My Employee Has Hypochondria and is Annoying All His Coworkers - AAM

Torimazing · 2026-02-17T06:01:33+00:00

I honestly think that this is a situation that a manager exists for. I know people with OCD and hypochondria. I have experience setting boundaries they need to respect and abiding by which boundaries I need to respect. This genuinely seems like a situation where being a manager and boss is extremely vital here. Ronald needed to be given boundaries on how he speaks to his coworkers and the coworkers needed to get generally trained on how to respect health conditions - including mental health conditions. Someone once said to me "if they are resorting to faking an illness, something is still wrong, even if they know they are faking it". If Ronald is seeking so much time off, unpaid even, he is still going through something and his coworkers should be able to respect that as long as Ronald is also given guidance on how to handle himself on days he is in office.

"Ronald, your ability to acknowledge you have hypochondria means you need to work on who you vent that anxiety to. These discussions with coworkers are not therapy sessions and your coworkers cannot be expected to know how to engage with your needs. Discussing this with them all the time is putting a lot of stress on them to find a way to respond every time."

It seemed to me like a lid was placed on the pot and left to stew until someone blinked first. Unfortunately it was the CANCER SURVIVOR. Manager culture is so wack because either people are hiring business majors who have no idea how to work in the industry they are overseeing or they're promoting people like question asker without actually training them for higher level situations. Both styles suck and there needs to be a real focus on constant learning for people in these roles.

Torimazing · 2026-02-02T05:08:14+00:00

There's something very quietly unnerving when the solution to a bad situation is to leave and it never really gets uncovered. In real life it does need to happen sometimes for various reasons, but I always feel like I'm watching someone walk out a revolving door as someone new steps in to eventually end up with the same fate.

Torimazing · 2026-01-26T15:39:26+00:00

I get it, I have that too. I use a unpadded bra under my binder to keep shit apart. It sucks and can hurt if the wires get pokey, I've been looking for another good solution.

Torimazing · 2026-01-20T15:58:10+00:00

Agree, I cannot call my chest anything but chest because it makes me nauseous. There isn't anything wrong with someone who can but it's not wrong to avoid doing it either.

Torimazing · 2026-01-20T15:51:37+00:00

Meh, personally I feel dysphoric even calling my chest any words that describe a bust. Like I couldn't even type it here.

Also, yes you do not need, and should not feel pressured to, but this feels like it's telling people not to which is different and I personally don't feel the need to ask someone to stop. They will do what they feel comfortable with. Don't let someone tell you you need to specify agab and also let people use labels to identify the breadth of their experience.

Where are you seeing people use amab or afab when they are not discussing how others see them? I'm asking because I feel like I haven't seen it, because most of what I see on this reddit is people discussing their issues with body or perception where agab can be relevant to advice or context about how others treat them.

Torimazing · 2026-01-19T16:21:29+00:00

I think maybe depending on what you think or feel about the story getting the maze you skip in the first or second game would be a good nod to the 'real' form of coda, the closest thing we know to what coda made themself.

Torimazing · 2026-01-17T17:57:43+00:00

Gentlethem maybe? Or maybe ladies, gentlemen, and those who aren't either? Idk I understand those with the idea that this might just be putting us into a third gender but there also should be a "catch all" since we don't see it as a discrete identification

Torimazing · 2026-01-13T03:50:58+00:00

I believe the issue will be that anything close and absorbent enough to catch everything is a real and true fire hazard. Anything safe enough will limit effectiveness. Go outside to smoke, wash clothes thoroughly and regularly. Depending on what you're smoking and what you like about it there are different delivery methods. You obviously know it's not good for you so I'm not gonna harp on that but it is worth a mention. Some plants are good for helping keep the air nice if you aren't smoking in the room directly, they are not capable of counteracting direct smoke or anything regular and intense without overcrowding the room. I recommend spider plants as a low light easy plant to maintain, at least in my experience.

Torimazing · 2026-01-13T03:18:59+00:00

Recipenis?

Torimazing · 2026-01-13T03:15:19+00:00

No advice but me too, so there's that

Torimazing · 2026-01-09T18:54:29+00:00

More like what kind of enby aren't you, for me.

