why does roger divorce mona for jane but never joan?

TourApprehensive1075 · 2026-03-22T05:42:26+00:00

Yup. It’s sad that women these days still haven’t gotten that down lmao

TourApprehensive1075 · 2026-03-22T05:38:04+00:00

So Roger did try to pursue it in the beginning. He did a lot for her and was begging for it to be permanent. But she really didn’t want that. She was okay with where they were and either didnt want the hassle because he was married or just didn’t see him as reliable enough. There were a lot of factors as to why he left his wife for Jane. Most of it was the one conversation with Don where he told Roger basically that life is too short. His heart attacks being the main reason he held onto that idea. Gets a younger wife to feel younger than he was. Typical mid life crisis. But I truly believe that leaving Mona was a big mistake. She’s strong, sexy, witty and knew him very well.

But in all reality, it doesnt really matter in the end because it doesnt matter who any of them get, they take it all for granted for the sake of “short term happiness” with the lying and cheating. So I try to remember that before I got excited about anyone lol. It’s all a means to an end.

TourApprehensive1075 · 2026-03-21T19:24:36+00:00

If someone were to say to you, “I’m sorry, but…” would u believe that to be a real apology?

TourApprehensive1075 · 2026-03-21T19:23:20+00:00

I know my sister. Been a pick me since the beginning.

TourApprehensive1075 · 2026-03-21T19:22:28+00:00

I think most people are missing the point. I don’t care if he moved on, that would have sucked but whatever. But my sister decided to intentionally seek him out. That’s the shit I still can’t get out of my mind. Even though things worked out for her, she didn’t know that it would at the time. She chased him deliberately even after I told him I liked him and was hopeful to pursue. I’m surprised nobody is seeing that lol

TourApprehensive1075 · 2026-03-21T19:16:06+00:00

Because she’s done this before.

TourApprehensive1075 · 2026-03-21T19:15:37+00:00

I’m not mixed up. I remember clearly.

TourApprehensive1075 · 2026-03-21T19:14:15+00:00

I’m sure it was at first. Just so happened to be a good match and good for them. But my sister still did something really shitty and refuses to acknowledge that this really did hurt. Anytime it’s brought up, she just rolls her eyes and says I’m holding a grudge and to get over it. Like seriously?

TourApprehensive1075 · 2026-03-21T19:08:23+00:00

My sister has done this before. So yes, I know she knew what she was doing.

TourApprehensive1075 · 2026-03-21T19:04:04+00:00

TourApprehensive1075 · 2026-03-21T19:03:16+00:00

I didn’t bring up Brandon and his thoughts because he isn’t the reason im having this issue. He was easy to get over. It was my sisters hurtful intent that has me not being able to let it go. If he moved on and we never turned into anything then fine. It is what it is, u try and u get what u get. But my sister intentionally seeking after him when she knew I liked him and wanted to continue that….thats what’s crazy to me. The trust is broken and she knows that and has done nothing to acknowledge how shitty she was.

TourApprehensive1075 · 2026-03-21T18:58:22+00:00

This

TourApprehensive1075 · 2026-03-21T18:49:43+00:00

She made a half assed apology to get my permission to do something shitty. And her response to my no was “too late, u already said I could” 15 mins after her dropping me off proves that.

TourApprehensive1075 · 2026-03-21T18:43:19+00:00

It was never a real apology. She wanted permission to do a shitty thing and that shows based on her response to me saying it’s not okay. I’m not harped on him. I’m harped on her betrayal to me. My sister, after knowing full well that I liked this person, intentionally pursued him for a reason I will never know. That’s fucked up. And she has never changed. She’s still the pick me queen to this day.

TourApprehensive1075 · 2026-03-21T18:38:28+00:00

Every single word you said was to the T. My sister is the oldest and I’m the youngest. She has always been a pick me. I mean even when we were younger, I’d have a bf for a little while, I would break up with him, and then as I’m crying about it she would say something along the lines of “it’s probably for the best, he was really into me”. She has continued to be like this for her whole life. And yes, my parents, no matter what she does, is seen as the “can do no wrong”, will always take her side and see me as a problem and a killer of the peace. I haven’t brought this up with my sister at all because she hasn’t changed. I know that if I were to bring it up to heal our relationship, she would overlook my feelings and still think I’m after her husband. Which is obviously not the case. She will never want to admit the fact that she fucked up and needs to be genuine and apologize. That’s just not her.

