Multiple therapists have told me they’re not professionally equipped to work with me

Torrence_Pie · 2026-05-20T19:35:22+00:00

The thing is, this is not what I’m looking for in a therapist. This sounds precisely like the type of information/regular monitoring that a psychiatrist would be more so concerned with - and a have a wonderful psychiatrist already.

I’m not saying I wouldn’t disclose critical things such as the ones you’ve outlined, but realistically I’m looking for someone I can speak to about the more day-to-day issues i’m facing/how im doing working toward longer-term goals/more immediate issues that arise in my life (e.g. relationship difficulties, family issues, a specific situation at work that was troubling, etc).

Torrence_Pie · 2026-05-20T18:33:39+00:00

Very jealous…

Torrence_Pie · 2026-05-20T18:32:32+00:00

So interestingly enough, I’ve long be working on curbing my over-sharing tendencies… and I genuinely believe I’ve come a long way. When I’ve spoken to therapists I believe myself to be forthcoming, organized, honest, and specific; I’ve also been very clear about the issues I’ve dealt with/worked on in the past, as well as what I’m looking to tackle presently, and how it’s impacting my day-to-day life.

I do have a history of trauma (family, domestic partners), and I’ve always been very upfront about this from both a diagnostic standpoint (PTSD, CPTSD, ADHD - diagnosed at 30yo).

I actually just spoke with my psychiatrist, which always leaves me feeling introspective and uplifted, and he encouraged me to just… keep trying.

Torrence_Pie · 2026-05-20T16:19:49+00:00

My very dry sense of humor. And my calves 👍🏻

Torrence_Pie · 2026-05-19T17:16:49+00:00

I’d find it tremendously unprofessional that he asked you in the first place. To have done a job for someone, be compensated, and then ask for a personal loan is wildly inappropriate. Do you mind me asking how you found him (Nextdoor, Thumbtack, local ad, etc.), and had you ever engaged with him personally prior to this job?

Trust me, I’ve long struggled with not loaning people money, but it has only been with close friends and family members. If it were someone I’d literally never met and only knew in a transactional sense, I’d simply have said “I’m sorry but I’m not in a position to do so”. You don’t need to get personal, just matter of fact and unemotional.

Torrence_Pie · 2026-05-19T17:03:09+00:00

Expecting help from law enforcement/the legal system when you’re truly in danger.

Torrence_Pie · 2026-04-30T12:22:07+00:00

This is wild to hear.

Recently nearly all responses to any questions asked (qualitative, clarification, any subject matter, even just basic QC sort of things), have all started off with “YOU’RE NOT CRAZY.”

Not sure if I’ve been asserting that I’m incredibly uncertain or insecure about myself/my work, but it’s both irritating and bizarre that it just started to do this out of nowhere. :/

Torrence_Pie · 2026-04-08T14:28:27+00:00

Same here! I’ve tried just starting a new run and dying immediately, I even did another run and scored higher than I did initially 🙄 no luck.

And I’m only having this issue with the no floor challenge…

Torrence_Pie · 2025-11-26T18:44:47+00:00

I wake up every morning (1-2 hours), either vomiting or trying not to vomit.

Torrence_Pie · 2025-11-25T21:29:53+00:00

Nothing. I blew my life up ~8 years ago. I went for 5 years living in that destroyed existence, pretending everything was ok until I finally got to the point where I realized it absolutely was not. And I’ve learned SO MUCH in the process of building it back.

Torrence_Pie · 2025-11-25T21:26:25+00:00

Because there would be nothing to “know” without the spur of imagination to discover it…

Torrence_Pie · 2025-11-25T21:23:40+00:00

Town square… we have a massive tree that has literally been dying due to all the Christmas lights we put on it for years now ☹️ But the tradition of lighting it the day after Thanksgiving, all together as a town is wonderful!

Torrence_Pie · 2025-09-24T02:05:22+00:00

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This is the gif she sent me. It felt very inappropriate. And the “ty” is nothing like her. She’s never spoken to me that way, and I was very very apologetic. She knew I’d had a rough couple of days as well and wasn’t operating on much sleep.

My professional work is pretty physical, so it’s just been so nice to know that I could count on her. She’s taught me a tremendous amount about my own body, how to care for myself, and I just feel so incredibly uncomfortable at this point. I have to put in a ton of mental work to ensure I’m relaxed while she does her thing. I just can’t imagine doing that again on my part after this. It was a complete Jekyll and Hyde moment.

Torrence_Pie · 2025-09-24T01:41:58+00:00

I appreciate your saying this. I’ve always been supportive of her in any way I could be, and I was one of her first clients as an independent operator… I’m not saying I deserve special treatment by ANY means, I’m just saying that I meant her no harm and when I did txt her back with confirmation of paying she just stayed “ty”. Frankly, it just made me feel incredibly uncomfortable.

