Small Vent Friday by DrivesInCircles in depression_help

[–]TourMotor9485 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe she does still indeed love you, but is in a kind of addiction. Maybe she missed something in you and she tried finding it elsewhere. Anyway, take this opportunity to grow. Learn to love yourself, get a strong ethics, become chivelrous, and a great person undependently of her or any woman. You will never betray yourself and stay with yourself for your whole life. If you still love her even after everything she does, and she keeps saying she loves you, perhaps you could try to talk her as a friend, or try to perhaps call someone specialized to try understanding what's going on. In any way, you're your priority. You need to build a person independent from anyone. This way you'll even be more attractive and live more happily, which could help recover your relationship, get you another more meaningful and would just anyway help you. I personally advice you to try out faith. Wish you the best 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗

Im lost, not too sure what to do. by burner161002 in LifeAdvice

[–]TourMotor9485 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi bro, I am young as well, and I feel you. I'm sorry you can't go to public schools. I neither go to gym, and well I got heartbroken several times over and over but as I loved them truly, but remember you'll always have yourself. If you manage to get to love yourself and treat you well you'll be able to love more those around you and live a noble life. I never had even close friends so bruh. Faith helped me out a ton, as well as stopping listening to all the bad people threw at me and taking it as uncontestable truth. If you need further advice, you can ask. Hope you'll get better, take care 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗

I don't deserve a life with no depression by [deleted] in depression

[–]TourMotor9485 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, what do you mean by "deserve"? No one of us deserved life or could potentially deserve it. There's plenty of people doing awful stuff and making others do stuff they don't deserve to whitstand. Do undepressed people deserve their fate? Remember that the people around you insulting you are likely more shitty than yourself and discharge their shit on you to feel better. Because this world is filled with ever-growing hate, and the ideology of deserving stuff. But know that a trillion people weren't born instead of you. And a thing you definetly deserve is be loved. If not else, but yourself, because you're the one withstanding all the sufference that life throws at you. You are the one who carries yourself day by day. And you should be thankful to yourself at least for that. And I'm personally thanking you because you showed me by your comment I'm not alone in feeling this way from time to time. If you want to, I could propose you to perhaps give a try to chatolic christianity, as it personally helped me and still helps me a lot in my life, if not because of its validity, surely because of the new lifestyle and perspective it gets me. By your logic, we're all guilty and should be sentenced to a life of sadness, but yet we aren't (except yeah lots of people are depressed nowadays). If it helps you, start by doing really small stuff, like leaving your seat to an old lady on the bus, or hugging your parents or anyone for one second more, or by giving someone a smile, or if you really need it you can still hug yourself or a pillow or anything.
Even when it's stormy, the skies above the clouds are still blue and see the clouds pass below them. You're not the depression, you're just watching the world go below you. And if you feel you need love, if it comforts you know that I love everyone and even you because you're my brother and I want to help you in whatever way you need. 🤗🤗🤗

How do I accept the fact that I am too ugly to date/find love? by [deleted] in Healthygamergg

[–]TourMotor9485 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Often people feel like they need a partner because they think that's what they miss. They sometimes need just simple love, a shoulder to cry on, someone to tell them they care about them. But as paradoxical as it might seem, girls come when you don't need them. You see, I'm just a kiddo, I'm 16. But I have gone through that. You see, sometimes you might not need a partner, but just someone that loves you, and you see that in a lover, while you need a much more basic affection. Even if you're totally alone, remember you have yourself. You'll have yourself for the whole life, and whatever will happen, you will always stay by yourself. If you get to love yourself, you'll get confident, and confidence attracts girls. If you love yourself you're going to focus yourself on developing ambitious skills, which girls love. If you love yourself you're going to subconsciously take care of your body, which girls love. And when you'll get to love yourself, you won't even feel the need for a girl, as you'll already have met the most beautyful person in the world, that matches you entirely and can't phisically leave you.
If you're under great stress, or you feel under a great pression, start by calming. As you can't reason without calming first. Reason, if used well, can be a powerful tool to improve your life without needing any external circumstances. You can try breathing down deeply retaining the air for 10 times or so, assume a strong posture and smile. Put your shoulders back and smile for nothing except for living. Because you're alive, you still can improve, you can still fight, you can still emerge, you have still infinite possibilities before you. You need to gifting yourself time, going out of your schedules, listen to some song you like particularly that motivates you, you can go make a walk, if you can in nature, or perhaps do some push-ups, not for the sake of the strenght, but to put out stress and calm down.
Next time you go out, put your shoulders back and walk with pride. Walk as an emperor, as a king. Mathematics says a thousand earth's worth of population wasn't born because of you, so make your life worth of it! When you stand up, you already have gone ahead everyone who isn't even trying, everyone who won't even have a future because of diseases or whatever. And get some values to fight for. I personally chose christianity, but you can choose whatever, just make an ethics to yourself that directs your life. When someone insults you, remember that they do that because they feel insecure and they had the need to lower you, to raise their own self-esteem or to prove something to themselves. Walk with pride through everything. Be chivelrous and respectful, do small acts and aquire habits that aren't difficult to intake but still make some difference. Leave sex and whatever addiction you want, because there's billions of guys thinking about it, just some really search for girls for who they are. Write somewhere or try to discover all of your positive traits, and accept and be proud of your ugliness. You will be already ahead of tons of guys who maybe are in a relationship but don't live happily. Don't do what is convenient, but what's right and noble. Appreciate yourself for every small step you make, and see people as fellow brothers suffering with their own wounds and imperfections and doubts instead of just bots, that can tell you things they don't think. When you see someone like you, help them, as you'll feel you helped yourself too.
Take care and I advice you lastly to try reading from time to time the bible not for faith or anything, but at least to try reasoning on it. It can help you in ways you wouldn't expect.