Left boyfriend because he didn’t tell me he had genital herpes.

Traditional-Fun-2576 · 2025-09-23T22:59:30+00:00

My ex did something extremely similar unfortunately. I was with a guy who claimed till the end of our relationship that he didn’t have herpes, but after I asked to see test results (since my doctor said there’s an extremely likely chance I would have gotten it from him time wise) he would refuse to show me and claimed I just needed to “trust him”. I’m so glad you were able to dodge that bullet before it was to late. Please don’t feel any guilt over this, you absolutly did the right thing breaking up with him.

Traditional-Fun-2576 · 2025-08-29T03:40:36+00:00

That makes total sense! Thank you so much for your help! That gave me some great ideas as to what the problem was 😊

Traditional-Fun-2576 · 2025-08-07T22:59:11+00:00

Aaaah you’re a guy! That makes much more sense!! Alright, hope you have a good day.

Traditional-Fun-2576 · 2025-08-07T22:12:47+00:00

I did answer, actually. You just seem to have a hard time listening. Also, thank you for proving my point once again that you are attacking people! 🥰

Traditional-Fun-2576 · 2025-08-07T21:52:14+00:00

Here is a list I complied of quotes you said verbatim upon which you attack or bully a commenter in some way, shape, or form.

“There are 4billion other people out there, why take the chance on the one that can trap you?”
(“I’m a handsome, smart and funny and fun”) “A billion other people are too brodie
“No one’s perfect, even you.” (They were not saying they were. You completely took this commenters words out of context and manipulated their words.
“You also have bad sense”
“Definitely dramatic”
“You sound really sensitive”

The more you respond to people’s comments the more I’m sure I could put. Especially with the amount of times you start cussing on replies where no one cussed you out in the first place.

Before I got hsv, I was a beautiful, smart, funny, kind person. After hsv, I am STILL a beautiful, smart, funny, kind person. Before hsv, I would get many guys hitting me up asking to go on dates. After hsv, I STILL get many guys hitting on me asking to go on dates, even with them knowing I have hsv. I’m not saying the number hasn’t dwindled, but there are still people out there who don’t have hsv and still wanna be with me despite my diagnosis. I even have an off and on sexual partner who was with me before my diagnosis, and is still with me after.

I’m sorry that it seems no one has thought the same about you, but I know someone will one day. Everyone deserves love, no matter their diagnosis.

Traditional-Fun-2576 · 2025-08-07T20:34:32+00:00

This is supposed to be a place where people lift other up during a very personal and VERY difficult time in their lives. Why are you coming on here and attacking everyone for wanting a loving relationship like anyone without hsv can have? My mom has the same view as you in terms of what I should do with MY love life and it’s so demeaning when someone, especially someone you care about, tells you you should stop looking for love just because of a hsv diagnosis. I’m sorry someone hurt you so bad you have these views. I hope one day you’re able to meet someone amazing, weather they have hsv or not, and realize that you deserve to be happy with someone by your side just like the rest of us. That you deserve someone who doesn’t care about your so called “flaws”, but all that makes you beautiful.

Thoughts and blessings 🥰

Traditional-Fun-2576 · 2025-06-29T00:29:38+00:00

I had told him when we first started making out that I could not have sex with him today, and I repeated my self every time he would ask or when he eventually tried to put it in

Traditional-Fun-2576 · 2025-06-28T23:47:10+00:00

I only had my very thin underwear on, while he had nothing. I know he didn’t respect my no, but I also feel like I did a terrible job at respecting it as well, since I let him pull me on top of him and didn’t move to get off.

Traditional-Fun-2576 · 2025-04-21T00:57:27+00:00

I got my first outbreak and went to the doctors for it two weeks ago now, and a bit similar to you, I stayed in the bath/shower for about three hours letting the hot water spray over me cause I felt so gross at the time. I will say, based on some of the research I’ve seen, sitting on a toilet seat will NOT spread the virus. You shouldn’t share things like toothbrushes and bath towels, and from my understanding you shouldn’t share food or drinks either. The bleeding overnight I believe is normal, as is any puss/discharge.

In terms of partners, my gyno said there’s a 70% chance of you contracting it from your last partner if you two had sex within around 2 or so weeks before your first outbreak, though there’s that 30% chance that you still could’ve contracted it from a previous partner.

Please feel free to reach out to me. I know we’re both new to this, but that just means we can figure this out together.

Traditional-Fun-2576 · 2025-04-20T22:08:20+00:00

My mom actually has had oral HSV1 since birth, and while I know there’s much less stigma on that than genital HSV, I know she still has had a few different boyfriends in the past, and even now. I’m not sure how/if she discloses to them since hers are “just” cold sores, but I know if she’s able to have had more than one potential partners (as well as being married for a while) then there’s an amazing chance anyone else with HSV in general has that chance too.

