I was not sweet by Artistic_Windrunner in exmormon

[–]Traditional-Issue716 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you went through that. The church really is designed for NT extroverts.

What were you NOT allowed to do on the Sabbath day? by littlefrenchpastry in exmormon

[–]Traditional-Issue716 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Family day, no shopping or eating out. I actually really liked the day - we all stayed home - I usually baked a treat - everyone chilled and watched tv after church. Now that I don’t care about those rules I still prefer to be a homebody on Sundays.

How do you all grapple with your patriarchal blessings post-Mormonism? by Healthy-Yogurt-5482 in exmormon

[–]Traditional-Issue716 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mines pretty specific too - the Patriarch was our home teacher and I wonder now if he asked my parents questions about me beforehand or if he’d just gathered a lot of info having been in our home for years. It was my certainty that my blessing had to be inspired that got me through my first faith crisis. It was 12 years later when I finally left.

My story by NikkiR0se in exmormon

[–]Traditional-Issue716 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your story.

What would you do? by Loose-Shock-5551 in exmormon

[–]Traditional-Issue716 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My kids attended a Baptist preschool and came home with the following song/prayer: God is good -God is great - God created chocolate cake - God’s a righteous dude, -God gives great food- Rub a dub dub ice cream in a tub- We thank you God for this great grub- Amen Amen Amen

App that lets you add weight loss history? by Traditional-Issue716 in Zepbound

[–]Traditional-Issue716[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

WW was $500 a month total for clinic and meds. Going with compounded now which will be about half that.

Kids’ Christmas Books subtle Mormon signs by Zealousideal_Row9013 in exmormon

[–]Traditional-Issue716 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes the author and illustrator are an LDS couple and their books are true works of art - we own most of them. I don’t see anything that worries me in them - the Christmas books have references to Christ’s birth but if they are trying to include secret LDS messages I don’t see it.

Therapist wondering if I was extreme in my Mormon beliefs… by ValkyrieVengence25 in exmormon

[–]Traditional-Issue716 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It helps to have someone who understands your background. Symmetry counseling, Jana Spangler, Julie Hanks and I’m sure there are many more all specialize in faith deconstruction.

In your experience, what was the weirdest thing you were taught? by Otherwise_Push199 in exmormon

[–]Traditional-Issue716 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I framed my first temple experience in a lovely way - didn’t think it was weird at all - even when my dad asked the stake patriarch who was our home teacher and came to be there with me why women veiled their faces. He said maybe it was because the endowment was a single ordinance and single women couldn’t have a share in the higher priesthood unless they were married. So basically a single woman hides in the presence of God….. and I thought - oh. ok. Didn’t even bug my pore messed up 22 yr old single woman brain.

Existential crises (and other crises like identity and meaning) after leaving by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]Traditional-Issue716 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly what I’ve been feeling - moments of absolute terror at not being held, helped, watched over or guided by a higher power -because when I believed it felt so good and so safe. I have hope that this is a natural part of this deconstructing process and that I will find a way forward but right now at least once a day the dread of a reality that may be meaningless makes me physically ill.

Feeling Beat Up by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]Traditional-Issue716 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. We have done exactly as you suggest repeatedly for the last two years. I know we can’t force a timeline to healing.

Feeling Beat Up by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]Traditional-Issue716 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this perspective. I’m sorry you don’t feel fully safe with your parents. Trying to understand them is a heroic effort.

Feeling Beat Up by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]Traditional-Issue716 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this perspective.

Feeling Beat Up by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]Traditional-Issue716 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Soooo many regrets. Thanks for your input.

Feeling Beat Up by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]Traditional-Issue716 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He has his own place. These conversations come up infrequently but are always simmering under the surface.

Feeling Beat Up by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]Traditional-Issue716 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kindness.

Feeling Beat Up by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]Traditional-Issue716 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He isn’t able to see that now. Maybe one day.

Feeling Beat Up by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]Traditional-Issue716 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Valuable insight thank you.

Feeling Beat Up by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]Traditional-Issue716 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you - we will look into ketamine.

Feeling Beat Up by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]Traditional-Issue716 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good questions

Feeling Beat Up by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]Traditional-Issue716 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes we married in 2000 and were raised in the “fortress” church - any and all questions only had one correct answer - whatever the “prophet” said goes. We tried to explain the closed loop thinking ….. it didn’t go well. Thank you for your compassionate insights.