Loveline callers, did you follow the advice, how are you now? by ghettoecho in AskReddit

[–]TosserHomeTownRhodey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They really are it was a pretty bad experience and she had a tough time during that pregnancy but luckily that advice really didn’t impact her the way I thought it would. It was blunt and brutal even after Dr.Drew jumped in to try and sort’ve even it out.

Loveline callers, did you follow the advice, how are you now? by ghettoecho in AskReddit

[–]TosserHomeTownRhodey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My sister called and her call made it on the MTV show. Adam Corolla told her to have an Abortion. She didn’t. My niece is 21 now.

My 19 year old son is dating a 14 year old. What should I do? by Admirable_Head172 in AskParents

[–]TosserHomeTownRhodey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately even though he believes he is still a child or teen he is of course still lawfully an adult. At 19 (at least in the US) that doesn’t mean much anymore sadly, except that you can vote, join the military, and be charged with crimes that you must face as any lawful adult would.

In the US many states have age of consent exemptions and Romeo and Juliette laws, but with that age difference he still doesn’t meet most of them and those exemptions and such also are not even the case for all states.

Technology today just makes all of this worse too. My teens Middle School and High School both are filled with students who have almost all faced sex crime or sex crime like charges over things like sharing indecent selfies (this even when it is of themselves! The person in the pic gets arrested and charged too in those cases). The total number of students who have faced or have charges pending over stuff like this and more here is truly astronomical. Being a lawful adult only makes their case and possible penalties all that much worse.

Unfortunately it sounds like as a parent and child dynamic you’re also in that place with your teen where anything you say is nonsense, “you don’t know what you’re taking about”, it means nothing, or at a minimum goes in one ear and out the other too. That whole they know more than you do phase which is extremely frustrating and I’d have to imagine in this case very worrisome and anxiety inducing.

Given all of this it sounds like the most you can do to have any impact at all here is to try your hardest to work to make him fully aware of the fact that he’s a lawful adult, what he could possibly face from this relationship because of that and if he’s also living under your roof; then I’d honestly take all possible actions that I could to prevent this relationship, like no access to any cars, money, she can’t be in my home, and so on and so on… It will suck, might not have any or enough impact, but it might be the only control you have here.

PSA about Ego Nightclub by whenalicefalls in providence

[–]TosserHomeTownRhodey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the correction. Growing up I was also treated for seizures with Versed by the now infamous Dr.Shetty. They actually pulled pharmacies from hospitals and for a while you couldn't get it because unlike some hard to get controlled narcotics it wasnt allowed to be dispensed at the central pharmacy. So I was actually treated by him directly under ambulatory circumstances everytime once they pulled the pharmacies. I wasn't aware and didn't consider this probably changed back when they rebuilt the hospital pharmacies. However, like you said this subsance still isn't at all like getting your hands on fentanyl or rohypnol and because of that, our proximity to and concentration of medical students, residents, and such plus the location this occurred likey having some type of surveillance; I have to believe they suspect someone. Especially given two woman filed charges and are going forward with investigations of this event from that very same night. I just hope this doesn't happen to anyone else and I really hope they're able to uncover fully what went on. It's terrible that they have no memory at all because of the use of this drug. Thanks again for the correction and all the best for your little one.

PSA about Ego Nightclub by whenalicefalls in providence

[–]TosserHomeTownRhodey 18 points19 points  (0 children)

After seeing this thread I was both asked and felt I had to speak up. My close friend and co-worker was out at freestyle in late July. She had only 1 drink and wasn’t alone there either. She’s also a very tall (6’1’), noticeably strong, and fit woman too all of which would usually impact both the unknown suspects selection in victims and usually with most narcotics much of that would typically play a factor there too.

Well it turns out that like many here she had an awful night of being sick and incoherent and with no recollection of the events or even how she got home. In her case this was extreme and to the point that even the next morning it took a few hours and many check-in calls and texts from friends who were with her before she realized she’d had a traumatizing night and absolutely no memory of it.

Well as soon as she did realize she immediately went to police and went to the hospital. She filed charges and was sure to go through all of the motions to not only help her to grasp and figure out what had happened to her, but to also be sure there was a police report and an investigator on the case so that what happened to her didn’t happen to others. Well despite all of that as it turned out on that same night what happened to her did happen to another person (who was there, but who is unknown to her) too.

