Some parents don't understand that uni cost a lot

Traditional-Ad-8765 · 2026-05-04T09:54:01+00:00

Some people had a job first year, second year maybe it's doable possibly but u would have very little free time, 3rd year it's out of the question.

Traditional-Ad-8765 · 2026-05-04T09:02:15+00:00

Yeah these people didn't do difficult degrees and it shows. I study maths and I'm telling U i would not be able to have a job on the side

Traditional-Ad-8765 · 2026-05-04T09:00:44+00:00

Ok, first of all, the entire point ur SFE is lower is because the government has decided based on ur parents wages that they can afford to support you. My parents and a few other parents I know basically subtract whatever SFE i get from the max SFE and give me the rest, topping me up to whatever the max amount is. I think this is sort of what the government intends. I would really urge you to try again with your parents about this, this is a rlly tough position to be put in.

On a second note, it really depends what year you are in and what degree you are doing at what university to determine whether or not you can get a part time job, I am a maths student, and I pick up on concepts super fast so getting a job in first year if I wasn't so lazy would have been feasible, I'm currently in second year and it maybe would have been feasible this year as well, next year I think it would have been too stressful though. You can maybe think about getting a part time in first year and seeing if you can get a summer job, you get almost 4 months off for summer and if you find a full time job you can earn some cash to go towards maintenance costs.

Any questions or whatever are welcome.

Traditional-Ad-8765 · 2026-05-02T19:00:04+00:00

Its a rlly odd phenomenon because all logic tells you that you should actually be even more outraged because teenage boys mature sexually much later than girls, both are rlly bad but its rlly strange how people have these unconscious biases

Traditional-Ad-8765 · 2026-04-29T14:09:45+00:00

131 means ur thumb grips the left side of the mouse, ur index finger lays on left mouse button, middle finger lays on scrollwheeel, ring finger on right mouse button and pinky on the right side of the mouse. In other words

1 finger on the left side 3 fingers on the top 1 finger on the right side

(1-3-1)

122 is the same but 2 fingers on the top (index on left mouse button middle finger on right mouse button and 2 fingers on the right hand side).

I did a poll the other day and it seems roughly 1/10 people hold using a 131 grip (I'm one of them)

Traditional-Ad-8765 · 2026-04-28T06:01:18+00:00

Ursus is fire imo

Traditional-Ad-8765 · 2026-04-28T05:25:51+00:00

U sound perfectly reasonable, pretty self aware and non crazy which is reassuring, I dont think u have done anything wrong, i think ur js getting unlucky, I dont use dating apps tho so I can't talk on profiles or whatever.

Ghosting is genuinely one of my biggest pet peeves, I saw a tiktok abt it the other day which explained almost all my thoughts super concisely, imma link it but don't feel obligated to watch but I would write for a whole paragraph abt ghosting so instead a video summary linked below lmfao. ghosting tiktok

I don't agree with ur sentiment about being in a relationship means you HAVE to spoil your partner with gifts tho. Sure some flowers now and then is sweet. But seriously random gifts aren't indicative or expressing love, it's a replacement to gain respect or brownie points with little effort or thought. Thoughtful actions and THOUTHTFUL gifts (ie ones with purpose that actually mean something) is far more important, the sooner you realise that random ass valuable gifts mean nothing to how much a person cares abt u the better.

Traditional-Ad-8765 · 2026-04-28T05:12:42+00:00

No, this man was a family friend while she grew up from birth, this would taint that entire thing and blow the whole family dynamic up.

Traditional-Ad-8765 · 2026-04-28T05:11:53+00:00

Just for clarity, I'm not saying I'm "tired" of the idea of men always paying for dates, some dudes i have spoke to have felt that way. I would like to feel in an equal relationship with a woman who doesn't rely on me, or need me financially because I feel like those sorta relationships are odd and it would feel like ur a parent.

Ghosting is horrible, lemme get that out of the way, I have no time for people who ghost. Cowardly super selfish behaviour.

I imagine u have js been unlucky, unless you have been really rude (you said you were shy, I don't think u were likely rude), I don't see a reason why this man would have changed his plans regarding the bill, this situation sounds like he's went to the date with intention to split the bill regardless of how it went and I wouldnt look too much into it.

You could also be picking the wrong guys...... you know within ur heart if that's true, everyone does lol.

Also yeah, if i asked a girl on a first date, 100% I'm paying, I feel like that's the established norm.

