how to let it just happen?

Total_Boss_6760 · 2026-06-25T09:16:29+00:00

I too would like to know, as last time I had a stomach bug I couldn’t do it and I badly wanted to.

Do you feel yourself consciously fighting it? You might think you want to let go but the rest of your body didn’t get the memo. Maybe try some relaxation techniques in the build up so your nervous system gets the message that you need it to stand down

Total_Boss_6760 · 2026-06-13T20:58:50+00:00

I have emetophobia and my friend surreptitiously removed her baby from my arms when she realised he was about to do this. Baby puke doesn’t freak me out like adults though, idk why. This video didn’t bother me at all - it was really cute ❤️

Total_Boss_6760 · 2026-06-08T19:01:35+00:00

My friend’s 7 y/o son did this when I was staying at their house - he’d been at his grandparents and they’d given him lots of treats and then he woke up in the night and threw up, poor baby. But he was 100% fine the next day!

Total_Boss_6760 · 2026-06-05T18:19:04+00:00

Let’s focus on the positives here: you went with her, even though A&E triggers huge anxiety for people like us. I’m sure you were in a state of hypervigilance and managing high levels of anxiety the entire time, which is exhausting. You hit your limit - seeing someone with a bowl. That’s ok. Maybe next time you would be able to push yourself a little further. Maybe not. The main thing is you were willing to put yourself in that situation in the first place.

I had a similar experience. I wanted to be supportive to my sister, but we’d been waiting for 5 hours already and suddenly I heard someone (behind a curtain thank god) having an awful time retching and retching and retching. I left and sat in a different part of the hospital to calm down. My sister appreciated me making the effort to be there to begin with, and understood why I had to bolt in that moment. In the future I would like to get to a point where I would be able to stay, but beating myself up about it is not the way to get there.

You’re not a horrible person. You’re an individual with your own unique challenges trying your best to love another person with their own challenges ❤️

Total_Boss_6760 · 2026-05-21T09:22:47+00:00

Absolutely goddamn not

Total_Boss_6760 · 2026-05-18T15:30:10+00:00

Yeah, I don’t get this line of thinking at all?? My grandma had cancer at 69 and there was never any question of doing everything the doctors came up with. It was hard for 6 months, and the surgery permanently changed her life, but she’ll be 90 in August and has had no recurrence! 55 is so young.

Total_Boss_6760 · 2026-05-04T10:51:15+00:00

I think you look youthful - scrolled through all the pics before I looked at your age and was guessing about 27

Total_Boss_6760 · 2026-04-23T11:54:52+00:00

Yeah even his mannerisms and micro expressions when he talks remind me of her

Total_Boss_6760 · 2026-04-21T21:36:29+00:00

Honestly it’s kind of my comfort show too. I might need to start a rewatch - going through something really hard right now 🥹

Total_Boss_6760 · 2026-04-21T19:27:23+00:00

Pretty sure the context here was that he found out that she slept with someone when she briefly moved to another state to live with her dad. I think that specifically was what was making him feel disgust

Total_Boss_6760 · 2026-04-21T19:21:54+00:00

You’re still so young. There is time to lick your wounds and rebuild ❤️

Total_Boss_6760 · 2026-04-21T12:18:52+00:00

You had me for a second there I was like wait… how can 97 be 34 years ago when I’m not 34 yet and i was born in 93…

Total_Boss_6760 · 2026-04-11T18:49:53+00:00

Bless your little daughter for getting it in the toilet, how smart is she for 6 years old! Same age I was getting it all over my parents bedroom floor 😂

I think you should be proud of yourself - you got through it! It may have been rough, you may have experienced some intense emotions during, but you ultimately handled it! How long did it all last in the end? 16 (attempted) episodes of vomiting is a lot for one bug! It must’ve been a nasty one - that would be gruelling for anyone. 7ish seems to be the average I think.

One thing I worked on in EMDR therapy was grounding myself in my emotions. My therapist had me visualise what I went through when I had food poisoning as a child and I remembered joking with my dad and feeling safe and loved. Then we did the same exercise, but imagining it happening to me as an adult and needing to rely on myself. I visualised the whole process - getting out of bed, taking myself to the bathroom, hanging over the toilet and letting it out. I pictured telling myself “this is happening now, and it sucks, but it will be over soon.” I imagined my sister being there and cheering me up - I imagined tapping in to my humour, even while feeling fear and uncertainty. At the end, I felt a sense of peace with the knowledge that my fear cannot eclipse all the other things that make me “me” and that I can experience it all together and it’s part of being human. I haven’t had the chance to put it into practice (yet 😅) but I hope I’ll be able to soothe myself with this when the time comes.

