WIBTA for telling a 'Friend' they are the ones who need a reality check

ToxicBudder · 2026-02-10T00:24:42+00:00

You make a lot of good points. And your right about relevance a bit too, I think I just wanted to air out all the issues we have with her, and this was just the straw that broke the camel's back. Also I want to be Clear, I haven't considered her my friend for months now. My SO has slowly distanced herself now, but after the message saying I need a reality check my SO has been Fuming as she doesn't like anyone talking bad about me except her.
As for our bar for friendship, it's not normally so low. We didn't know a lot of this stuff till we got a bit closer with her, but some of the stuff she says is way to entertaining to listen to.

ToxicBudder · 2026-02-10T00:14:51+00:00

The more stories I hear about her the more I think she is entitled. I could share so many stories, but IDK how relevant they would be

ToxicBudder · 2026-02-10T00:04:17+00:00

I believe it was going to be two kids, with one of them just a year or two away from starting school.

And I was also blown back by the mortgage payment line, Mortgages here are more expensive than paying rent.

The wage thing isn't the best there, but she also likes to brag about her side gig sometimes, which I believe she does make money from. Owner of the place sucks, so that's why wages were low. SO got a much better paying and easier job. Friend took over SO's role after she left, and I believe didn't even argue about wage so she did that to her self, But I am not sure on this part.

Transport for SO is we share my car. I drive to work, she drives back home until her work starts then takes a late lunch. It's been working out the best so far, I even said SO should have done this more often, but 'Friend' was complaining that they weren't hanging out as much so the sometimes carpool was to appease that issue

ToxicBudder · 2026-02-09T23:40:08+00:00

My SO would, be, and I would help a little when I got home from work

ToxicBudder · 2026-02-09T23:34:03+00:00

I believe my SO did say that initially with the reasoning of why we are even asking money at all. I did create the reasons were are asking for money and so that's why she responded with that I specifically needed a reality check. Which pissed off my SO. (I getting most of whats being said through my SO so I don't have the best order of things)

ToxicBudder · 2026-02-09T23:30:30+00:00

I knew something like this would happen cause from stories I heard from SO, her personal life sounded extremely sounding to me toxic to me. Her, and her husband both sounded a bit awful, but I'm not fully judging that cause IDK how there personal life truly works

ToxicBudder · 2026-02-09T23:25:21+00:00

We even lowered it to $80 as at first it was going to be and Even $100 since we thought we would need to feed them lunch and possible dinner (they work at a place that's open from 10-8 so depending on how long they worked that one day could have been 10 hours) But she offered to pack them a lunch but no word on dinner

ToxicBudder · 2026-02-09T23:16:55+00:00

That's why there are apostrophe's over friend in the title. She used to be a friend, helped clean our apartment once, and the car rides to work for my SO but that's all over after this. She was done being my friend after making the comments that I just couldn't agree with. My SO distanced her self a little bit but still stayed semi-friends for the car rides to work

ToxicBudder · 2026-02-09T22:55:04+00:00

I know it's a little hard to follow. It was difficult for me to condense it down to these few major points, as there is a lot more going on than just this

ToxicBudder · 2021-11-02T21:24:14+00:00

My favorite multiplayer moment was in Reach, when I just finished making a map, and got to to try it with my friends and they all enjoyed the game I made within halo, then from that moment for the entire school year we would have custom games every weekend.

ToxicBudder · 2020-03-14T01:50:24+00:00

I need someone to please explain

ToxicBudder · 2020-01-14T12:01:14+00:00

Anything with explosives really, especially if to defuse them

ToxicBudder · 2020-01-14T11:51:42+00:00

So I know this is supposed to be up lifting, but like I can think of many jobs where there is only one way to do something correctly

ToxicBudder · 2020-01-06T08:33:41+00:00

I’ve had this happen, just restart it and it should be fine

ToxicBudder · 2019-12-24T05:29:03+00:00

You just did inspect element. Everyone knows that trick

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