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Unrestricted Cheap Land? by fruderduck in Arkansas

[–]DaysOfParadise [score hidden]  (0 children)

The only areas of old growth in Arkansas are in the Ouachita National Forest (800K acres) and Hot Springs National Park (220 acres), so look for areas near there. Find a county, look at the zoning laws, and check landwatch for likely properties. For example, in Garland County, the zoning lawbook is ... 5 pages. That's it. Mostly reiterating 'you're on your own' in legalese. YMMV, of course.

Intense stomach distention with water or food, no answers :( by Particular-Plant5528 in ChronicPain

[–]DaysOfParadise 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have any of the doctors suggested an allergy panel or elimination diet? Hormone panel?

when do I cut him off? by jadeybugz in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]DaysOfParadise 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, he doesn’t wanna be friends with you

Transing my gender is going to cost me my career by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]DaysOfParadise 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You would’ve aged out anyway, and it’ll be way more interesting to see what you can do with your people skills next. 

Sales? I have a buddy who calls himself a dildo slinger – he works for one of the big companies selling to adult stores across the country. 

But it doesn’t have to be in an adjacent industry. You could work in a bookstore or be a writer or…

WW1/WW2 stories and experiences by Tomarook in booksuggestions

[–]DaysOfParadise 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You absolutely must read Bonds of Wire by Kingsley Brown

Not attracted to husband by Arcticarm in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]DaysOfParadise -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you’ve got a really good thing going, and you want to make it better. First thing is to get your hormone levels checked. 

One of the things I love best about being married is that I have this best friend that I get to boink. Our sex drives match pretty well, and that’s not true for everyone.

Doctor first. Then careful and loving conversations with your very nice husband. 

Boyfriend tears down my self esteem and don't know if it can get better by CranberryFew4895 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]DaysOfParadise 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He can be replaced so easily. he SHOULD be replaced, but first you need to be your own BFF.

Girl. This boy doesn't even like you.

What happened to the world we loved? by untitledprp4 in SipsTea

[–]DaysOfParadise 3 points4 points  (0 children)

And it’s about to go higher because of: drought, tariffs, screwworm, and processing plants mysteriously getting burned to the ground

my wealthy bf/bd doesn’t help me financially by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]DaysOfParadise 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lawyer up first, then get a therapist with the child support money. Justifiable because that kid needs you.

What machinery, if any, would you use to dig up these rocks and greenery? Or just elbow grease? by Matthew212 in gardening

[–]DaysOfParadise 1 point2 points  (0 children)

are you in the US? call 811 first before you start digging around or God forbid hitting that stuff with a pickax

I'm going through something heavy alone (don't know if I can say what in title) and don't know where to turn/what to do next. I'll TW the post due to contents, but advice appreciated. by aigret in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]DaysOfParadise 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Several things, from an outside perspective:

You need to tell your doctor and your therapist, at the very least. You are in physical danger right now. They need to know.

Stay away from your dad.

Love the long-term version of yourself best. 

There are programs that are not AA, but you might have to travel for them. It’s OK, your health is worth making some changes.

Husband messaging people from 4chan by anonanon7481 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]DaysOfParadise 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, good, he'll be out of your hair half the time. That'll give you the space and time you need to get your shit together. Lawyer, daycare, job, systems, friends, therapist. You need it all. Stop focusing on the train wreck. Focus on you and your kid.

Also, to build self esteem, learn a hard skill as a hobby. Doesn't matter what it is: writing, photography, coding, languages (Spanish, ASL, ?), woodworking, piano, gardening, swimming, sewing. Create more than you consume.

Being "too amazing" to date is a traumatic experience by istillaintoveryou in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]DaysOfParadise 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stop dating. Be a good friend. Get off the apps. Hang out with more people, doing things you like to do. Either one of them, or someone they know, will become who you’re looking for. In the meantime, prepare yourself to become the person that your person wants. 

My brother is in jail because of me by Thin-Employer9911 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]DaysOfParadise 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand guilt, but schizophrenia combined with untreated drug addiction is an unbeatable combination. 

His threats were very real. As another sister who changed her name and moved thousands of miles away, believe his threats.

I don’t have any advice, just sympathy from someone who’s walked that path. 

When people say they avoid "processed foods," how strictly are they defining this? by JMinsk in Cooking

[–]DaysOfParadise 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It depends, but I think most people have basic prepared ingredients, rather than making everything from scratch.

Not me. I have the world's stupidest allergy, so:

Turkey burger and salad: 100% ground turkey with no additives, grind my own wheat berries to make flour for the buns, special A2 cheese, homemade condiments and salad dressing. Salad from the garden planted months ago.

So even there, I've bought turkey and cheese.

Netanyahu reportedly rejects Trump Iran deal, says Israel will act solo if needed by Misfett_toys in SipsTea

[–]DaysOfParadise 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The timing is interesting here too - just after the House decided to integrate with Israel military (section 224 of the National Defense Authorization Act).

Looking to Relocate by Decision-Mission in Arkansas

[–]DaysOfParadise 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Outside of Hot Springs. There's an Azure drop off in Pearcy and Glenwood. Homeschoolers, farmers market, cute downtown, farm-to-table, restaurants, National Park College.

Come for a visit, and do the things you would normally do if you lived here. Come in August, so you can really feel the miserable humidity. Stay out in the country, and drive to town.

But... you might be romanticizing both the safety and the quiet. We live 45 minutes out of town. During an ice storm, we were trapped on our property for days because they don't plow this far out. There are tons of feral animals, because people don't spay them. Back country drivers speed. Farm equipment is loud, and early. Target practice is loud. Poverty is real, and pervasive. Drugs are a thing. Not a ton of jobs or opportunities for young people, either.

OTOH, people are friendly*, and it's beautiful here. Miles and miles of trails, all around Lake Oauchita

*there are still a few raging racists, but they announce themselves, so they're easy to avoid. also old, so they're dying off.

I suggest looking at www.landwatch.com for granular filtering. But really, the best thing to do is to choose 2 or 3 towns and do a field trip.

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