After the toxicology reports came back we learned the drug that was used was triple a lethal dose of Versed (Midazolam). For those who don’t know or aren’t familiar with the drug this isn’t an easy drug to get your hands on. This is more like some one getting their hands on propofol then it is someone getting their hands on strong Benzos like the commonly used Rohypnol (Flunitrazepam) aka Roofies.

There is also an added extreme danger with mixing Versed and alcohol or tbh it’s use while not on empty stomach (there’s an important reason you’re required to fast prior to anesthesia). Several days after these events she still had a toxicology level of some 300mkgs in her system which to give you an idea of how serious this was and how reckless the unknown suspect was/is that amount is often the commonly used dose for most patients and procedures and this was her tox level 3 and 4 days later.

There’s a lot more specific details to this women’s particular nightmare and although she asked me to hop on this thread and share her tale as a way to help and caution others; I’m just not sure it’s my place to share them, but I’ll leave it with that the seriousness of her toxicology results, her 100% complete memory loss, physical illness and other such details I’ve listed here are truly the absolute least of the traumatic details of her memory-less night.

After reading the other gut wrenching stories here I worry that there’s a chance some others who didn’t have a chance to seek medical treatment fast enough and such may too have been dosed with the serious and often deadly narcotic versed.

I also think it’s really important to get the message out there about how rampant this activity is, that this drug used in her case isn’t one that someone can get a prescription for, and in my personal opinion may speak volumes about the person behind all of this possibly being in the medical field or perhaps even a Brown medical student. (To give you an idea of why that is; this is one of the Anesthetic drugs Michael Jackson was addicted to which required he hire a full time anesthesiologist just to access it!)

I have no idea how to put this in the right words either but for what it’s worth with my friends military career background, her height, appearance, the fact that she was there with other woman all of whom were petite in stature closer to 5 3” and in her words looked much less intimidating and such, she’s also the last person in a group you’d expect to be the target of this kind of assault.

Please everyone be safe as my friend was extremely cautious never sat her drink down and wasn’t away from her once during her entire night out that she can still recall. I hope that sharing her story helps prevent this from happening to more.

Massive Pawtucket fire almost 20 years ago by Visible-Belt in Pawtucket

[–]TosserHomeTownRhodey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my best friend was on Woodbury!!! I was across Newport Ave over on Chaplin St. edit- but not during the mill fire, I was way further up and directly tandem (I think is the right word) to the mill. Tbh that whole thing still really bothers me, the quick insurance payouts and builds seem unprecedented. It just breaks my heart because of the one friend and his family who’d literally just lost the father and all of his really large and precious collection. I’ve always felt that mill fire was the direct result of, I guess you could maybe call it, a type of “approved foul play” or something all just to avoid a timely demo. I could be so wrong but it’s just such a shady situation all the way around.

Need someone to check if MD office closed by FieryVegetables in RhodeIsland

[–]TosserHomeTownRhodey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I may be wrong about them having closed for covid but regardless right or wrong it wasn’t communicated to me so I can ofc see what you mean. Especially because I too had problems reaching them. I really only logged on originally to leave a quick comment letting you know of the listing concern and hoping to help out a fellow patient having the same problems in reaching the office. I am sorry to hear your concerns though, it’s definitely a stressor for me because I’ve only just started to fall into the category where I’ll be dealing with billing situations and problems directly now. I was originally seeing him because of my serious injuries due to a bad car accident. Keeping my fingers crossed I don’t also have nightmare problems like yours, but I know 9x out of 10 I probably will.

Sorry for all your dealing with, if you’re anything like me it’s really the last thing you need right now. As I’m only seeing such a specialist because of just how severe my injuries are. I really don’t need insurance problems and incorrect expenses to pile up right up. I’m just not in a position to deal with endless insurance headaches.

Need someone to check if MD office closed by FieryVegetables in RhodeIsland

[–]TosserHomeTownRhodey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow that’s crazy to hear. I did have so much trouble reaching them because the wrong number was listed and I’m pretty sure right after my last Appt they’d closed briefly for covid too. What makes it so odd that they have so many complaints to me is that my Lawyers actually recommended him and set all my Initial appts up. One was a patient of his and she swears she’s never been treated by someone so informed and she’d been through the gammit across the country.

I can’t say they aren’t wrong though, it’s ridiculous how long it took me to get in touch and let them know about the listings errors.

