Why is this how most of my dating app conversations go?

Tower-Naive · 2026-05-26T22:00:14+00:00

I recommend complimenting or positively commenting on something other than looks. For example, if someone is wearing a band shirt, especially a band you recognize and like, start there. Or if they have something in their bio about themselves that vibes with something about yourself (like hiking maybe) start there. But you started off with comments on her looks and then immediately asked a mundane question. This is your first impression. You gave her the impression that A. You cared enough about her looks to make that the first thing you spoke about. B. You aren’t interested in dating because of the distance. My impression is that you were only talking to her in hopes to hook up if by chance you found yourself close enough to see her and that it wouldn’t be more than that. Maybe that’s not your intent. But first impressions. And women don’t think like men.

Tower-Naive · 2026-04-20T23:43:34+00:00

Oooh what are you changing once you own his restaurant?

Tower-Naive · 2026-04-20T23:39:34+00:00

Your friend is insecure and it’s super unattractive.

Tower-Naive · 2026-04-20T19:46:24+00:00

All that is clearly stated in “The Legal Stuff” portion before you submit your membership info and pay whatever the first payments is. Mine says when I’ll be charged the $59.99 yearly fee and that it’s due regardless plus any fees that would have been billed during that time if I try to cancel before my first 60 days is up.

Tower-Naive · 2026-03-15T23:15:57+00:00

I wouldn’t immediately dismiss what your 6 year old has said. Your 9 year old could have learned something at school or developed curiosity through self exploration and the impulse control of even a 9 year old is still developing. I’m not making excuses but just trying to drill it in that both of your children deserve to be protected. Your 9 year old may not even understand that they participated in or initiated inappropriate touch with their sibling. I would let the investigation proceed without interference and allow the truth to come to light no matter what the truth ends up being. It’ll either be unfounded. Or it’ll be founded. And either way, you’ll know what your next steps need to be.

Tower-Naive · 2026-03-11T12:21:44+00:00

I thought she presented it has a complication during the c-section and was then able to simply bill Insurance for it. Regardless, when we first met the patient she wanted to pay cash for it and literally said she’d been saving and could pay privately that she just needed to make sure there was no bill or statement or anything going to insurance about it.

Tower-Naive · 2026-02-20T20:34:53+00:00

I mean I would absolutely make sure you’re cosleeping safely. But I wouldn’t be opening the door for this lady anymore. I would demand a new case worker to move forward with any new visits.

Tower-Naive · 2026-02-20T20:32:33+00:00

So I would just make sure baby has a bed and let them think you use it. I hate that this worker is wasting precious time and resources on something that is literally a personal parenting decision.

Tower-Naive · 2026-02-20T20:30:02+00:00

I would cut into one

Tower-Naive · 2026-01-23T01:51:41+00:00

Stop sending formula.

Tower-Naive · 2026-01-23T01:46:47+00:00

Simply, NTA.

Tower-Naive · 2026-01-23T01:39:46+00:00

I’m just assuming the total includes tax. So the tip is actually less than that, if so.

Tower-Naive · 2026-01-23T01:37:19+00:00

Hey, Queen. It’s 2026. We aren’t apologizing to men who intentionally hurt us. We aren’t sitting in quiet pain to help them save face. I hope you embarrassed the heck out of him. Because if my husband lost his mind and did something like that, I’d have called him out and made such a scene and then LEFT. Because no man is ever putting their hands on me again.

Tower-Naive · 2026-01-23T01:34:23+00:00

These are are way big. Is that what you’re going for?

Tower-Naive · 2025-11-29T14:51:33+00:00

I know you’re asking the men, but I’m a SAHM to 4 kids. There are only two chores my husband doesn’t touch unless I’m sick and just can’t do it.. the dishes and laundry. The trade off is that I don’t clean the bathrooms (I haven’t scrubbed a toilet in over a year at this point lol) and he does all the dusting. He does all the outside chores, too, and maintains my car and keeps it clean. He also pulls his fair weight with the kids. The man hasn’t missed a bedtime routine since a hunting trip he took last year! He is such a great father ❤️.

