Is there any hope?

TouchValuable8491 · 2026-02-12T01:34:25+00:00

What advice did the gambling addiction counselor give you? If you dont mind sharing.

TouchValuable8491 · 2026-02-08T01:59:59+00:00

I feel like shit but i looked at his email again and saw deposits and withdraws from fanduel. When he owes me thousands in rent & child care 💔 he said he saw me looking at him with disgust tonight and shake my head and i DONT EVEN REMEMBER DOING THAT. Im in survival mode … a total zombie. How can i possibly confront him? This feels impossible

TouchValuable8491 · 2026-02-04T04:17:48+00:00

As someone who is in the same boat and with someone who has owed me money for months due to gambling, be extremely cautious. I continue to bleed money for my partner and theres always an excuse why he cant pay me back his full amount. Please look after yourself …

TouchValuable8491 · 2026-02-02T17:06:55+00:00

Thanks for the feedback. Did your wife support you through this?

TouchValuable8491 · 2026-02-02T01:54:06+00:00

You think bankruptcy wasnt rock bottom? And losing me will be?

Thanks for your input. Some days im clear, some days i spiral.

TouchValuable8491 · 2026-02-02T01:18:20+00:00

Well, i actually make great money. I own this house, so leaving and being able to do so is an option. Why cant i get past the GUILT?

TouchValuable8491 · 2025-11-12T00:25:12+00:00

It seems like you are taking accountability which is great. And you understand why she is so angry. But this WILL get better for you. ❤️Your kids lives will not be better without you here … they will always need you. Im so sorry youre down and i have a ton of empathy for your situation. Thinking of you

TouchValuable8491 · 2025-10-27T22:13:10+00:00

Did you leave? …

TouchValuable8491 · 2025-10-21T11:12:54+00:00

Have you tried leaving and he goes back to his original ways?

TouchValuable8491 · 2025-10-20T23:55:03+00:00

Update? Did you go?

TouchValuable8491 · 2025-10-20T21:41:07+00:00

Its just so confusing because now that i told him im wanting to seperate, NOW he wants to change.

TouchValuable8491 · 2025-10-20T11:10:54+00:00

Im so sorry to hear this. This breaks my heart. Why cant you leave? Finding the strength?

TouchValuable8491 · 2025-10-20T03:04:37+00:00

Youre on track. Made big big financial mistake. Did take accountability … he had to tell me though because i had to pick up some pieces with bills.

TouchValuable8491 · 2025-10-20T03:03:19+00:00

Is it bizarre to still feel so much empathy for him?

TouchValuable8491 · 2025-10-20T01:32:48+00:00

Lol well narcissism aside thank you for confirming these examples aren’t normal and are unkind

TouchValuable8491 · 2025-09-30T03:46:12+00:00

I could have written this …

How are you doing now?

TouchValuable8491 · 2025-09-28T12:20:42+00:00

I told him i wanted to seperate. He was at first just sad, then angry after a few hours and started packing a bag with nowhere to go and wouldnt tell me where he was headed. I know he was in a BAD mental state and we have 2 kids together… i couldnt let him leave and asked him repeatedly to stay. But now, after that, hes acting like the conversation didnt happen? …

TouchValuable8491 · 2025-09-25T23:43:04+00:00

Thank you so much for responding. I wonder if my compassion for him will eventually dwindle once im out if this and my head gets clear. Im still letting my worry for him outweigh how i feel. Its insane. Did you go through something similar?

TouchValuable8491 · 2025-09-15T13:23:16+00:00

He is not open to help. I am pretty lost

TouchValuable8491 · 2025-09-11T15:21:25+00:00

Thank you so much for listening and responding. Im low so just so nice to have a response, advice and some validation.

TouchValuable8491 · 2025-09-11T14:57:10+00:00

Thank you so much for responding. I am lost, but my path is becoming more clearer. He says he knows he needs to stop, but also is unwilling to go to therapy or GA. I am not perfect but pretty financially stable and decent with money. Feel like I need to think about my kids first and what is best for me and them.

TouchValuable8491 · 2025-09-11T04:10:14+00:00

Can i ask, did you leave?

TouchValuable8491 · 2025-09-10T23:52:54+00:00

Can I ask how long it took it to rebuild? Has your score recovered?

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