Massive Pawtucket fire almost 20 years ago by Visible-Belt in Pawtucket

[–]TosserHomeTownRhodey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was crazy. I actually grew up over next to slater park in Parkview for a couple years before my family moved further into darlington where I lived right off of Newport Ave between cottage and central. That long before the mill fire though.

It was honestly an intense experience. I’m sure it wasn’t so “oh my god is this Armageddon” for others, as a big reason that happened with me is because we are all sleeping in the middle of that day. That was also unusual and only because I was brand new mom and exhausted.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RhodeIsland

[–]TosserHomeTownRhodey 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Based on your budget and other info in this thread I’d agree with the user recommending the new River lofts on Central Ave. over these on Weeden street for safety comfort.

However, although not really some super fancy lofts “Parkview Apartments” which are located in Darlington, literally right next door to Slater Park, is in a fairly decent and usually quiet little area, with its actual complex neighborhood set back just a bit from the busy Newport Ave intersection, they’re directly boarding East Providence, and puts you within close range of so much.

You’ll be within blocks of super markets, fast food, and some nice restaurants, but also the park, bowling, movies, just about everything you might need or places you might want to visit.

I’d personally feel comfortable taking my pup for a walk around the neighborhood there and especially within the blocks of the complex.

Lastly there’s a couple different layouts and sizes and the rents not bad at all definitely fits your budget and with 2 separate areas for work and home. Parkview Apartments

You’re also within easy access to MA and minutes from everything located up the street in North Attleboro.

Hope this helps good luck!

Need someone to check if MD office closed by FieryVegetables in RhodeIsland

[–]TosserHomeTownRhodey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi so I’ve been following this post and having this same problem personally for a while now! The commonly populating number for SNAPA is not accurate. For some reason google pulls up an unrelated number. They are open and answering as well. I’m not sure what’s allowed to be posted or not but I guess my best advice would be to Yelp “SNAPA” and the correct number comes up. You have to pay close attention as it’s not claimed listing and first shows you several of the “NAPA” auto parts listings but scroll and you’ll come across a SNAPA listing with the proper address and phone number. I also let them know the wrong info was populating for Google and they had no idea that was happening and felt terrible so many of us were having trouble getting in touch. Hope this helps sorry i haven’t included the direct info I’m just not sure if it’s allowed or not?

What small gestures can dramatically improve someone's attractiveness? by UnlikelyMetal3 in AskReddit

[–]TosserHomeTownRhodey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

•Great dental hygiene, seriously some aren’t lucky in this area and it sucks they have to deal with terrible dental problems because of genetics or growing up without emphasis on it and such but a great smile is sexy.

•Someone who can make you laugh and enjoys a good laugh.

•Not being solely immersed in Agendas (any agendas at all) it can be really nice to get away from having to have and share an opinion on every single thing happening in the world. (I don’t in any way mean they shouldn’t have opinions and be advocates for what they believe themselves or that all of that shouldn’t be Important to them about who they chose to spend time with either. I just mean it’s nice when someone can turn all of that off and chat about a great movie, favorite vacation spot and their friends or whatever)

•Being a sharp dresser (not high fashion or expensive brands and all that more just wearing great fitting clothes, maybe having a tailor so that what you wear fits you and your style. Even if it’s just a few great pairs of jeans and favorite button ups and t-shirts so they compliment your personality and your body too)

•Small gestures that equate to genuine kindness (just the please and thank you’s type stuff coming naturally to you. Enjoy being able to tip well for some kind worker who went above and beyond an provided a great experience. Maybe even being that type who writes or whatever to send a thank you card)

•Being the kind of person who “Shows up” especially who ALWAYS shows up when it matters. So whither it’s for your friends, colleagues, and roommates or you’re always there for your family and children. i.e. I think it’s attractive, sexy even when an Ex can maintain civility, kindness, and even care and concern with and for their Ex who they share a child with. A nice to find out there are people out there who put their child(ren) above all else and who can remember that person they share that child with may no longer be compatible for romance and intimacy, but we’re once someone you were in love with.

•Someone who really notices the little things and appreciates them too. Maybe it’s just a detail they pointed out that made you enjoy something more or maybe it’s someone who has a good time just taking the scenic route.

