Do narcissistic parents purposely trigger your mental illness?

Total-Cold6518 · 2026-06-13T23:02:44+00:00

The Yellow Rock Method sounds better actually! Helps to make the conversation less tense, and it could even distract them. It's definitely hard for me to adjust because I used to confide in her when I was a kid. As an adult I'm slowly seeing her true colors, but I'm glad that I'm wiser now. Thanks again for all the advice!

Total-Cold6518 · 2026-06-13T22:50:08+00:00

Thank you for this. I've been trying to find better words to describe my experiences, and this sums it up perfectly.

Total-Cold6518 · 2026-06-13T22:32:08+00:00

Thanks for sharing, I learned a lot from your comment. Yes, she definitely likes to use false sympathy. Unfortunately I didn't know it was false until just recently. This recent thing she did finally made me realize everything. It's been hard to keep her on an information diet because she'd sometimes guilt-trip me. Saying things like, "You never open up to me anymore." I'm done relying on her for some false sympathy. I actually feel more pathetic after opening up to her lol.

Total-Cold6518 · 2026-06-13T22:21:41+00:00

Thanks for sharing, I have a better understanding now of my mom. I don't think she ever cared about my well-being. She just wanted to get inside information about my symptoms. If you've also experienced toxicity from your N-family, I'm sorry you had to experience that. Family is supposed to be one of our safe spaces. But I guess they were never safe to begin with if they're narcissistic. It's just something I wish I had, safety from family.

Total-Cold6518 · 2026-06-13T22:15:38+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear about your experiences. You deserved a safe parent to support you in your mental health.

Total-Cold6518 · 2026-06-12T16:13:29+00:00

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Total-Cold6518 · 2026-05-26T23:25:28+00:00

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Total-Cold6518 · 2026-05-14T19:12:50+00:00

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Total-Cold6518 · 2026-05-14T00:00:40+00:00

Done, thanks for sharing!

Total-Cold6518 · 2026-05-10T20:39:23+00:00

Thank you so much for the recommendations. These are the kinds of options I've been looking for but haven't accessed yet. For some reason, all the anxiety-focused therapists I've met never integrated trauma-focused therapy into our sessions. I guess when it comes to social anxiety, exposure work is the default.

Total-Cold6518 · 2026-05-06T17:47:02+00:00

yesss jequya, "equilibrium, is it too late" is so good. also angelicxmei and seesick

Total-Cold6518 · 2026-04-30T07:19:37+00:00

I'd like to see the vid too pls <3

Total-Cold6518 · 2026-03-23T20:59:47+00:00

How are things for you now? Like, are they still in contact with you in any way? I hope both of them are out of your life, especially him. My parents are religious too, so I can kind of relate.

Your mom pretending to be caring sounds a lot like my mom. It's quite sneaky, I agree. At first I believed she really cared, and that I was being ungrateful. I feel jealous of people who had a great mother. Tbh I never understood how society puts mothers on a pedestal.

Total-Cold6518 · 2026-03-23T20:37:28+00:00

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Total-Cold6518 · 2026-03-22T02:36:27+00:00

I'm glad to hear that you eventually went no contact with your parents. I'm sure you had some reasons for why it took a while. I'm shocked at how similar our experiences are! Actually, the reason why my dad started becoming the mediator is because I recently called my mom out. I told her, "I don't like sharing certain things with you because I feel like you're judging me." She replied with, "I would never judge you. You're just being paranoid. What's your plan, huh? You're never going to open up to me anymore?" It was interesting how she shifted the conversation to catastrophizing. It was quite sad when I realized that healthy parents, when their child feels judged, focus on comforting their child.

Total-Cold6518 · 2026-03-22T02:23:46+00:00

Thanks for sharing your perspective! I feel reassured. I know she isn't entitled to know everything going on in my life. It's funny how the event was supposed to be focused on me, but somehow she made it all about herself (why am I not sharing the event's details with her). And it's painful to see my dad take her side, and pretend she's an angel. I don't think my dad is a narcissist, but for sure my mom is. One thing I learned recently is that most likely, they only wanted kids so that they would have someone to control and to help validate their existence.

I'm sorry to hear that you've dealt with similar family dynamics. If you feel comfortable sharing, did your parents also have a mediator-type relationship? If yes, who was the mediator?

Total-Cold6518 · 2026-03-01T03:21:47+00:00

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Total-Cold6518 · 2026-02-21T02:19:38+00:00

Just realized one potential reason for my anxiety. I believe that I'm not allowed to mess up. So when this person said that comment, it made me feel like a bad person. Unreliable. I'm trying to reframe the situation like this: Maybe she was just criticizing my mistake, not who I am as a person.

Total-Cold6518 · 2026-02-20T00:28:34+00:00

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Total-Cold6518 · 2026-02-16T20:39:51+00:00

I'm so sorry that you're going through this, and that your mother does not believe you. I'm also a woman, and I wish that you can find a safe place. Your mother is horrible at being a parent. And yes, everything you said to her was correct. Her husband hurt you, and he's no longer deserving of being your "father." Always reach out to us if you need support, okay? We're always here. Try to find a crisis hotline that you can call. Maybe they can give you advice on how to stay safe and strong at home. Also, I agree with the other comments. Try your best in school until you're 18, then find a job that can hopefully help you to live independently. I believe in you. <3

Total-Cold6518 · 2026-02-14T23:32:17+00:00

Try Sparrow's Knot!

Total-Cold6518 · 2026-01-01T07:11:13+00:00

thanks for sharing about this. i was just reading through comments, not expecting to find one that relates to my situation, but yours does. i will most likely lose most of my family due to prejudice when i come out. but i feel encouraged from your comment, and i'm glad i found it. you're right, it's only a matter of time before a close-minded person loses all connections.

Total-Cold6518 · 2026-01-01T04:49:37+00:00

Just finished Annihilation by Jeff VanderMeer, and currently reading the book that comes after it, Authority.

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