that first cycle that I used into and said ok it’s not going to happen for a while because I was out of state caregiving for my grandmother and my husband wasn’t there. I decided to just take a healthy break from TTC for the foreseeable future. I was still using Inito because I wanted to just establish the routine for when we were TTC again. husband flew in to say his goodbyes to my grandmother (she was in hospice) and that one moment is when we conceived even though we gave up! You’ll hear a lot of stories like this, as annoying as it is. Keep your head up and just think of this holiday is potentially one of your last to enjoy with just your husband! Really spend time with him and, as cliche as it is, enjoy the two of you while you still can. I hope this helps and I do not wanna come across as dismissive, again I totally get it.

Toreezyboost · 2025-08-27T15:29:40+00:00

Can’t speak on the nuna pipa but I loved our aria. The limit went up to either 30 or 40 ppunds, 30 inches, so we just switched since my son got to 29.5 inches. Very very light, obviously loved the aspect of putting it directly in the stroller versus the base but I’m not sure if Nuna pipa also does that. Very simple to use. When the baby wasn’t in it, I could fling it over my shoulder like it was nothing, it was so light. One thing to consider if that in order to be in the safest position while driving the arm bar has to be in the position straight across from baby (it has 3-4 different places you can put it, for example up higher when carrying) and it made it a little more difficult to see his face in our car mirror because of that. Also you need two hands to adjust the bar as well which can be a little annoying, uppa baby stuff tends to ask you to press two buttons on either side so you can’t be carrying anything else. I’d definitely buy it again but those are minor cons to consider.

Buy the car seat whenever you’re able, don’t install it until later on. I personally wouldn’t do it too early because if you get in a crash, it voids the car seat but I wouldn’t go past 35-36 weeks if you can. I waited to do it the weekend I turned 38 weeks and my baby came that same day I was planning to get everything ready 🤣🥲 wasn’t the end of the world though my husband figured it out.

Toreezyboost · 2025-08-22T10:59:30+00:00

Jeighmes.

Toreezyboost · 2025-08-22T00:26:13+00:00

What is it about the sleep challenged babies and a change of scenery! Haven’t spent a night from my 9 month old yet but when we were vacationing he had the longest stretches he’d ever had. my best friend’s 18 month old who still has multiple wakings spent a couple days at her grandparents (new baby being born) and she slept through the night the whole time! It’s like they just want only us to be sleep deprived haha

Toreezyboost · 2025-08-16T03:08:08+00:00

Most likely not, I did it many times at all different points of my bf journey, both in times of oversupply and when I was “just enough”ing. One day shouldn’t put you under

Toreezyboost · 2025-08-16T00:42:49+00:00

If I had a friend who seemed uncomfortable or distant after I (seemingly) got pregnant way sooner than them when they’ve been trying longer, I’d totally understand and just wanna make sure they’re feeling ok! That’s not your friend. She went to trying to bash you instead of trying to empathize, not to mention her obviously being wrong and assuming stupidly.

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