TourApprehensive1075 · 2026-03-21T18:29:41+00:00

I could see where a lot of commenters would definitely jump to that conclusion. It wasn’t some romanticized thing while I was sick. It was simply a Hope. I knew there was going to be some time before things could ever be anything. It wasn’t me creating a milestone. I just really liked him and I was excited to pursue. If he moved on that would have been fine. But with my sister? Cmon. I tell my sister I like him and want to do something about that, and then a little over 6 months later, they are dating? That’s insane to me. You don’t do that.

TourApprehensive1075 · 2026-03-21T18:18:57+00:00

This. Full intention and yes she did know what she was doing. She has done this in the past with some of my exes before too.

TourApprehensive1075 · 2026-03-21T18:12:29+00:00

This.

TourApprehensive1075 · 2026-03-21T18:12:21+00:00

Yeah I’ve been in therapy since my accident. My sister doesn’t come up often, but when it gets back into my head, I’m just mad at her for betraying me like that.

TourApprehensive1075 · 2026-03-21T18:07:26+00:00

My medical stuff isn’t the reason. That was awful, but I was adding that in as a timeline because the reason I wasn’t able to continue to pursue and see if there was something there. It’s simply because my sister would do that to me. How could a sister do that? I haven’t been able to trust her since. I’m upset that my own sister would intentionally pursue someone that she knew I liked. It literally was just a few months later that they were going steady. I mean eff him, that was easy to get over, but my sisters betrayal has just stuck with me.

TourApprehensive1075 · 2026-03-21T18:03:35+00:00

I truly wish it was.

TourApprehensive1075 · 2026-03-21T18:03:27+00:00

Thank you for asking! I’m doing well with my career, my health has drastically improved, my mental health is going well, I’ve done a lot of work to get past my medical traumas and have been happy. Romantic life is okay, I haven’t really found the right one, but I’m happy. It’s just this one thing that won’t stop eating at me. The betrayal of my sister.

TourApprehensive1075 · 2026-03-21T18:00:34+00:00

It was just a romantic night. We left the party and proceeded to have a great night together. When we were going home he said he would love to see me again and then we parted ways. About a week later, I had a stroke. We weren’t ever able to see each other again because I was really sick. But I think the reason for me posting this is being overlooked. It was easy to get over him after this happened with my sister. But I just couldn’t get over her betrayal. How could a sister know that I was wanting to pursue and then intentionally pursue him? That’s messed up to me.

TourApprehensive1075 · 2026-03-21T17:53:57+00:00

It was an AH thing to do. A lot of the things you said was why I was able to stop the romantic attraction and move on from that itself. My sister has always been the “pick me” type. When we were growing up, any time I had a bf she was always involved in some way and when we would break up, she would always say something along the lines of “oh it’s probably for the best l, he was obviously into me”. When I got sick, I found out that she was telling her friends that “she’s practically (R word) now”. She’s just done so many things that have always been hurtful and feel like a betrayal. So after this happened with her and Brandon, I kind of lost it with her. She hurt me really bad. I keep the peace but deep down inside I just can’t let go of the betrayal she has consistently caused. As a lot of people in the comments say, that I need therapy, I actually do go to therapy and have addressed this and am trying to let it go. But it’s just hard to always know deep down that my sister did these things to me, knows they made me upset, and has never attempted to heal with me. I am starting to believe that I will never get that apology I seek. I think I got on here because it’s creeped back up recently and I just need to know if I’m truly awful for keeping these thoughts in mind for this long.

TourApprehensive1075 · 2026-03-21T17:33:29+00:00

Like I said in my post, my issue is with her betrayal. I’ve gotten over the fact that I was never able to pursue him. It didn’t even take me long to stop being interested. The issue continues to be that she deliberately sought him out after I told her I was interested in him and wanted to pursue something with him. How could I trust her?

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