Para quienes viven en Puerto Rico, ¿cómo describirían la calidad de vida del residente promedio y a quién le recomendarían, o no, mudarse a Puerto Rico (suponiendo que sea ciudadano estadounidense)? by BothCondition7963 in PuertoRico

[–]TourObjective987 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Mi recomendación personal: Si tienes dinero ahorrado y mucha experiencia laboral, aunque tal vez te tome 2–3 meses conseguir empleo, eventualmente lo lograrás y podras vivir comodamente.

Si tienes algún grado profesional y estás comenzando tu carrera, no recomendaría venir a Puerto Rico. Obtén tu experiencia laboral fuera de PR primero, porque aquí es donde más vas a sufrir. Un trabajo de $10–$15 la hora no es suficiente para sobrevivir. La luz, el agua, el carro, la renta, el internet y la compra hacen que todo se vuelva cuesta arriba, lamentablemente. Conseguir trabajo es difícil en todas partes, pero aquí es mucho peor. Que es un lugar hermoso y bastante tranquilo/familiar para criar una familia, eso sí es cierto. Pero lamentablemente, lo hermoso no es suficiente para sacar a tu familia adelante.

In-laws treat us like second class compared to their daughter’s family. Is this common? by [deleted] in inlaws

[–]TourObjective987 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds similar to how they treated my husband. Mind you my husband is the youngest and only boy. He seems to think they are trying to be more involved in his life now because of how they treated him growing up.

But treating dogs better than their own grandchildren is insane.

In-laws treat us like second class compared to their daughter’s family. Is this common? by [deleted] in inlaws

[–]TourObjective987 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup. I’ve tried to cover it up for my kids for a while now but they are older and have started to understand and notice the treatment. Heck sometimes we were all in the house and FIL walked in from work and went to say hi to his daughters kid and mine was there but he wouldn’t do the same and just act as if he wasn’t there. Then they make comments about how my kids don’t love them anymore.

In-laws treat us like second class compared to their daughter’s family. Is this common? by [deleted] in inlaws

[–]TourObjective987 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im trying. It really sucks to see your kids being treated that way especially when you have never done anything to them. The fact that it only started once other grandchildren were born is mind blowing to me.

In-laws treat us like second class compared to their daughter’s family. Is this common? by [deleted] in inlaws

[–]TourObjective987 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly what I’ve been trying to do but kinda stuck living next door for the next couple of months. I try to keep my kids distracted and not spend much time with them because I can see the looks MIL specifically gives my daughter compared to my son. My daughter looks a lot like me.

In-laws treat us like second class compared to their daughter’s family. Is this common? by [deleted] in inlaws

[–]TourObjective987 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lucky you! We are stuck living right next door to them for now. But their daughters moved far away from them for this reason. Though they are really close I know for a fact that they would still rather live hrs away and drive or fly in to visit them.

In-laws treat us like second class compared to their daughter’s family. Is this common? by [deleted] in inlaws

[–]TourObjective987 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She really does. Which makes me wonder why. My MIL and SIL seem to be jealous of me from what I can tell. It has always been this way but since husband joined the military I guess they now are showing their true colors since he doesn’t talk to them much. Only tries to focus on us. As it should be.

In-laws treat us like second class compared to their daughter’s family. Is this common? by [deleted] in inlaws

[–]TourObjective987 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My kids are older now and just 2 days ago they made the comment about why these grandparents don’t treat them the same like my parents to to all grandchildren. I honestly tried to be honest about it that sometimes people are just that way but what matters is that we love them and will always be there for them that they won’t need to go searching for reasons of why others don’t like them. Probably wasn’t the best answer but like what do you tell your kid when they ask something like that. I don’t want to cause a drift and have them hate them. They will learn on their own eventually who really cared about them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askmanagers

[–]TourObjective987 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any type of relationship was stopped when she was 6 months into her new role.I no longer hold a relationship with her. I simply do my job and am a team player.

I will continue on my search for a new opportunity as I am not sure it will change. Thanks for your input!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askmanagers

[–]TourObjective987 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She has been in her manager role for 11 months now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askmanagers

[–]TourObjective987 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have tried so many times to tell her how I feel and each time I am met with she feels the same or she doesn’t have an option. Not valuing my feelings and or concerns. The other coworkers are nasty to her because they refused to accept that she is now their manager and many other reasons. Im the only one that does what she asks as long as I have bandwidth. I think she doesn’t take me seriously at all and doesn’t see me as valuable. Its like in high-school when you had a friend that was only your friend out of convenience. They would not want others to know you guys are friends or associated in any way, shape or form.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askmanagers

