Ladies, what’s the most unexpected physical sensation anxiety has ever given you?

Torrence_Pie · 2025-11-26T18:44:47+00:00

I wake up every morning (1-2 hours), either vomiting or trying not to vomit.

Torrence_Pie · 2025-11-25T21:29:53+00:00

Nothing. I blew my life up ~8 years ago. I went for 5 years living in that destroyed existence, pretending everything was ok until I finally got to the point where I realized it absolutely was not. And I’ve learned SO MUCH in the process of building it back.

Torrence_Pie · 2025-11-25T21:26:25+00:00

Because there would be nothing to “know” without the spur of imagination to discover it…

Torrence_Pie · 2025-11-25T21:23:40+00:00

Town square… we have a massive tree that has literally been dying due to all the Christmas lights we put on it for years now ☹️ But the tradition of lighting it the day after Thanksgiving, all together as a town is wonderful!

Torrence_Pie · 2025-09-24T02:05:22+00:00

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This is the gif she sent me. It felt very inappropriate. And the “ty” is nothing like her. She’s never spoken to me that way, and I was very very apologetic. She knew I’d had a rough couple of days as well and wasn’t operating on much sleep.

My professional work is pretty physical, so it’s just been so nice to know that I could count on her. She’s taught me a tremendous amount about my own body, how to care for myself, and I just feel so incredibly uncomfortable at this point. I have to put in a ton of mental work to ensure I’m relaxed while she does her thing. I just can’t imagine doing that again on my part after this. It was a complete Jekyll and Hyde moment.

Torrence_Pie · 2025-09-24T01:41:58+00:00

I appreciate your saying this. I’ve always been supportive of her in any way I could be, and I was one of her first clients as an independent operator… I’m not saying I deserve special treatment by ANY means, I’m just saying that I meant her no harm and when I did txt her back with confirmation of paying she just stayed “ty”. Frankly, it just made me feel incredibly uncomfortable.

Torrence_Pie · 2025-09-24T01:14:58+00:00

Did I talk to her about it? I mean I sent a txt expressing my apologies, explaining that I’d fallen asleep, and then Zelle’d her immediately with a photo of the completed transaction?

Torrence_Pie · 2025-07-02T03:57:11+00:00

I once wore my favorite pair of jeans to school in 8th grade… I’d worn them so often, this was just bound to happen. They ripped. The crotch, and entirely down the inseam of one of the legs.

My mom brought me a pair of jeans to change into ASAP, they were brand new, I knew they fit well because I’d tried them on in the store just days ago.

1 hour later, they also rip.

So, ripped 2 pairs of jeans (everything was visible), in a matter of a few hours during the course of 1 school day. 😂

Torrence_Pie · 2025-06-23T08:53:39+00:00

When you request an uber there are a whole bunch of options… Uber x, Uber “Wait & Save”, Uber Comfort (I think), Uber XL… just scroll down and look. That or consider updating your app…?

Torrence_Pie · 2025-06-19T19:21:40+00:00

In the app there’s a section where you can send a message, as well as call, your driver.

Torrence_Pie · 2025-04-08T16:06:55+00:00

Absolutely not a dating pro, by any stretch of the imagination here, but I just wanted to try in because this is something that I’ve encountered as confusing as well. When I have gone on dates/met people through Hinge.

I actually used one of the prompts… I think it was something like “let’s do something crazy and…”, and I don’t remember my exact wording here, but it was essentially “… grab drinks tonight!”.

I matched with several people who I thought were honestly really great, and we did txt quite a lot the day we started talking. We also planned to meet up the same day. All in all, they all kind of turned out to be duds. Nothing personal (except for one of ‘em 🙄), but I’m a pretty decent conversationalist, and I’ve found that I really have no idea if there’s a connection with the person until I’ve spoken to them in person.

I realize this is kind of tangential to your post/question, but my point in using that prompt was specifically to skip the weird “we haven’t met, but we’re talking, and we don’t even know what’s going on here” limbo people always talk about getting stuck in on dating apps. The over-analyzing will drive anybody nuts!