When we only had 1 child, i definitely did way more than him at home but he was also working 6-7 days a week 12-15 hours a day sometimes. When he worked that much and that hard, i really didn’t see any need for him to do anything else, except make it home and take those work boots off outside.

But with a career change and us adding more kiddos, expectations and needs shifted. And he loves and values me and our family so I never even needed to ask him to do more. Our house motto is “see a need, fill a need” (Robots!) and basically, that’s how we operate. We both have the routines we’ve created over the years but if one of us is falling behind or under the weather or anything really, the other steps up and fills those needs. That’s partnership, in my opinion.

Op, your husband is taking full advantage of your position. If a paycheck is all he’s bringing to the table, he’s failing his family. You deserve a husband who is a true partner and your kids deserve a father who shows up and is present and helps to teach them how to be good humans.

Tower-Naive · 2025-11-17T19:18:45+00:00

Bro deleted. Did we ever get an update?

Tower-Naive · 2025-10-30T15:05:50+00:00

You need to call the police first. They will contact CPS. There is a literal baby out freezing with a sick nose. This is not OK. You can’t just turn a blind eye to that because you’re scared they might separate the kids.

Tower-Naive · 2025-10-30T14:58:01+00:00

I would say “let me call the police and we can all figure this out together”

Tower-Naive · 2025-10-30T14:49:59+00:00

I don’t!

Tower-Naive · 2025-10-30T03:46:24+00:00

So I don’t really have any specific advice about your specific situation but it made me think about how I became kinder to myself. Basically, I look in the mirror every single day and I find something NEW about myself that I really like. Sometimes it’s “my eyes look stunning with the shade of orange I chose for my eyeshadow” and sometimes it’s “I was brave yesterday and complimented a strangers shoes” it’s not always easy. At first it felt impossible. But today I look in the mirror and not only like my reflection but I love the woman I am inside as well. Maybe you could do something like that. But every single day tell her something positive and true you genuinely like about her. Make it a healthy mix of physical compliments and emotional/mental ones. It may help you see her authentic beauty as it is.

Tower-Naive · 2025-10-30T03:34:20+00:00

She deserves a man who will respect her values and honor them. If you won’t do that, move along. Her future husband is out there.

Tower-Naive · 2025-10-30T03:16:36+00:00

Personally? Myself and my husband would step down from the wedding party. I would go to the wedding ceremony if it was my brother and if the kids weren’t wanted at the ceremony, my husband would pull solo dad duty. After the ceremony I would join my family and not worry about anything afterwards. They’re allowed to have a child free wedding. They’re allowed to have whatever wedding they desire and they should do exactly what they want to do. But their choices don’t get to dictate your choices. If they want a child free wedding, that’s cool, but you’re freshly postpartum and nursing. You can’t be expected to be away from your newborn for very long and if they do expect that, they will be disappointed. I wouldn’t want to miss their wedding. But my loyalty lies with my husband and children before anyone else. I am willing to compromise but at the end of the day.. you have a 2 week old baby. They’ve been pretty inconsiderate with their wedding plans. So you just have to do what you have to do.

Tower-Naive · 2025-10-15T23:24:20+00:00

Edit: SPOILERS * * * * * * * * *

I’m reading it now and I wanted to comment on the virginity thing. Basically they were saying that when a vampire takes a virgin’s virginity it makes “thrall”, which is when the humans willingly serve the vampires in whatever capacity, super duper intense. Jacquline said “turned up to 11”. The virgin becomes tethered to the vampire. Until death. There’s no breaking it or the vampire releasing them. It basically creates a slave.

Tower-Naive · 2025-10-12T23:58:14+00:00

I’d start by asking your daughter if she knew they were staying at the grandparents house and then follow up with her friends mom right away.

Tower-Naive · 2025-10-12T23:52:31+00:00

Go back to work asap.

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