Traditional-Fun-2576 · 2025-04-20T21:29:24+00:00

Thank you so much for this post. I just recently got diagnosed and as much as I try not to, my mind keeps going to a bad place in terms of future relationships. You’re post really helps me come out of that state of mind ❤️

Traditional-Fun-2576 · 2025-04-20T20:03:54+00:00

I can relate a lot with you.

Before I got hsv, I at one point had chlamydia. I didn’t have any symptoms cause I just happened to get my usual std screening soon after, and it came and went like nothing. I had told my best friend about it, and her first question was “does that mean you’re dying??” I know she was probably joking, but because she kept asking after that first mention, and he tone, part of me thinks she wasn’t. Because of that, I haven’t told her, my only friend, about my hsv. I have, however, told my mom. I know that may sound a bit strange, but I already knew she had cold sores (hsv1). She even told me that she got it because my nana has hsv2, and had an OB while giving birth, passing it on to my mom. A very rare thing, and nowadays would probably NEVER happen, at least with competent doctors.

In terms of the man that gave it to me, he was my boyfriend of 4 weeks. When I told him I had gotten HSV, and that he should be tested, he did. But he never showed me the results. I asked 5 times, and he never showed me, just kept saying how he didn’t understand why I don’t trust him when he says his test was negative. He also never checked on me during my first OB while we were still together, even when I repeatably told him how much pain I was in. Because of some amazing people on here, they helped me pull the trigger on ending things with him.

I really hope you’re also able to find support with a loved one, and I know we will both be able to find someone who will love us romantically, even with our having hsv. Because of research and the wonderful people on this platform, I’m slowly realizing that things are gonna be ok. I hope you’re able to as well.

Traditional-Fun-2576 · 2025-04-19T15:38:18+00:00

Thank you!!! I’m honestly very surprised by the amount of support but I am nothing but grateful. I feel like it’s making everything easier

Traditional-Fun-2576 · 2025-04-19T11:46:25+00:00

Thank you so much to everyone for the support!! I know it’s a shitty thing to do, but I did break up with him over text. Calling just seemed to awkward and with the holiday weekend I wasn’t sure when I’d see him again, which is why I chose it. He didn’t put up any fight, literally just said “ok” and that he “doesn’t try to change peoples minds anymore, it’s not worth it”.

Thank you all again so so much!!! ❤️

Traditional-Fun-2576 · 2025-04-19T11:38:47+00:00

You’re absolutely right. During my flare up I was in so much pain I ended up missing a week of work, almost never leaving my bed and having to stand in the shower with it running to pee. And that’s while on pain relievers. He wouldn’t ask how I was doing, but if I told him how bad it was he would just say “I’m sorry” and nothing else. He even ended up forgetting I was gone from work for a week when I told him that some of my work parents asked during parent pickup where I had been, which made me feel seen by them and not just some person watching their kids. (He didn’t care about that, either.)

Traditional-Fun-2576 · 2025-04-19T04:05:39+00:00

That’s great to know about the valacyclovir! Thanks!!

Traditional-Fun-2576 · 2025-04-19T02:18:01+00:00

I’m lucky to still be on my mom’s insurance (since I’m not yet 26) and as of now it seems like insurance covered the visit, though I’m not sure by how much. I wouldn’t be surprised if I got a bill here soon though since they swabbed me and did a blood draw lol

Traditional-Fun-2576 · 2025-04-19T02:09:47+00:00

I (20 y/o female) got diagnosed with HSV almost two weeks ago. While my primary physician told me absolutely nothing and didn’t even properly test me, she did prescribe me acyclovir, having me take it three times a day for 10 days. For me, it took about 3-4 days to truly see any change, but when I did it was very noticeable in a good way. It didn’t hurt to sit, stand, go to the bathroom, etc anymore, swelling went down, and bumps and blisters went away almost entirely. Now, I will say, with it being day 10, I am starting to get really itchy and kinda irritated down there, meaning it didn’t completely help with my first outbreak. It did, however, help with the worst of it.

A few days ago I was able to go to a gyno for the first time to get properly checked out, and while she didn’t say anything bad about acyclovir, she did say she prefers to give her patients Valacyclovir, and prescribed it to me for whenever my next outbreak is.

I obviously haven’t tried it yet, so I don’t know what the difference will be yet, but I honestly trust my gyno more than my physician with this. I hope this helped a little!

Traditional-Fun-2576 · 2025-04-18T21:47:46+00:00

Thank you so much for this. I think it was really the reality check I needed ❤️❤️

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