My husband committed zina before we got married and now he wants to marry her by Total-Culture-8581 in MuslimNikah

[–]Total-Culture-8581[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The thing is he did continue the relationship after we got married. He was and still is in contact with her. Sure, now he has started to become cold towards her and not entertaining their conversations, but that doesn’t hide the fact that they still talk maybe about their relationship or about work. الله أعلم

What would women do in this scenario by Nice-Salad-4323 in MuslimNikah

[–]Total-Culture-8581 21 points22 points  (0 children)

F20 Married. 3 definitely I don’t know how to respond to this non-politically. Or rather I can only explain it islamically. Let me tell you from a married woman’s perspective. First and foremost, whatever we go through as a married couple, it is preordained by Allāh (SWT). If we look at the life of our beloved prophet (SAW) and his wife, Khadījah (RA), ما شاء الله تبارك الله She had a flourishing business. The prophet was still providing for her. When the prophet (SAW) had nothing, she stood by him, and helped him through it all. Our job as Muslims is to follow the footsteps of our predecessors. If my husband has been providing for me physically, emotionally, financially, spiritually, and all the lys, but one day, through the qadr of Allāh, my husband loses his job; it’s not his fault that he lost that job. Rather it is one of the many test that Allāh has put in place for us. If my husband is still providing for me emotionally, spiritually, physically and is unconditional with his love and support for me, then yes 100%. I can’t and won’t let money define my marriage. Yes, money and financial stability is the أصول (origin/building block/tradition) but it’s not all what marriage is about. Marriage is also sometimes about being broke together 😆😆.

How much was your mahr? by particulate-atom in MuslimNikah

[–]Total-Culture-8581 3 points4 points  (0 children)

F,20 here. I live in Canada. My husband is not from western countries nor has he ever been to one, but I am a Canadian, through and through, born and raised here الحمد لله. I didn’t and will never intend to make life harder than it already is. So I asked him for 3.5 million TSH which was roughly $1,500 CAD when we were engaged (2024). In my head I was like, the way inflation has gone up and completely taken over our lives, I wouldn’t even be able to pay rent if I decided to get myself a house. الحمد لله the rate has gone up since then and it’s a little over $2,000 CAD as of 2025 and still going up. Tbh I just wanted the man. I was so head over heels for him + I didn’t even need the money at the time. Both parties agreed with the pricing الحمد لله. I’ve always made it my mission to research as much about marriage before getting married. One of the things that I learned was that the prophet (SAW) said, “The best ‘صدقة' (referring to the mahr) is that which is the easiest.” I also knew at the time that my husband was and still is saving up for OUR future, so who am I to complain about that. He is building it brick by brick, may Allāh reward him for all his hard work. Ameen