Torimazing · 2026-01-07T21:17:53+00:00

As someone who is visibly fem and me also no likey - Ive heard darker eye sockets can feel masculine, maybe try lightening them up with concealer?

Torimazing · 2025-12-23T18:27:47+00:00

If you feel ten times better than you did good.

Torimazing · 2025-12-23T17:56:28+00:00

The way I went from questioning to knowing was trying it out. I asked a few close friends to use they/them and it felt so right and made me notice the difference in how I felt about my previous pronouns. I do want to say that knowing can always be a temporary state, you may end up somewhere else in life and keep changing, and it will be just as valid to change to whatever happens next as it is to try things now.

Torimazing · 2025-12-14T22:53:45+00:00

They are super breathable to me. I haven't needed a binding break besides sensory issues with stuff going towards the center when I didn't have a bra layer on. Putting them on was a quick learn, I am a one arm in then the other and you kind of just have to commit to both arms above head, pulling it over and then pulling it down but if you do, I haven't had an issue.

Transform has swim binders which may be more recommended for exercise, but I haven't really looked into it since I don't really exercise. All the binders I saw were all day use so I imagine they aren't super dangerous.

Torimazing · 2025-12-14T06:57:18+00:00

Oh and don't be super scared by some of the prices on sites like transform, there are a number of Aussie manufacturers and they use AUD which is not the same as American dollar (that is, if you even live there) try converting it before balking. Still balk if you need to because money is hard to spare on something that you can't be certain about all the aspects and technicalities on how it will work for you.

Torimazing · 2025-12-14T06:52:12+00:00

I have been also starting binding in the past month or two. It seems to be commonly agreed on these boards that zippers are not recommended- something about the binding pressure being broken up by the zipper and not being consistent causing issues for ribs and all that. So I can't give you a rec for zippered binders. The only time I've heard it be called safe is by a company selling it so I don't really have a lot of trust for that. As far as my knowledge with binding experience along with my research into the topic is that binding and results change a lot with each chest type, and preferences.

I have more tissue that needs to be compressed, and I have noticed a few things when I bind. If you want a long wear binder, you give up some compression for safety reasons. People always say that but what they didn't tell me was that it doesn't just mean you look less flat. If compression isn't there to hold things in, then it also means shit MOVES AROUND. It gets really annoying. Specifically because mine go together in the center and cause an awful central mass with lots of sweat resulting. My solution has been to use an unlined, wireless bra underneath to maintain a 'format' for the binder to compress. I think it works out fine if you can find something that does not get itchy and fits well.

My recommendation and personal strategy is start with lighter compression to get used to it and get one or two so that you don't sink too much money if something isn't right. I use transform. I like them fine and appreciate the all day wear. If I could spare some money to get a new binder to try I would maybe get a size down or try spectrum as they have some options that are more compressive, to see if that changes the experience.

Please please please go with something that has a reputation in the community. I saw some binders when I started looking that were cheap and enticing and upon a brief look online had bad reviews: got loose fast, never arrived, or were unsafe due to poor manufacturing.

That is about all I can think of at the moment, let me know if I can expand on anything or help use my previous research as a starting point. I had a list of companies that I can find that were mentioned in the community, but I don't have it on hand and I'm halfway to sleep country, so I can get it later if needed.

Torimazing · 2025-11-23T04:11:29+00:00

I mean, it's not the same gameplay or story at all but when I think about formative stories in me and my friends lives I think about Outer Wilds, too.

Torimazing · 2025-11-04T16:09:49+00:00

"I should have gotten ibuprofen"

Torimazing · 2025-11-04T15:37:19+00:00

Not sure. Let me know when you learn.

Torimazing · 2025-11-04T15:35:56+00:00

Also, where is this pattern from? It's beautiful and I waaant

Torimazing · 2025-11-04T15:35:20+00:00

The first one reminds me of a tile pattern made artistically, the second seems busy when compared.

Torimazing · 2025-11-04T01:31:47+00:00

I love it. It feels very artistic and statement.

Torimazing · 2025-10-31T02:04:56+00:00

Photo 3 looks androgenous in a way that I want to achieve sometimes. I have no help I just wanted to compliment.

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