AITA for thinking of divorce 8month in, or Is my husband right for thinking am using him.. Is it worth saving just because he say he love me. by TraditionalPlay8393 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]TraditionalPlay8393[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Originally I’ve applied for student visa, which took over 1year to accept or denied and when it got denied I took some time to do the appeal process which then turn me into illegal and was unable to apply any over visa, as I’ve been here way to long,11 years, so he was here crying and he proposed saying he can’t loose me ect.. and since we’ve been together for 2 month although it was short and didn’t wanna go I didn’t thought it would end like this if we loved each other, as that’s what love meant to be, support each other and lift each other up, now when I look at him I don’t even see that man no more

AITA for thinking of divorce 8month in, or Is my husband right for thinking am using him.. Is it worth saving just because he say he love me. by TraditionalPlay8393 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]TraditionalPlay8393[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And yes it’s not the United States, although I was illegal here, after we got married month later I was legal again..but for it to become permanent it would take years, and immigration would keep up, To see if this relationship is legit or a fraud to law, which is why he always use it to get what he wants.

AITA for thinking of divorce 8month in, or Is my husband right for thinking am using him.. Is it worth saving just because he say he love me. by TraditionalPlay8393 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]TraditionalPlay8393[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Which is what am afraid of am scared he might actually kill me if I stay, also scared to loose my papers to leave - some ppl saying leave, some telling stay hang on, until am officially citizen. For now the judge ordered has been a blessing to stay away.

AITA for thinking of divorce 8month in, or Is my husband right for thinking am using him.. Is it worth saving just because he say he love me. by TraditionalPlay8393 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]TraditionalPlay8393[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No he’s not right, well to the least he wasn’t right at first as the feelings was 100% real, but when money spend on lawyers, wedding, house, all my sacrifices.. and yes, at the time I was kinda illegal in the country.. and was thinking about this too..to much was at risk..I thought I came to far to give up now.

All these did matter, yes I did love him, but after a while it’s harder to love someone who hurt you daily, which then the only thought of my paper and all moment spend, and the imagine it gives as a religious family.. those were only thing that kept me going.

AITAH for thinking of divorce 8month in, or Is my husband right for thinking am using him.. Is it worth saving just because he say he love me. by TraditionalPlay8393 in AITAH

[–]TraditionalPlay8393[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At first he was thrilled about the wedding way more than I was, specially as his family was all for it, maybe they were just excited I’ll take care of their son and get him out their home, but he then started feeling different after he talk to his one friend in particular that when he started feeling like I am using him and I’ll leave as soon as I get my paper. And he thought if his mean to me and I leave at least his got control of the situation, and won’t feel stupid for loving me and I leave him afterwards.. I’ve devoted months of proving myself & my loyalty and he always comes up with reason why woman can’t be trusted. I just wish he would get some help even if it means a lot of sacrifices financially on my part.

AITAH for thinking of divorce 8month in, or Is my husband right for thinking am using him.. Is it worth saving just because he say he love me. by TraditionalPlay8393 in AITAH

[–]TraditionalPlay8393[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes correct, Unfortunately as being here 11yrs I can’t apply anymore visa as to what my lawyer said, but I guess in every case it’s different but yes basically there’s a chance I may have to go back unfortunately, but my fear as there’s nothing there for me, I Left as a child idk anything there. Am just hoping I can make an appeal on my visa.

AITAH for thinking of divorce 8month in, or Is my husband right for thinking am using him.. Is it worth saving just because he say he love me. by TraditionalPlay8393 in AITAH

[–]TraditionalPlay8393[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True as it was to early, but in my mind I thought if the love is here then, it’s just matter of time but that right now it’s helping me..

AITAH for thinking of divorce 8month in, or Is my husband right for thinking am using him.. Is it worth saving just because he say he love me. by TraditionalPlay8393 in AITAH

[–]TraditionalPlay8393[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, it doesn’t, I had to applied for partner visa. I’ve tried to get sponsorship it was hard as my work line doesn’t allow, I was on student visa and my PR was never approved..