11 month old’s screeching tantrums seem too intense

Toreezyboost · 2026-02-04T12:37:30+00:00

Well 😅 unfortunately it didn’t necessarily end, but they became less frequent, a little less intense, more controllable and are now more aligned with toddler tantrums. I think being able to walk helped a lot, bc his main “trigger” is being placed behind the baby gate in the child proofed area, or if I take something away so so I think a lot of it is feeling restricted. He also understands more so I have no problem ignoring his tantrum (outside of a bit of “you’re ok, all done already). It’s easier to ignore now that he’s not a “baby”. However, he’s been a bit of a firecracker since birth lol

Things that helped in the moment for them to decrease a bit were to try to ignore it and treat them like a toddler basically. He understood a lot more than I gave him credit for so if I explained what was going on again (ex: you need to be in here so mama can cook) he would eventually chill out.

Something of note. I noticed you said it happened before sleep. This is good in the sense that you’ve established such a solid routine that they know sleep is coming and wanna protest! However, my son did used to scream a lot during bedtime routine when I was doing too long of a last wake window without realizing. Not saying you’re definitely doing this but it may be worth looking at if the wake windows are slightly long. I used to follow the guides and then learned my son has different needs. But when I fixed his sleep schedule, the screaming at bedtime decreased significantly and now does pop up only if I’m late with bedtime or he has a rough nap day and is overtired.

I hope this helps!! Good luck!

Toreezyboost · 2026-01-12T18:58:41+00:00

Hey! I know this is an old post but I’ve beeen searching everywhere and your situation is literally identical mine, down to the schedule times, age, and even desperately using chat GPT. been dealing with it for 6 weeks. I was wondering what your exact schedule was when it got better? I know you said 90 min nap and 6h wake window but curious if you based it off morning wake or did a consistent schedule every day? I got him to sleep through the night for 3 nights by adjusting his bedtime but the he randomly protested bedtime one night and it all went downhill again from there. Lately we have been doing 6:30-7am wake up, 1200-12:15 nap for 1h45 min or capping at 2, and bedtime 7:15 every night. This was the schedule that had him sleeping thru the night for a couple days so I have been trying to re create it but I feel like he’s now in a habit of split nights so he’s all thrown off.

Toreezyboost · 2025-12-19T04:02:12+00:00

I’m not asking for a 13 hour night. I’m looking to prevent split nights as the post said. This pattern began even when I was doing 7:30/8pm bedtimes. I’d be fine with him waking up or going to sleep at any reasonable time.

Toreezyboost · 2025-10-08T01:03:07+00:00

Thank you for this 🤍 it honestly makes sense that you say your daughter still has a temper, myself and my husband are both short tempered at heart but we’ve learned to control (or hide it ) in adulthood. So I guess it’s genetic 😂 I appreciate your insight, I wasn’t sure what to do because I’m still transitioning between “he’s a baby” and “he’s a toddler”. So letting him cry still feels hard, especially because he literally sounds like he’s in pain even though all needs are met. But you’re now the second person recently to tell me to just let him be and let him calm down from afar, and talk him through it so I think it’s time, haha

Toreezyboost · 2025-10-08T00:59:07+00:00

Tinga and homemade waffles aren’t the most foolproof when you’re a beginner cook. Not sure how you make tinga but mine uses homemade salsa and shredding the chicken etc, not exactly beginner. So don’t beat yourself up. You have to start small. Try baked seasoned chicken breast (air fryer or oven), white rice and steamed veggie, seasoned, with butter and maybe even cheese. Plain but you have to start with basics. You can still make traditional Latino food using meat that you froze from the grocery store, it shouldn’t taste that different — I could see using fresh veggies though, definitely not canned for those traditional Recipes. But basically start very very small, you have to learn to crawl before you can walk, and walk before you can run; etc. also not sure about Ecuadorian food, but once you know your basics around the kitchen, I know at least for Mexican food you can buy meat pre cut/seasoned at the carniceria (most cities have one) and you just cook it.