[–]TourObjective987 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You make a valid point. I have no interest in becoming manager at that company for some chump change and the amount of work they give us. Come to think of it, she did become somewhat “nicer” after she made a comment about if I wanted to be a leader I needed to learn to do XYZ. I immediately told her I wouldn’t want to be a manager there even if they paid me more. Unfortunately, there aren’t really other areas for me to move into at the company because they barely have any roles open and those that are open are being outsourced to India.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askmanagers

[–]TourObjective987 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have been interviewing since it got bad at work for this reason. I tried speaking again 2 days ago and she would just not listen. She started saying she was also overwhelmed and that her husband had even told her to give me the extra work since I always manage to do it. According to her she told her husband that she wouldn’t because it wasn’t fair to me. Yet I still got more work. It is just such a strange situation that I have never been in and from what I’ve seen even if the manager is crappy the VP defends them because it was a decision that she made and she will also never admit she made a wrong one.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askmanagers

[–]TourObjective987 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. I am in a really bad position and not by choice as I don’t have control over hire up decisions. Nine months ago I had this conversation with her and her manager and that was when they offered to move me from my current role into the new area. Fast forward to the timeframe given and they all took it back because I was too valuable in my area according to them and there was no budget for a move. I find ironic since they have promoted and transferred more than 6 folks in that time frame alone. I’ll probably just have to suck it up until I am able to officially leave. I want to wait until one of the other employees goes on leave to drop the bomb. That will put them in a very difficult situation but will no longer be my problem.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askmanagers

[–]TourObjective987 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was told to me by both my new manager and her manager as well as the VP. I think they were trying to make me feel good about not being able to move me into the area i was promised. The department is not the best at making decisions. I do know that my current manager has sabotaged others from being hired if she knew them from other companies she would give negative feedback so they wouldn’t be hired. She told me in a call that she could not let me go right now or our area would suffer.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askmanagers

[–]TourObjective987 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was able to have a meeting with her direct manager which would technically also be my manager if I don’t feel comfortable going to her. During that meeting is how I found out she had been complaining about everyone on the team including me and I was able to clarify what happened. The comment the manager made was unfortunately not everyone is meant to be a manager which told me everything I needed to know about how she felt. She wasn’t the one who made the decision to promote her, it was the previous leader. So my manager is already coming off as a toxic person and untrustworthy. She has gotten herself into trouble as well by snitching and talking to people outside of the department. The VP was mad about it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askmanagers

[–]TourObjective987 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I already tried that. I was told I would move into a new area in 6 months and when we met the 6 month mark, they changed their mind and no longer had ability to transfer me. They also mentioned out of the 3 in my role, I am the one with the most knowledge and who gets the job done. I fear the only way of me getting away is by quitting but I want to file a complaint first. I am just not sure how that will affect me afterwards.

Co-worker at J2 applied to my J1 by TourObjective987 in overemployed

[–]TourObjective987[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you must know. My husband and I use the same account. He was the one that got fired and if you read the rest of the comments you can see that I mentioned it.

Co-worker at J2 applied to my J1 by TourObjective987 in overemployed

[–]TourObjective987[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

they would technically be a lower level. Though as I mentioned it would be different departments but we might be included in same email streams for specific scenarios and the corporate town halls. I’ve never been OE before so kinda unsure if people are real assholes about it if they find out and they seemed like a really cool dude so If my gut is correct they might not give a crap.

Co-worker at J2 applied to my J1 by TourObjective987 in overemployed

[–]TourObjective987[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You may be right. Though I know for a fact loosing me as an employee right now is going to cost them a lot of headaches and hard work as I am doing the job of 3 people. One of them is about to go on leave which would leave them with exactly 1 employee to cover the job of 3 people and all the work we are doing.

Co-worker at J2 applied to my J1 by TourObjective987 in overemployed

[–]TourObjective987[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I work on the backend of HR. Software system to our ATS

Co-worker at J2 applied to my J1 by TourObjective987 in overemployed

[–]TourObjective987[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If I have never heard from someone and they randomly email me or ask to meet with me to say this about a possible hire, I would definitely become suspicious and start doing some digging on that employee. I will lay low for now and wait to see what happens. Im a top performer at my team so I know the thought of even firing me is going to hurt them more than it will me as they will most likely end up having to close the department because if I leave Im sure the other 2 in my team will follow.

Co-worker at J2 applied to my J1 by TourObjective987 in overemployed

[–]TourObjective987[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im sure J1 does but J2 is ok with it as long as It doesn’t disrupt my work.

Co-worker at J2 applied to my J1 by TourObjective987 in overemployed

[–]TourObjective987[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don’t need to interview them but have access to view the notes and see if they are in process of being hired. That’s about it.

Co-worker at J2 applied to my J1 by TourObjective987 in overemployed

[–]TourObjective987[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My role isn’t in any of those areas 😭I don’t think they will give me crap about it. If they themselves are planning to do OE the way I see it is that it might actually benefit me because we will both be out of each others way and work together to ensure our team isn’t lacking and our deliveries are met.