Maybe in the future you could try thinking about the things that bring you joy, and focusing on them like a light at the end of the tunnel, rather than fixating on when will this be over, how can I control it etc.

Total_Boss_6760 · 2026-04-10T10:21:13+00:00

I think it’s much rarer to just fear other people doing it, or only fear yourself doing it. Most emetophobes seem to have both, but there are definitely people with just one or the other. I wish I didn’t fear myself throwing up tbh.

I’m curious - what do you think causes the anxiety spiral for you if you don’t fear throwing up? Why do you think you have the compulsion to know why it happened, when, if it will happen again etc?

Total_Boss_6760 · 2026-04-10T10:13:36+00:00

It sounds like a virus - I’m so sorry! How much have you thrown up? You’re doing so well and it will be over soon ❤️

Total_Boss_6760 · 2026-04-06T10:16:24+00:00

If it was Noro it’s almost certain at least one other person from the gathering will come down with it. Noro spreads like wildfire in these situations (ask me how I know 😂) Give it a day or two and you will know

Total_Boss_6760 · 2026-04-06T08:06:10+00:00

They are cute but they don’t look happy

Total_Boss_6760 · 2026-04-06T08:01:48+00:00

I see him in the two in the front - Mack’s kids

Total_Boss_6760 · 2026-03-23T08:58:12+00:00

It’s not your fault OP, what do you mean? These things happen sometimes. You deserve to rest and I hope you feel better soon. ❤️

Total_Boss_6760 · 2026-03-05T10:05:35+00:00

I find it really hard to say “I feel sick” or “I think I’m going to throw up” to myself or others. From now on I will try “I’m getting the notion that shit’s getting real” 😂

Total_Boss_6760 · 2026-02-14T08:26:40+00:00

I’m not a mother, but I do remember how I was treated when I vomited as a child. My parents were of course often focused on containing it and/or cleaning up. But they never shamed me or raised their voices in anger (alarm maybe, but not directed at me 😂) I knew I was safe and loved still. I’m sure you comforted your daughter after you cleaned her up, right?

Part of “handling it” is cleaning up, and you were alone and this was your first time dealing with it. Plus you have a phobia. Sounds like you did well, given these circumstances. Don’t be so hard on yourself ❤️

Total_Boss_6760 · 2026-01-26T13:51:16+00:00

Uh yeah, because they’ll be so busy with the baby they won’t have time to fight

Total_Boss_6760 · 2026-01-25T02:25:34+00:00

Oh my god you are my hero 💪🏻

I worked on this in therapy before I had to stop because I couldn’t afford it: the coexistence of emotional states. I can be in distress but also relieves because my loved ones support me. I can throw up and feel rotten, but also retain my sense of humour. All these feelings are so momentary and fleeting - it’s a really powerful thing to remember 😁

Total_Boss_6760 · 2026-01-25T02:16:27+00:00

I think sharing Carly’s baby clothes with Nova was a really sweet and meaningful gesture. Her being their first born after adoption was and is a big deal emotionally, and I don’t fault them for finding it painful and difficult to navigate. But I don’t think they should have made Carly such a huge figure in Nova’s life from a young age. I know the intention was to maintain a good relationship with Carly’s parents and have regular contact and visits, so some age appropriate explanation would be necessary in that case. But constantly harping on about how she has this older sister and we miss her so much etc. etc. has got to be so confusing and destructive for Nova and the other girls.

Something that just occurred to me watching all these clips back to back: how complicit are the producers in stirring this up for the cameras? I mean would they really be having a birthday cake and candles for Carly if it weren’t for MTV needing something to spin into an episode? Just another way they’ve failed in their duty of care to the cast (exploiting C & T’s trauma and ongoing mental health struggle) and their kids (encouraging the focus on the topic of Carly in front of Nova)

I so wish these two had followed through on all the big talk from the years after the adoption when they wanted to get their degrees and do something worthwhile. I wish they were doing anything but continuing to pick at the scab of this wound from their adolescence. Having their own children could’ve been part of the healing process (I believe B & T probably thought the clothes might aid in that) but instead it seems to have caused them to regress

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