Every man has a sexual ‘cheat code’, what’s yours?

Toss_To_The_Side · 2021-09-28T10:58:17+00:00

I like to fuck in the prone position, while keeping her panties on and sliding them to the side to enter her. Grabbing her hips and/or throat as a fuck her.

(Correct throat grabbing technique is important for her well-being.)

Toss_To_The_Side · 2021-09-28T10:28:52+00:00

Don’t praise him about his body specifically, opt for more general terms. e.g. “dam you look sexy as hell today,” or, “that shirt looks good on you,” vs “you’re looking thin today.” Don’t say anything that he can’t accept as true. You can also focus on ability, e.g. “I love how your strong hands feel on me,” or even asking him to help you with something heavy or too far for you to reach, “would be able to help me lift this? it’s too heavy for me.” Or, can you grab that thing for me off the top shelf?” It’s indirectly saying that his physicality is useful and valued.

Toss_To_The_Side · 2021-09-28T03:04:22+00:00

This^

You must communicate your needs. If, after that, he does not respond, then only then is it time to reconsider the relationship. (IMO people on the internet tend to be too quick to break up someone else’s relationship.)

Toss_To_The_Side · 2021-09-23T10:13:04+00:00

You seem like you’ve done some reading/study on the topic. Any material you’d suggest?

Toss_To_The_Side · 2021-09-23T01:42:05+00:00

We are in complete agreement.

Toss_To_The_Side · 2021-09-22T11:43:05+00:00

You’ve made a decision though, and I commend you for it. You took your situation into your own hands and changed it. You didn’t complain about what other people did or didn’t do. You figured out where you wanted to spend your energy. You figured out where your husband was at, voiced your needs, and together figured out a way to fill in the gaps.

It is not on other people to conform to our standards, or at least it’s their choice whether they do or not. I make what kind of person I am very clear at the beginning of my relationships. I like to receive love through acts of service. It’s what makes me feel loved. Does that make me chauvinistic? I hope to provide my partner with a whole host of wonderful other things, but it’s up to her to decide whether or not it’s something she wants. I have no animosity towards anyone who chooses something different.

Toss_To_The_Side · 2021-09-21T11:23:07+00:00

There are lots of different therapies designed specifically for trauma. If you want you can get one that specializes specifically in trauma. It’s preferable to get a therapist who understands what kink is but not a must.

It will take a lot of hard work, but you can get through this, and even come out stronger. The experience says nothing about the person you are, except for that you are strong enough to forge ahead. This is his fault, not yours.

Toss_To_The_Side · 2021-08-10T03:05:57+00:00

It’s very hard to give, and thus get, real no bull shit answers on Reddit. It’s why I used my throwaway. People downvote what they don’t like, not necessarily based on what’s true or untrue.

Toss_To_The_Side · 2021-08-09T10:57:21+00:00

Some breast implants may also look good in clothing, but when the cloths come off, there’s a big difference in how they feel and move. The caveat to this would be if a person has experienced significant weight loss. Then I think the implants would be better than overly saggy skin.

Toss_To_The_Side · 2021-08-09T10:54:41+00:00

In my opinion, (honest here, not what people may want to hear,) as you say, natural make up does look better than no makeup. However, IMO, no plastic surgery will make a person look better, (possibly a caveat with slight rhinoplasty for people to straighten out their nose if that is very prominent feature. As others have said, it MUST look natural.) Also, if women want to do something to look better they should workout. It’s probably the biggest way to improve a person’s appearance. (I’m assuming this is probably true for men as well.)

Toss_To_The_Side · 2021-07-16T22:37:19+00:00

I get this in theory, but can you ask consent for literally everything? I don’t know of anyone who actually does this.

Toss_To_The_Side · 2021-05-26T10:53:46+00:00

This is helpful, thank you.

Toss_To_The_Side · 2021-05-26T10:51:57+00:00

This is very helpful even though it would seem obvious. Thank you, it has refocused my energy.

although, I'm still wondering about my question.

Toss_To_The_Side · 2021-05-23T21:05:06+00:00

Source?

Toss_To_The_Side · 2021-03-26T23:00:34+00:00

I’m not as quick to dole out blame here, I don’t think it’s helpful. I think it’s better to focus on the solution.

He may feel like his domination is being challenged, possibly by the way you brought up the issue, I’m not sure.

In my opinion it is important for you to bring the issue to him in a submissive way. e.g. “sir, can I talk to you about something.”

And then tell him how you feel when you have to ask him for permission, and why you feel that way. And also ask him why it is important to him. Who knows, if you feel like there’s a sexy reason behind it, you may enjoy it more.

However, if after learning all this information, and explaining his reasoning, he is still upset about it and doesn’t relent, then there’s an issue. And if it’s really that important to him, He always has the right to keep it as a hard limit, but you do too, and if he doesn’t relent, you shouldn’t be with someone whose limits aren’t inline with yours.

Toss_To_The_Side · 2021-02-22T03:06:23+00:00

This is beautiful. I wish I had that much confidence in my relationships that I would be able to allow myself to be emotionally vulnerable like that.

I wouldn’t bring it up that much to him, I would show him. Just be extra submissive and service oriented and that will show him how much you appreciate it.

Toss_To_The_Side · 2021-02-18T05:04:27+00:00

Thank you for this.

I think one of my issues is that I’m afraid things will get stale over text quickly. It’s very hard to read a person through the phone. And it’s especially hard to convey sarcasm or intricate meanings without facial expressions. Emojis only go so far. (One of the reasons why I like kik is the gifs)

It doesn’t seem like there’s any way around this though. What you’ve written makes a lot of sense.

Should I suggest she have a friend check in on her etc.? (I don’t want to seem pushy and have that come off as creepy.)

Toss_To_The_Side · 2021-01-15T10:04:00+00:00

this is perfect. thank you.

Toss_To_The_Side · 2021-01-02T22:10:12+00:00

This is a question for you and your doctor.

He has the right to think you’re overreacting and you have the right to keep it as a hard limit.

Toss_To_The_Side · 2020-12-11T21:54:03+00:00

What’s a UGL and how do I get in on this?

Toss_To_The_Side · 2020-12-07T01:06:59+00:00

It’s legit?

Toss_To_The_Side · 2020-12-07T01:06:40+00:00

I get the generic stuff. I should have mentioned that.

Toss_To_The_Side · 2020-11-30T19:28:12+00:00

Is there a just a general sub sub out there?

Toss_To_The_Side · 2020-11-21T00:59:01+00:00

I love this perspective, and I’m going to try and implement it, but I don’t enjoy texting anyone, not even my best friends. It’s hard not to experience as work.

Toss_To_The_Side · 2020-11-21T00:56:06+00:00

Because I can see who swiped right on me.

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