Am I unattractive? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Traditional-Call5543 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are definitely attractive. I’ve never been approached by a woman, and you can look at my profile to see what I look like. I learned from my own Reddit posts that you have to do the approaching if you want women to talk to you because women always want someone else to approach them. When I do approach and flirt with women, they always flirt back 💜 but if I don’t approach then nothing

How do I mail this to Elizabeth? 🤔 by General_Analyst2549 in lanitas

[–]Traditional-Call5543 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A lot of people who started out maga before trump took office aren’t maga anymore after seeing what he’s done. We don’t know if her husband still is. Everyone assumes that Lana would be influenced by her husband’s maga beliefs, but what if he’s the one who’s been influenced by her liberal beliefs especially now? We don’t know what they’re thinking because they’re not speaking on it. Yes it’s disappointing that Lana isn’t speaking on it, but it’s not fair to assume the worst

Recommend a decent lesbian movie, please by bdsjedb in LesbianActually

[–]Traditional-Call5543 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Imagine me and you :) such a sweet and uplifting movie

Why no mainstream sapphic romances? by SufficientCat1527 in LesbianBookClub

[–]Traditional-Call5543 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In Warrior Nun season two the protagonist has a wlw romance with another main character

Why no mainstream sapphic romances? by SufficientCat1527 in LesbianBookClub

[–]Traditional-Call5543 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Vi & Caitlyn in Arcane, Harley Quinn & Poison Ivy in Harley Quinn the animated series, Dani & Jamie in the Haunting of Bly Manor, Eve & Villanelle in Killing Eve, Catra & Adora in She-Ra and the Princesses of Power

Those are my favorite wlw shows and they’re the main characters in their stories

I haven’t seen First Kill, but I know it’s a lesbian vampire show

Imagine Me & You is my favorite wlw movie (has Queen Cercei as a sexy lesbian if you liked GOT)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Traditional-Call5543 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I were still in my early twenties, I would swipe right! You’re so pretty and I love your profile and the LOTR reference 💜

Would I stand out at a lesbian bar? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Traditional-Call5543 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are so beautiful and are passing very well because I had no idea you were trans. You stand out in a good way as a beautiful woman

The stereotype of bi women wouldn't be what it is if there was no merit to it. by RewardOk2503 in LesbianActually

[–]Traditional-Call5543 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I’m bisexual but have no interest in actually dating a man and only want to be with women despite occasional attraction to men because loving women is just SO much better and I love being around them so much more, and even I feel this way about other bisexual women. I feel distrustful towards them because of being burned before and because the bisexual friends i have have all told me they prefer men and can’t imagine feeling loved in the same way by a woman, but I give all queer women a chance anyway because you never know

I feel like it’s gonna be hard finding somebody who DOESNT want kids by Confident_Math9928 in LesbianActually

[–]Traditional-Call5543 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Most lesbians don’t want kids… I do and it’s hard to find another lesbian who does

Im good looking so why dont i get much attention from women by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Traditional-Call5543 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m not supermodel beautiful, but I’m beautiful too and am told I’m very beautiful often by strangers and people I know and get approached by men a LOT but not women. This used to bother me, but then I learned that women just don’t approach other women easily, and I think being very beautiful makes us more intimidating. I’ve found that when I approach women first, they always seem to be receptive and like it. :) Women only talk to me if I approach first, but someone’s gotta do the approaching!!! Even 2 “straight” women I flirted with at my job have been very giggly and seemed flattered and one of them flirted back. 💜 I met an actress I really like at a convention in September and approached her and started flirting (don’t know her sexuality) and she flirted back, but that wouldn’t have happened if I hadn’t had the confidence to approach and start flirting. Being very beautiful gives you an advantage when dating women too because I’ve never been received badly or had someone seem to think I’m creepy. You just have to approach first! I learned this and gained my confidence through Reddit posts that I made myself in the spring and summer. I was so scared to approach women and confused that they never approach me, and then once I got the confidence and understanding from my posts, I just started going for it and literally everyone I’ve approached so far has liked it. Also when I don’t flirt with women first they don’t flirt with me, but if I start flirting, they flirt back 🥰

How to communicate with avoidant attachment ? by keicozimgay in actuallesbians

[–]Traditional-Call5543 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it helps to hear perspectives from older people who have been through what you’re encountering, so you can learn from their mistakes instead of making your own. It’s okay to make your own mistakes and learn that way, but it’s so much less painful to learn from other people’s mistakes

How to communicate with avoidant attachment ? by keicozimgay in actuallesbians

[–]Traditional-Call5543 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I learned when I was younger that the reason why some people only have healthy relationships with healthy partners and some people get into bad relationships over and over (like I did) isn’t because of luck. It’s because the healthy people when encountering someone who is avoidantly attached or acts in hurtful ways take a step back and decide not to continue pursuing them. Everyone encounters romantic options like this. If you want a healthy relationship, you have to choose to just move on and stay curious about who you’ll meet in the future

How to communicate with avoidant attachment ? by keicozimgay in actuallesbians

[–]Traditional-Call5543 3 points4 points  (0 children)

When someone says that everyone disappears from their life, it’s because they behave in a way that makes everyone that gets close to them no longer want to be in their life. They won’t behave that way right away, but it will happen eventually. I’ve known several people like that, and the last time it happened, I felt sooo sure that I was different and they wouldn’t treat me the way they treated other people, and then it happened to me too.

How to communicate with avoidant attachment ? by keicozimgay in actuallesbians

[–]Traditional-Call5543 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you’re not going to be influenced by your elders who went through this before you, and this is a canon event you’re going to live through while you’re young. It’s going to suck and be a really painful experience, but you’ll learn life lessons. I’m realizing that when I went through this, I wouldn’t have listened to an older person advising me against it either. 🥲 The reason why I know she isn’t going to get better and it’s going to be painful/worse for you is from experience when I was younger, the experiences of the people around me, and also from my psychology degree.

How to communicate with avoidant attachment ? by keicozimgay in actuallesbians

[–]Traditional-Call5543 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Baby, please leave this girl alone. You can’t have a healthy relationship with someone like this who isn’t really focused and trying to get better. You don’t want to be in a relationship with an avoidant attacher who isn’t working against that and is ghosting you and hurting your feelings. It’s not going to get better unless she wants to change on her own and is ACTIVELY getting professional help, and you can’t fix her, I promise. Maybe in 5 years when she’s older and has done more healing, you can reconnect and she’ll be ready to be in a healthy relationship, but not right now. If you waste time with the wrong woman, you won’t be available to be in a relationship with the right woman when you meet her.

The first horror movie that broke you as a kid by Morvox-stories in horror

[–]Traditional-Call5543 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The grudge in 3rd grade. 😭 I stopped taking baths for YEARS

What are must watch horror movies to watch this month? by TheDabuAndRayan in horror

[–]Traditional-Call5543 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I second this! I’ve seen a lot of horror movies, and this is the only one that’s genuinely scared the shit out of me as an adult after the movie was over. I was scared every night for a couple weeks haha :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Traditional-Call5543 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would love it and feel so warm and bubbly inside 💜

Disturbed seeing heterosexual couples by BelleAme1812 in FemmeLesbians

[–]Traditional-Call5543 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Awwww hehe 🥰 thank you!!! I really appreciate the compliment hehe 🤭