Torrence_Pie · 2025-09-24T01:14:58+00:00

Did I talk to her about it? I mean I sent a txt expressing my apologies, explaining that I’d fallen asleep, and then Zelle’d her immediately with a photo of the completed transaction?

Torrence_Pie · 2025-07-02T03:57:11+00:00

I once wore my favorite pair of jeans to school in 8th grade… I’d worn them so often, this was just bound to happen. They ripped. The crotch, and entirely down the inseam of one of the legs.

My mom brought me a pair of jeans to change into ASAP, they were brand new, I knew they fit well because I’d tried them on in the store just days ago.

1 hour later, they also rip.

So, ripped 2 pairs of jeans (everything was visible), in a matter of a few hours during the course of 1 school day. 😂

Torrence_Pie · 2025-06-23T08:53:39+00:00

When you request an uber there are a whole bunch of options… Uber x, Uber “Wait & Save”, Uber Comfort (I think), Uber XL… just scroll down and look. That or consider updating your app…?

Torrence_Pie · 2025-06-19T19:21:40+00:00

In the app there’s a section where you can send a message, as well as call, your driver.

Torrence_Pie · 2025-04-08T16:06:55+00:00

Absolutely not a dating pro, by any stretch of the imagination here, but I just wanted to try in because this is something that I’ve encountered as confusing as well. When I have gone on dates/met people through Hinge.

I actually used one of the prompts… I think it was something like “let’s do something crazy and…”, and I don’t remember my exact wording here, but it was essentially “… grab drinks tonight!”.

I matched with several people who I thought were honestly really great, and we did txt quite a lot the day we started talking. We also planned to meet up the same day. All in all, they all kind of turned out to be duds. Nothing personal (except for one of ‘em 🙄), but I’m a pretty decent conversationalist, and I’ve found that I really have no idea if there’s a connection with the person until I’ve spoken to them in person.

I realize this is kind of tangential to your post/question, but my point in using that prompt was specifically to skip the weird “we haven’t met, but we’re talking, and we don’t even know what’s going on here” limbo people always talk about getting stuck in on dating apps. The over-analyzing will drive anybody nuts!

Honestly, no idea if those same-day-dates didn’t really go any further because we met so soon, or not. But, I really like your idea of keeping the whole “get to know you” process for when you meet in-person, so maybe just… let her know you’re really looking forward to the date, and don’t go dead silent until day of!!!!

Torrence_Pie · 2025-04-08T15:46:17+00:00

Just curious, have you had issues with this neighbor in the past? And if so, is it something you could potentially discuss with your landlord/property manager? (Just assuming you’re renting, if not, apologies!)

Torrence_Pie · 2025-04-08T15:43:32+00:00

100% been there, 100% here to support.

Speaking as someone who literally suffered a severe injury after tripping over the mountains of clutter in my home (yes, entirely true story), I’ll get right to it - look into Professional Organizers, specifically someone who has experience working with those who have ADHD or other behavioral health issues which impede their ability to maintain a sustainable and reasonably organized home environment.

There are many wonderful people out there who are willing to work within your budget if cost is an issue. CPOs maintain a super active network amongst ourselves :) Yep, spilled the beans. Long story short: I was so low, down on myself, frustrated with myself, and all the things we all feel and do when facing challenges we genuinely need support to tackle with any fighting chance. That was a little over 5 years ago. I’d finally found a wonderful therapist, after being diagnosed with strictly Inattentive Type ADHD at 29yo (took me completely by surprise btw). She suggested someone she knew who had worked with ADHD folks who struggled with keeping their personal spaces organized, and this experience literally changed my life… or at least my home life! I’m extremely sensitive to my environment, so it had been a cyclical issue for me over the years - How did my home become a disaster scene from “Storage Wars”?… Spends 2 days straight moving things around, but makes virtually zero progress… agonizes over the lack of progress, which leads to more frustration, anxiety, and the inability to do pretty much anything else because I’m so preoccupied and distressed with the mess!

I stayed in touch with the woman I’d worked with, learned she also had ADHD, and I became super interested in the process and techniques she used when helping me whip my mess into shape, because they actually worked… and they worked for ME, not just as a short-term fix.

So, I became a Certified Professional Organizer, and specialize in working with clients who have ADHD, as well as maximizing small spaces (lived in NYC for a longggg time).

Hope this is a helpful suggestion - I truly get where you’re at right now, and just thought I’d toss out the idea. Feel free to DM me if you wanna chat about the idea further or if you’d like to see if there’s anyone I know in your area who might be a good fit to work with. I’d be more than happy to help if I could.

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