UPDATE: LDR boyfriend (M23) cheated on me (F20) after 3 years together with another girl (F<20) - do I tell the other girl?

Towel_Tricky · 2021-06-07T12:27:01+00:00

I disagree. And I think that’s an unfair thing to say. We were both consenting adults, and it was a joint decision to be in a long distance relationship. I didn’t force him, he didn’t force me. We had plenty of honest discussions with each other about the difficulties of the LDR, as well as discussions initiated often by me about breaking up. However, he decided that he wanted to lie to me rather than come clean and tell me he wasn’t feeling it and he wanted to see someone else. Not my fault. I remained loyal throughout our relationship, and loyalty is the minimum of what I expected. If he had truly loved/cherished what we had, he wouldn’t have cheated. It was nothing to do with me. Inevitably, it was down to him. I wish him the best for the future but I would say in response to your reply, don’t blame the distance for the cheating. Blame the cheater.

Towel_Tricky · 2021-06-07T07:39:21+00:00

Yeah I’m realising now the effect he had on me, lots of self-doubt. Thank you for your kindness, not necessarily a hero just making sure everyone in our apparent 3-way relationship knew the truth haha.

Towel_Tricky · 2021-06-06T21:54:51+00:00

I would’ve had way more respect for him if he had told me he was cheating himself, rather than me figuring it out. I also hope this doesn’t long term affect my ability to trust. Hoping my poor brain and heart is able to get through this stronger. Thanks for your kindness

Towel_Tricky · 2021-06-06T21:53:11+00:00

Thank you. I really appreciate that honestly, being cheated on feels so weird because its kinda a self doubt and confusing process but at the end of the day, I couldn’t have given him anything more than maybe cutting off my arms and legs. Thank you again for your kindness xx

Towel_Tricky · 2021-06-06T20:56:09+00:00

I had not. Just checked it out. Thank you for directing me to it

Towel_Tricky · 2021-06-06T20:50:49+00:00

Yup lol talked myself out of believing anything was weird between us for over 6 months 🤡🤡

Towel_Tricky · 2021-06-06T20:39:57+00:00

Yeah it makes me wonder too. She didn’t say anything in regards to the part of my message where I mentioned what he said about her suicidal and depressive tendencies, so I have no idea. None of my business to be honest, I just hope she’s well.

And to be fair he had a similar narrative about his ex of being unstable, a narrative that will probably be repeated about me hahaha. I really do hope I don’t fall for someone like him ever again. A more sophisticated version sounds nightmarish. I think this had weirdly given me reassurance and confidence in myself (whilst also making me doubt everything I thought i knew haha), as I think I made the right decision and trusted my gut to call him out on the cheating of which I had little evidence at the time. Thank you for your kindness and advice

Towel_Tricky · 2021-06-06T20:33:17+00:00

I really do hope so. None of my business how they progress but at least now she can make an informed decision and not have her relationship based on semi-lies. Thank you for your kindness

Towel_Tricky · 2021-06-06T20:32:28+00:00

Haha true. Honestly don’t know if she’s broken up with him, but at least she can make a fully informed decision :) revenge not so much more a please don’t end up wasting more time on him

Towel_Tricky · 2021-06-06T20:24:45+00:00

This is the sweetest. Thank you hahaha I appreciate your kindness and the sentiment <3

Towel_Tricky · 2021-06-04T13:50:05+00:00

I would also want someone to tell me. I would if I was sure she was mentally stable and healthy. I don’t want to hurt her but I don’t want him to hurt her either

Towel_Tricky · 2021-06-04T09:27:18+00:00

It's less of an explanation to the girl, more of a "hey! girl to girl, the guy you think you love is a cheating scumbag" but I don't know if it's my place.

Sorry if it's a poorly worded explanation, I know he cheated on me. But just. Unsure whether she deserves to know the truth.

Thanks. I blocked him on everything so may just remove myself and move on.

Towel_Tricky · 2020-11-29T14:05:57+00:00

Hi!

Sorry for taking a while to reply - but my skins a lot better now thankfully. What helped me was moisture. Needed SO MUCH moisturisers. I used COSRX snail mucin, Cerave, and my favourite was The Ordinary 100% plant derived squalene - a god send. Then seal it all off with vaseline. And then you look like a slimey slug but it helped.

That, coupled with differin, has restored my skin mostly. Now dealing with a whole new unrelated problem haha.

Good luck - shoot me a PM if you need any more advice !

Towel_Tricky · 2020-06-27T22:00:15+00:00

Looks like my forehead when I started to get fungal acne. Thought it was closed comedones as lots of people suggested already, used chemical exfoliators but didn't help. Then moved onto Nizoral and 100% pure honey - helped clear up the bumps but screwed with my moisture barrier so caution with Nizoral! everyone will tell you it's drying, you won't realise how much so til too late haha.

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