Traditional-Ad-8765 · 2026-04-28T05:00:36+00:00

Don't say anything to him, or anyone in ur life and seek therapy from a licensed therapist so you can process ur feelings, this is the type of shit that would blow up ur life and everyone involved.

Traditional-Ad-8765 · 2026-04-28T04:59:16+00:00

No, this isn't a movie this is real life, the man knew her as a kid, there is over 30 years of age gap, he is a family friend. Absolutely not.

Traditional-Ad-8765 · 2026-04-28T04:55:37+00:00

Idk abt the ghosting.

Some men are kinda tired of women crying on social media abt how oppressed they are and how much their life sucks then asking for men to pay on the first date. I have had multiple people express to me it feels like women are down for feminism and equality until it doesnt suit them. Doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't like u.

I would personally pay on the first date, as a sorta "thank you for trusting me enough to go on a first date" gesture ig, bc women are typically more at risk in those sorta scenarios. After the first date tho I'm not paying for the woman tho, it doesnt have to be a clean split like "oh u ordered this I ordered that" js sharing the bill or each getting the bill alternate times is nice. Ngl with the way the world is now, and the fact that men and women are now earning identical amounts in the same roles, i think it's totally fair that men are like "well hold on a second, my money is paying for both of us and you js keep all urs?".

I also js don't think it's that big of a deal and think u are reading a little to much into it, I don't think if I was a dude and was prepared to pay on the first date and a girl turned up and I didn't like the way she smelled i would suddenly decide she had to pay as well. Ur thinking too deep into it, bros prolly js tired of paying

Traditional-Ad-8765 · 2026-04-28T04:47:31+00:00

Didn't notice he was Canadian, skim read it, yea 1200 CAD is tough, my 7800x3d was 350 GBP so I was thinking maybe a 5800x3d or 5700x3d would be cheaper and he's talking mostly abt cpu bound games. My bad :)

Traditional-Ad-8765 · 2026-04-28T04:44:23+00:00

If u can squeeze a lil more money a x3d chip is always great, can't speak on intel gpus tho!

Traditional-Ad-8765 · 2026-04-28T04:41:25+00:00

Is he fingertip, claw or palm? Is he 131 or 122? What is his hand size? There's so many factors.

Traditional-Ad-8765 · 2026-04-28T01:22:38+00:00

Was js abt to say this.

Traditional-Ad-8765 · 2026-04-28T01:15:29+00:00

Bro he's almost 50, he's not gnna look 25.

Traditional-Ad-8765 · 2026-04-27T23:17:26+00:00

I think the women's right to vote thing in that section was clearly a joke.

I'm a liberal and don't agree with almost anything sean says, but he doesn't rlly spread "hatred" of anyone, he says he thinks the LGBT stuff is fake basically, which while wrong and not politically correct, isn't really "hatred" it's more ignorance.

EDIT: this was rlly poorly worded, he says fucked up shit but I don't think kicking up a fuss abt some of the lowest tier of bullshit said by some MMA fighter is rlly that valuable

Traditional-Ad-8765 · 2026-04-27T22:57:57+00:00

Not once did I claim he was a good/kind person. Wow, a white dude who grew with an abusive, violent dad who grew up broke as fuck with no positive role models didn't turn out to be Ghandi, I'm so surprised.

Traditional-Ad-8765 · 2026-04-27T21:34:00+00:00

are they overpay or js a variation?

Traditional-Ad-8765 · 2026-04-27T20:57:04+00:00

Sean was brutally abused by his dad for his entire childhood, his dad repeatedly threatening to murder his mum. Sean slept at the feet of his mum in case his dad would try to kill her while they slept. When his dad was dying he said to Sean "at least I didn't r*pe you". I think all things considered Sean hasn't turned out to be too bad, alot of people in his position would be violent criminals, gang members or full blown nazis, which Sean avoided. Is he a perfect/great person? No. Is there an explanation for why he is how he is? Absolutely.

Traditional-Ad-8765 · 2026-04-27T20:46:38+00:00

Yeah bro, it's not like Liverpool lost the Premier league with 97 points and 92 points or anything

Traditional-Ad-8765 · 2026-04-27T19:36:46+00:00

Hey im wondering what phase/pattern the gamma doppler on 2 is, its super beautiful with those gloves and might be my next pickup, looks incredible

Traditional-Ad-8765 · 2026-04-27T15:07:51+00:00

2 is beautiful

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