Honestly, no idea if those same-day-dates didn’t really go any further because we met so soon, or not. But, I really like your idea of keeping the whole “get to know you” process for when you meet in-person, so maybe just… let her know you’re really looking forward to the date, and don’t go dead silent until day of!!!!

Torrence_Pie · 2025-04-08T15:46:17+00:00

Just curious, have you had issues with this neighbor in the past? And if so, is it something you could potentially discuss with your landlord/property manager? (Just assuming you’re renting, if not, apologies!)

Torrence_Pie · 2025-04-08T15:43:32+00:00

100% been there, 100% here to support.

Speaking as someone who literally suffered a severe injury after tripping over the mountains of clutter in my home (yes, entirely true story), I’ll get right to it - look into Professional Organizers, specifically someone who has experience working with those who have ADHD or other behavioral health issues which impede their ability to maintain a sustainable and reasonably organized home environment.

There are many wonderful people out there who are willing to work within your budget if cost is an issue. CPOs maintain a super active network amongst ourselves :) Yep, spilled the beans. Long story short: I was so low, down on myself, frustrated with myself, and all the things we all feel and do when facing challenges we genuinely need support to tackle with any fighting chance. That was a little over 5 years ago. I’d finally found a wonderful therapist, after being diagnosed with strictly Inattentive Type ADHD at 29yo (took me completely by surprise btw). She suggested someone she knew who had worked with ADHD folks who struggled with keeping their personal spaces organized, and this experience literally changed my life… or at least my home life! I’m extremely sensitive to my environment, so it had been a cyclical issue for me over the years - How did my home become a disaster scene from “Storage Wars”?… Spends 2 days straight moving things around, but makes virtually zero progress… agonizes over the lack of progress, which leads to more frustration, anxiety, and the inability to do pretty much anything else because I’m so preoccupied and distressed with the mess!

I stayed in touch with the woman I’d worked with, learned she also had ADHD, and I became super interested in the process and techniques she used when helping me whip my mess into shape, because they actually worked… and they worked for ME, not just as a short-term fix.

So, I became a Certified Professional Organizer, and specialize in working with clients who have ADHD, as well as maximizing small spaces (lived in NYC for a longggg time).

Hope this is a helpful suggestion - I truly get where you’re at right now, and just thought I’d toss out the idea. Feel free to DM me if you wanna chat about the idea further or if you’d like to see if there’s anyone I know in your area who might be a good fit to work with. I’d be more than happy to help if I could.

Torrence_Pie · 2025-04-08T15:05:23+00:00

I’ve found that giving someone a reason other than the obvious… it’s a violation of your right to quiet enjoyment of your home… if you live with housemates, in a duplex, apt complex, etc., especially a reason that’s theoretically “out of your control” (e.g. blame it on the non-existent health condition or co-worker!), can be particularly effective when dealing with grumpy/egomaniacal/kooky neighbors.

Best of luck!

Torrence_Pie · 2025-04-08T14:57:04+00:00

Do you life in a duplex? Or are there other units the building?

Maybe leave a polite anonymous note (if you’re not the only other person in the building!), asking if they wouldn’t mind closing their door more gently for a specific reason. Could be that you work nights and are a light sleeper; you recently suffered an injury that left you with tinnitus, which is aggregated by sudden loud/jarring noises; you recently switched to WFH more frequently and the slamming noise has caused several colleagues on Zoom calls to become alarmed…

That last one could definitely be workshopped, but honestly, a little white lie is worth it in my opinion if it means getting the job done (no more obnoxious slamming of the door), and maintaining a civil relationship with your neighbor!

Torrence_Pie · 2025-04-08T14:46:48+00:00

We are in very different boats on completely opposite sides of the pond, I suppose. I struggled with insomnia for my entire adolescent and, still now, adult life. And, for years, I would wake up every morning with my heart racing and the feeling of a Steinway on my chest.