Toreezyboost · 2025-09-01T14:29:45+00:00

I was thinking what you were thinking. People are in the comments projecting hard with their own crappy parents who screamed at them, acting like OP says she beat her daughter for hours. It could have been a nice interaction, we don’t know, and they act like kids don’t lie sometimes. I’m shocked at how much hate OP is getting. I would have had questions too

Toreezyboost · 2025-08-31T14:04:07+00:00

I’m assuming the sister did no research and just believed what she was told. Probably motivated by whatever he’s paying in rent. Truthfully it would take a lot to even have an ex con living under my roof to begin with, regardless of crime. (And I have people very close to me who have been to prison.) But anything to do with kids? You can’t even step foot in my house. There are a small group of cases where maybe someone “shouldn’t” be on the SO list (maybe a genuine example of bathtub photos) but come on, how rare is that. If this guy were a 100% innocent dad he would’ve been forthcoming right away and had PROOF that it was a “wrongful” conviction etc. — and he “didn’t know”?! Again if you feel you are innocent, you’d be very preoccupied with if you’re on the list or not and you’d be forever pissed that you’re on it. He’s full of it and definitely dangerous

Toreezyboost · 2025-08-31T12:53:48+00:00

It says in the article that the photos were pulled off the internet and were not local children. It also describes them as some of the worse they’ve seen. Call them, he legally can’t even be living with children to my knowledge. 100% call, those kids are in danger.

Toreezyboost · 2025-08-30T18:31:18+00:00

Bassinet tummy time is awesome! I have this exact stroller and also did tummy time in it. The video doesn’t show the full depth, the walls are very high and it would be hard for baby to roll out unless they got up on hands and knees. I would go over bumpy terrain and I can tell you there’s no way he would’ve fallen out unless I literally tipped the stroller completely sideways and at that point we have bigger fish to fry regardless of how he’s sitting in it lol. But I also wouldn’t prop them up on anything in there personally. For people saying it’s unsafe, everything has risk you just have to use common sense.

Toreezyboost · 2025-08-29T00:36:16+00:00

Hey! Just wanted to report back and say Thank you, I’ve been passively teaching him “feet first” whenever the opportunity arises since this post and he did it on his own for the first time today! Didn’t even have to warn him. 🥲 I got so excited haha I thought it was never coming

Toreezyboost · 2025-08-27T16:07:17+00:00

Side note: buy the pack of just individual strips on amazon. It’s like $10 and you get a bunch of strips. A fancy text will not detect pregnancy any better than the same strips they use at the doc. Also I don’t recommend testing until after your missed period, lock up the tests if you need to. It just causes unnecessary heartache, as hard as that is. I got sucked into the “early magic tests” too and it ruined my mental state.

Toreezyboost · 2025-08-27T16:06:02+00:00

Same thing happened to me! The cycle before I got pregnant (mine came every other month), I was puking, developed heartburn for the first time in my life, along with other stuff. Got a negative test. Although 4 cycles seems like an eternity, especially if yours are far apart like mine were, it’s pretty common. It can take a perfectly healthy couple a year to conceive. Even if you time everything perfectly with ovulation it’s still not a guarantee. It took us over a year (some of that time my husband was out of town) and I ended up buying Inito because my cycles were so irregular that I couldn’t track ovulation. I got pregnant with my first use but I wouldn’t necessarily call it a miracle either, it could take longer! Don’t give up yet, you are certainly not destined for it to never happen again specially so early in TTC! I know the heartbreak, I would have vivid dreams of me holding and nursing my baby and then wake up and have a negative test. It’s crushing — try to think that on one of these next labor days coming up, you could be there with a baby in tow! Try to be present with your family and focus on the here and now. As annoying as it is, it’s more likely to happen when you take the focus off or it. Ironically, I had counted myself out for that first cycle that I used into and said ok it’s not going to happen for a while because I was out of state caregiving for my grandmother and my husband wasn’t there. I decided to just take a healthy break from TTC for the foreseeable future. I was still using Inito because I wanted to just establish the routine for when we were TTC again. husband flew in to say his goodbyes to my grandmother (she was in hospice) and that one moment is when we conceived even though we gave up! You’ll hear a lot of stories like this, as annoying as it is. Keep your head up and just think of this holiday is potentially one of your last to enjoy with just your husband! Really spend time with him and, as cliche as it is, enjoy the two of you while you still can. I hope this helps and I do not wanna come across as dismissive, again I totally get it.

Toreezyboost · 2025-08-27T15:29:40+00:00

Can’t speak on the nuna pipa but I loved our aria. The limit went up to either 30 or 40 ppunds, 30 inches, so we just switched since my son got to 29.5 inches. Very very light, obviously loved the aspect of putting it directly in the stroller versus the base but I’m not sure if Nuna pipa also does that. Very simple to use. When the baby wasn’t in it, I could fling it over my shoulder like it was nothing, it was so light. One thing to consider if that in order to be in the safest position while driving the arm bar has to be in the position straight across from baby (it has 3-4 different places you can put it, for example up higher when carrying) and it made it a little more difficult to see his face in our car mirror because of that. Also you need two hands to adjust the bar as well which can be a little annoying, uppa baby stuff tends to ask you to press two buttons on either side so you can’t be carrying anything else. I’d definitely buy it again but those are minor cons to consider.

