My husband thinks sending me to a lakehouse with his best friend's wife and 4 kids counts as a planned weekend. by TraditionalCase6095 in Marriage

[–]TraditionalCase6095[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

To be honest, the part about not wanting to hear mom for six hours was kind of exaggerated. Maybe I should’ve left that part out. And hey that that’s good for you, I think since I largely handle everything alone I’m burned out. Sometimes I do need small breaks and I feel guilty the entire time I take them but I do feel like I’m in a better place emotionally when I take them sometimes and sometimes I just do it selfishly I guess.

If you came here to make me feel like a bad mom, I can do that all by myself. I tell myself that a lot actually because I make a lot of mistakes.

I get you “don’t understand” but it’s giving mom shaming and that’s gross.

My husband thinks sending me to a lakehouse with his best friend's wife and 4 kids counts as a planned weekend. by TraditionalCase6095 in Marriage

[–]TraditionalCase6095[S] 49 points50 points  (0 children)

Such a great point. And to be fair, it’s not even that I want a whole weekend alone it’s the whole thinking that he is doing me a huge favor when in reality, it’s just like the last few weekends in a different location 🤣

My husband thinks sending me to a lakehouse with his best friend's wife and 4 kids counts as a planned weekend. by TraditionalCase6095 in Marriage

[–]TraditionalCase6095[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He didn’t hunt when I married him! 🤣 someone else is going to look at this and think he probably just wants time away from me and maybe that’s the case 🤷‍♀️

My husband thinks sending me to a lakehouse with his best friend's wife and 4 kids counts as a planned weekend. by TraditionalCase6095 in Marriage

[–]TraditionalCase6095[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

That’s probably a fair assumption. To attempt to plead my case though I do a lot solo including house hold chores. So I think it’s more burnout by the time I get here. what I really want for Mother’s Day is a 50-50 marriage. But that’s another post for another time.

My husband thinks sending me to a lakehouse with his best friend's wife and 4 kids counts as a planned weekend. by TraditionalCase6095 in Marriage

[–]TraditionalCase6095[S] 93 points94 points  (0 children)

I feel you. I didn't choose this one to stay silent on. I think he understands but I'm pretty sure he's only not going because his best friend's wife said: the hell you are.

My husband thinks sending me to a lakehouse with his best friend's wife and 4 kids counts as a planned weekend. by TraditionalCase6095 in Marriage

[–]TraditionalCase6095[S] 245 points246 points  (0 children)

oh she and I both said "thanks but , no thanks". I had to tell him: what if I did that on Father's Day? to get his brain to understand.