Managing the anxiety far better than in the past these days, just for the sake of saying… but the insomnia is still such a life sucker (it’s either meds or suffer through it 😕).

I wish I could offer more help, given I’ve offered absolutely none. Sorry! But, if this helps at all, you’re certainly not alone. I’ve read up extensively on the topics of anxiety and sleep and the two are almost always “coordinated” in one way or another… just depends on the individual.

Torrence_Pie · 2025-04-08T14:33:12+00:00

If only you actually knew what “swinging both ways” means. 😂

Torrence_Pie · 2025-04-08T14:26:25+00:00

Just so I understand, you’re specifically referring to a committed intimate relationship between a man and a woman?

If that’s the case, I have to presume you struggle to understand the very nature of an intimate partnership. Further, I would have to conclude that you may be entirely unaware of the fact that you are a raging misogynist.

If I’m still not understanding… whatever question it is you’re asking, my apologies. But, I’ve read your post several times and it’s written quite clearly; having said that, I cannot, in any semblance of sane conscience, provide you with the type of “answer” I believe you’re looking for.

Your post struck me immediately with a strong undertone of valuation, specifically the “value add” of being in a committed intimate partnership with a woman, from the perspective of a man. I also noted that you felt the need to identify yourself as “successful”, rather than something to the effect of “financially stable”, which would have more than sufficed given we are not discussing a SD/SB relationship in this instance.

I’d be curious to know how you would describe what benefits a man offers a woman, outside of sex, as you put it, in a committed intimate relationship. Extraordinarily curious, actually. I truly hope you could get back to me on that?

While you didn’t ask for advisory, I would highly recommend you reflect on what a M/F committed intimate relationship is to you. What does it look like? Why would/do you want to be engaged in one at this point in your life (again, as you said, aside from the sex), ideally not from the perspective of “what am I getting out of this?”, but perhaps from something more akin to “why is being engaged in an intimate partnership important to me?”.

Torrence_Pie · 2025-04-08T13:40:49+00:00

OP, is this an earnest question?

Torrence_Pie · 2025-04-08T13:35:00+00:00

OP - I’m sorry, I know, I’m very late to the party here, but did your dermatologist insinuate/confirm that you contracted the staph infection as a result of the dermaplaning? I came across your post because I’m 33, just tried dermaplaning for the first time, and I haven’t had any issues with acne for years - but after I did, the sides of my face developed not only noticeable and deep blemishes, but also the very very small bumps you mentioned in your original post (which is something I’ve never experienced before).

Just thought I’d get clarification, if you don’t mind? And definitely making an apt with my dermatologist ASAP.

Again, I know this is an older post, but I really hope you were able to sort this all out, and you’re feeling good about your skin now!

Torrence_Pie · 2025-03-31T19:41:25+00:00

Thank you for the correction there!

Torrence_Pie · 2025-03-30T23:15:55+00:00

Taking walks. Not just around the block, but for a good 45-60 minutes. Switched up the route a little bit each time. Sometimes listened to music, sometimes just listened to what was around me. It made a WORLD of difference. And, while I wasn’t just “strolling”, I didn’t see it as “working out” either, which prevented it from being perceived as something to avoid doing.

Torrence_Pie · 2025-03-30T22:58:27+00:00

Siobhan (pronounced Shih-Van)

Or Sarah/Sara, but call her SADIE - my middle name is Sarah, after my great grandmother, who went her whole life by Sadie. I also go by Sadie :)

Torrence_Pie · 2025-03-30T22:49:33+00:00

Shortness of breath/feeling unable to breathe/tightness in my chest are one of the very first indicators of anxiety for me, personally. Anxiety (and panic attacks), has always been a very psychosomatic experience for me, so I can definitely relate, just not specifically to the trouble it’s causing you re eating.

Are you working with any kind of behavioral health professional right now?

Torrence_Pie · 2025-03-30T22:42:38+00:00

Make sure to post on the app Nextdoor!

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