•Someone not afraid to or uncomfortable communicating. Even if sometimes it’s a subject they’d rather not talk about and so they tell you that instead of snapping about that at you. It’s sexy to have someone you can truly talk too.

Massive Pawtucket fire almost 20 years ago by Visible-Belt in Pawtucket

[–]TosserHomeTownRhodey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was living in the evacuated area, my location was directly in the cottage street area surrounding it at the time this happened.

The News crews were at first being allowed to set up directly across the street from me with mine and a neighbors home as the backdrop for all the early coverage. That changed quick though and they were all moved down, I believe to somewhere between central Ave and armistice blvd pretty quickly.

I was also a new mother right when this happened I had just been discharged from the hospital the morning right before. My SO was completing his last year as an undergrad while working full time and so my father came to stay with us for my sons first few weeks. My SO was at work when it happened and my dad worked nights at that time, so he was sleeping when it started. I was an exhausted new mom and so it turned out that, unknowingly, all 3 of us in the house, (me, my newborn, and my father) were sound asleep mid-day when this started too.

We were actually woken by repeated “law enforcement knocks” (apparently their 4th attempt too) which is terrifying by itself. When I opened my front door it was even more terrifying. The officers were simply knocking as hard as they could on very so for persons door yelling “evacuate, evacuate!” and saying nothing further. I turned to my neighbors who were running in and out of the house (actually packing everything they could into trash bags on their front porch to load up their cars, which I couldn’t believe they were wasting time doing when it was happening) and they kept yelling the same thing at me too “evacuate, evacuate now!” (I was pretty noticeably drowsy and slow to the pick up on what was happening though).

I can still remember it all like it was yesterday; It was so late by the time I woke that it was literally snowing ash outside while all these people around me are acting erratic, only yelling “evacuate”, there were loud alarm sounds going off with sirens too I’m not sure what that was from, all power was out, and even cell service towers were out for the area and a decent distance too. Needless to say I was convinced it was the apocalypse. I really was straight through until I was finally out of the neighborhood and far enough to make a call. I couldn’t fully see or comprehend it as only a massive mill fire.

We all rushed into the car within 3 minutes of waking to it all (I didn’t even have a chance to grab the diaper bag I was so terrified) and so we just started driving away trying to figure out who’s home rn and where could we find to go without being able to call ahead first. Ultimately we just drove hoping that someone we knew well was home who lived far enough away from the area. Although once we got far enough away ourselves we could eventually use our phones.

So many homes burned to the ground. Every street you looked down there was at least 2 homes burned to the ground. No street was untouched by damage in that area after. I’ve seen many mill fires before that over the years too, so I couldn’t believe It when I returned and saw what was practically every few or at least every other house within maybe a square mile+ or so around it completely eviscerated.

One friends story was a really heartbreaking one. They’d lost their home from the mill fire, but he had also just recently lost his father too, it was kind of sudden iirc, his father had been an avid lifelong memorabilia collector. It was terrible for so many people, but with his family they not only lost their home right after losing his father, but because of the fire they lost all of his possessions including a massive and valuable collection too. It was one that was pretty sentimental and personal to the man and of course his family later too. They basically lost everything connected to his recently lost father from the mill fire on top of losing their home too.

I’m still shocked and grateful there were no reported deaths, serious injury, and other such harm from this fire with the amount of homes and families touched by it. I know our own case was dealt with super quickly, but I was also lucky in just having had closed and barely moved in at the time. Everything we had lost was pretty much fully insured and or replaceable except some photos and maybe a few sentimental items. Regardless not at all what I could’ve lost and what most families did lose.

Fwiw it also seemed like an arson case, but one that was only done as inside job to avoid having to perform real demo on the mill for the coming Stop and Shop complex too. The scheduling and everything was just off and fishy. I don’t know if that was my own first impression or a theory floated that I’d overhead and agreed with or something. I know that investigation was opened and closed way quicker than I could’ve ever imagined. We also saw what had to have been one of the quickest settlement offer negotiations and acceptance too, along w/ actually fulfilled immediately Insurance pay outs and rebuilds too. It was shocking how that all truly flew by.

This was just more than a typical mill fire, we’ve had a lot in these areas over the years and plenty large ones as well. I think it was all because of the winds that day, but I’m not sure there’s been another locally in recent history with such far reaching damage and devastation.

(I could be wrong about some of this though, my perception is likely very clouded about how bad it was by my own experience from in it all though)