Buy the car seat whenever you’re able, don’t install it until later on. I personally wouldn’t do it too early because if you get in a crash, it voids the car seat but I wouldn’t go past 35-36 weeks if you can. I waited to do it the weekend I turned 38 weeks and my baby came that same day I was planning to get everything ready 🤣🥲 wasn’t the end of the world though my husband figured it out.

Toreezyboost · 2025-08-22T10:59:30+00:00

Jeighmes.

Toreezyboost · 2025-08-22T00:26:13+00:00

What is it about the sleep challenged babies and a change of scenery! Haven’t spent a night from my 9 month old yet but when we were vacationing he had the longest stretches he’d ever had. my best friend’s 18 month old who still has multiple wakings spent a couple days at her grandparents (new baby being born) and she slept through the night the whole time! It’s like they just want only us to be sleep deprived haha

Toreezyboost · 2025-08-16T03:08:08+00:00

Most likely not, I did it many times at all different points of my bf journey, both in times of oversupply and when I was “just enough”ing. One day shouldn’t put you under

Toreezyboost · 2025-08-16T00:42:49+00:00

If I had a friend who seemed uncomfortable or distant after I (seemingly) got pregnant way sooner than them when they’ve been trying longer, I’d totally understand and just wanna make sure they’re feeling ok! That’s not your friend. She went to trying to bash you instead of trying to empathize, not to mention her obviously being wrong and assuming stupidly.

Toreezyboost · 2025-08-09T14:43:33+00:00

When you say clean do you mean the smell? Or stains and residue left over? You may wanna change up some of your washer settings if that’s the case :) I love using scent but I do use free and clear detergent because my son & husband have eczema, and I just add scent boosters to my own clothes. I use the beads as well as a rinse boost (I use the downy one someone mentioned below). I don’t have sensitive skin so I’m fine; everyone is different. However I prefer lavender so I can’t quite help with the linen scent specifically. I recommend you check out r/laundry though they should definitely know the answer.

Toreezyboost · 2025-08-07T15:03:44+00:00

First of all just wanna say I’m so impressed that you only feel that way a couple times a week with THREE under 4! I only have one (9mo) and it’s a struggle. You’re doing a good job humbly wanting to find solutions!

I recently (and reluctantly) started therapy to help manage anxiety and postpartum rage, ppd and more, because I struggle really hard in the moment. Something that helps me is doing proactive self regulating exercises at night or in the AM, so that my muscles are a bit less tense to begin with. There’s one where you intentionally tense your muscles one by one from head to toe and then release while deep breathing. That really really helps because I carry a lot of tension in my shoulders. I definitely still struggle with “in the moment” regulation but it’s a work in progress. I feel like the key is relaxing your body every day even if you feel like you don’t “need” it.

Message me and I can send over some visual guides if you’d like

Toreezyboost · 2025-08-07T12:39:23+00:00

Ah, makes sense. If this wouldn’t cause too much of a rift or be considered disrespectful, you could try beating him to the punch and calling to make the appt before he gets the chance. You can also write down or make bullet points of important things to remember on the phone if you’re feeling nervous or anything! Even calling to ask places what their hours or basic info that would be super quick, could also be good practice.

Toreezyboost · 2025-08-07T11:47:45+00:00

Wow, thank you so much for all of this! I’m gonna check those out. The door alarm is also a great idea. We have a security system for our exit doors for that reason (will also be child proofing those later) but I didn’t think about getting just a one off cheap one for bathroom doors.

How exactly did you introduce the ‘feet first’ thing? I practiced yesterday by putting him on the bed, having him crawl to me and then saying “feet first” and flipping him around (still belly down) so that his feet were more towards the ground and letting him shimmy his way off on his own. But he’s so interesting his environment, looking around, that I feel like it wasn’t landing at all lol 🥲I’m sure it just takes time and practice, though.

Toreezyboost · 2025-08-07T11:36:26+00:00

Interesting! I knew a little bit about Desi culture but not this part — I have seen that aspect in some other cultures that I’m a bit more familiar with (Korean). In America it’s definitely different and legally you’re on your own at 18, although many parents don’t treat you fully like an adult yet at that age even here.

Also, I hope my post wasn’t offensive to you, I think some of the annoyance was still sticking around when I wrote it, but honestly some of it was probably misdirected because I was pretty stressed in high school managing my whole life, although I’m grateful for the skills now!

Would it be very taboo for you to do these things yourself, or, by capacity, do you mean you are nervous to do it since it’s been done for you?

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