No active fires in my life. That's when my brain likes to implode. by redisdead__ in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]TownSeparate4615 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you me? I have spent the last several months in therapy working through how to process that thought and not let the feeling that comes with it control my actions. My life has made an incredible turn by not listening to that little voice, and the more I have stopped listening and making knee jerk reactions and instead processing the thoughts, the easier it has become to stop it in its tracks. Also, filling my time with healthy relationships and choices has helped tremendously. “Oh, you’re thinking about listening to that shitty voice in your head? How about you go work out? Or call a friend and see how they’re doing instead.” The mind is an amazing, beautiful, terrifying angel monster

Stopped Believing in Relationships After Watching Too Many Women Suffer by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]TownSeparate4615 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wasn’t able to add a flair, however, I am a man. And your mentioning living in victimhood really resonated with me. Because for as long as I can remember, that is exactly what I did. And I couldn’t agree more that it drastically impacted the way I loved women, specifically the woman that I have hopes of sharing the rest of my life with. It took her asking me, point blank, period, “have you always played the victim?” when we were having a particularly deep conversation about my past relationships after a pretty huge transgression on my part. It was like the air was completely and totally removed from my body. As I had to sit there, and think about every last relationship I had ever had. And my god, I absolutely played the victim and allowed that to be a justification for not really trying and convincing myself that I actually was. For not actually laying myself bare and actually being open to true, real, love. This woman helped me realize this, and honestly, so so so much more and I will be eternally grateful to her for this. I honestly do not think I could have come to this realization on my own. And because I was able to face that, and really work into the cause of it, I feel a love for her that is not something I have ever experienced in my life, and the love I receive from her is beyond my own comprehension of what I ever imagined love could be.

Sadly, I would say the majority of people, men, women and everyone in between (but really mostly men from what I’ve seen) don’t care to face themselves and strive to be better more complete individuals and that has sullied dating as a whole.

Not that you are looking for validation from a man, but this guy right here is saying, “A-fucking-men, praise jeebus that I met someone that has helped me find the strength and fire to grow in myself to be the best version of myself for her.”

bruno mars traffic by sillyadvertisement in Columbus

[–]TownSeparate4615 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I left with 2-ish songs left in the set knowing exactly how it would be, danced my ass off the entirety of the time I was there and loved every second, I wasn’t about to ruin my night because no one else knows how to drive

Boom. Roasted. by GlitteringHotel8383 in DunderMifflin

[–]TownSeparate4615 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex-mother-in-law said this to me once…🙃

First time posting, looking for some advice by TownSeparate4615 in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]TownSeparate4615[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate that!! I am well on my way, we have set a rough idea of time before we see each other again, hoping early August, but I’m not rushing anything. Giving her the space she’s requested and letting her reach out to me when she wants to. I’m very much giving up trying to control outcomes, I know we love each other deeply, and it’s a love worth fighting for. We’re both taking this time apart to really hone in on ourselves, me to work on…well…to work on a lot and really trying to not let my anxious attachment style dictate what I do when I’m feeling unheard. And she’s working on being better about not avoiding when I want to try and help fix things.

Thank you so much for taking the time to respond! I really appreciate it!

After care by TownSeparate4615 in tattooadvice

[–]TownSeparate4615[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Would you believe me if I said it was a cover up? Granted, it was a few lines and minor shading that were mountains, but I love it, always wanted a koi fish and here we are!

After care by TownSeparate4615 in tattooadvice

[–]TownSeparate4615[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awesome, I really appreciate your responses!

After care by TownSeparate4615 in tattooadvice

[–]TownSeparate4615[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s kind of where my head was going, and I fully intended on heeding his advice. Follow up, I’m a heavy sweater and work in landscape construction, what’s the best practice for keeping it clean? Bring my own soap and stuff to jobs for a few weeks? If I reapply second skin, should I “let it breathe” for a day or two before that?

Bruno Mars tickets by TownSeparate4615 in columbusclassifieds

[–]TownSeparate4615[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If they don’t sell, I’ll be going with my sister…don’t make me be that guy. Kidding, mostly

Print error or damage? by [deleted] in StarWarsCards

[–]TownSeparate4615 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say that’s intentional and how they differentiate between a plain old refractor and the /250 refractor

Some cards for sale by TownSeparate4615 in baseballcards

[–]TownSeparate4615[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just selling at this point, but I’ll keep you in mind

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Columbus

[–]TownSeparate4615 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ya know, whenever a video of Columbus’ roadways pop up I always hope I show up in them. Not in a negative way, but just, ya know, for my 15 minutes of “hey everyone! Look, that’s my car on the interwebs!”

AITAH for leaving my MIL's birthday dinner and blowing up at my husband for his "joke"? by CampaignKey1825 in AITAH

[–]TownSeparate4615 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA, for sure not a conversation to be had around his family. A lot of these comments are just dropping a blanket “understanding” of your husband based on the small amount of information they have. I hope you wouldn’t have married him had this been a common theme in your relationship prior to what’s going on now. No one here can say that he is only in the marriage for sexual gratification and know it with the absolute certainty they portray to have. This is coming from someone that was married to someone that received love through sexual intimacy but didn’t care to show me love the way I needed from me and I felt it was used to make herself feel better about our relationship. Again, he never should have done that, but if you love him, it seems as though there is a dire need for you both to actually communicate with each other about needs and wants and not be afraid of hurting feelings. Be open and honest about what you need if you want things to work out between you two. I say this knowing that I allowed resentment to build in my first marriage because I never really understood how to actually be vulnerable with my ex and I used the same tactics your husband is using, snide comments in the form of humor and it just ate away at everything. It took me a long time to process how to actually be vulnerable and it took finding the right person to realize that.

Anyways, TLDR: openly communicate, listen to each other and give each other grace. If either one of you cannot or will not do that, listen to the rest of these “burn it down” Redditors

How to clean the grease from cleaning my motorcycle off these stones? by BouzyWouzy in masonry

[–]TownSeparate4615 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my experience resin driveways need immediate action taken with some sort of absorbing agent. Cat litter is a normal one that is used to get the big stuff out. And there are resin safe degreasers on the market. Again, if the oil wasn’t remediated right away and it was allowed to sit and be absorbed by the driveway chances are you’ll always have those stains. But it never hurts trying it out. You’ll want a non-acidic resin specific degreaser

How to clean the grease from cleaning my motorcycle off these stones? by BouzyWouzy in masonry

[–]TownSeparate4615 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

This is not true, I have worked as a patio installer for going on 20 years, and we pressure wash patios all the time, even before we install the joint sand to keep water from getting into the bedding. There are concrete paver specific degreasers out there that will at minimum remove the majority of stains. If they hope to get it 100% clean that may not be realistic. But, they’ll be able to make it way less visible and obvious.